Post # 17
A few weeks ago at my shower, someone got us this creepy figurine of a bride and groom. We returned it, but if it wasn’t returnable, I would chuck it. I really hate human figures without eyes, and it was so old fashioned. I get annoyed if someone gifts me something I didn’t want. I have a registry for a reason.
Post # 18
I think that if you’re giving an off-registry gift it has to be something super thoughtful, and you must know the couple and what they like. Engraved champagne flutes for a couple that shares a tiny apartment is not a thoughtful gift, it’s a super common default wedding gift. I wouldn’t be surprised if they gifted everyone the same engraved flutes.
If you keep them in a closet where you can’t see them, what’s the difference with throwing them in the trash other than the fact that they take up space? I doubt you’ll find yourself in 20 years missing the engraved flutes. Don’t feel guilty.
Post # 19
@This Time Round: I’m with you.
I vote you keep them and use them only on special occasions, like an anniversary. If it had clearly been a regift (like they had someone else initials or names on them) then I’d donate them. Or if it had been something large that you really don’t have space for (like a giant metal rooster or picture of a rooster), I’d understand pitching that too. But clearly someone put a lot of time and effort and probably money to get those for you and I think it’s sad that you’d want to throw them away. They might not be your style, but so what? You keep them because of the sentiment behind them, not because they match the rest of your stuff…
Post # 20
Also, I don’t believe in the “lot of time an effort” argument. It takes 120 seconds to order something online, whether it’s from the registry or off registry.
Post # 21
I thought it’d be fun to have a gift swap… get a bunch of brides in the community together with their gifts they don’t want/can’t return and have swap. Bring wine (lots of it!). And have a great party. Given the right circumstances it might be fun.
Post # 22
@bebero: I’m with you.
I live in a small apartment. We don’t have enough room for the stuff we actaully use regularly. If someone gave me a set of glasses that I would never use I would donate them. That doesn’t mean I don’t appreciate the thought, that I won’t send a thank you card, or that some how this means that I won’t remember the person.
Also the more snippy side of me thinks that if this person really put so much thought into their gift maybe they would have gotten something that isn’t completely generic. Champagne flutes are such a cliche wedding gift, if you’re going that way at least get something that is actually the couples style. Unless you don’t know them well enough to know their style, and then this whole case of keeping them for the sentiment is a moot point. But that’s just my rude opinion.
Post # 23
Thanks, everyone! I definitely appreciate the thought and I wrote a nice thank you card, I want to be gracious. It was kind of inside joke because she loves to eat toast, but we already have beautiful champagne glasses and I’m sure I’ll think of her when I’m actually eating toast or using our own glasses. I just have a personal rule that I only fill my home with things that are beautiful or useful and maybe that’s because my mom is super sentimental and her house makes me uncomfortable because it’s filled with clutter. There were other things that were given off the registry that I like and other things that I probably won’t use and will end up taking to Goodwill, but that’s just the risk you take when going off the registry.
Post # 24
I’d stick them in a corner somewhere and see if you end up with a china cabinet or something in the future!
Post # 25