what do you do with old photos of ex’s

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
3162 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Personally I got rid of all mine. Of course, none of the relationships ended well.. I only kept one picture, which was taken in Paris on the banks of the Seine with the Notre Dame Cathedral in the background. I would have chucked that one too except I look really hot in it 🙂  If I was a Photoshop whiz he’d be so out of that picture!

Post # 4
450 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Oh wow. I say trash them, an don’t look back! They’re in your past!

Post # 5
652 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

when i clean through my stuff and find old mementos, without a second thought i just shread it and toss it in the trash

Post # 6
1023 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I would keep the diaries and some of the photos if they were say from the holidays with other family members, but I would get rid of the "compromising photos". I don’t believe in the oft-practiced all my  ex’s were insane and I don’t even want to remember so I’ll get rid of anything associated with them game that many people play for no reason, but I would ask yourself why do you want to hang onto the photos?

Post # 7
3331 posts
Sugar bee

I didn’t have THAT much left over, but I think I got rid of a few photos.  I kind of felt like they didn’t mean that much to me so I figured it was no big deal if I got rid of them.  I’m also not a real "stuff" kind of person, so I don’t keep many mementos or photos.  I think it would be fine to keep them if you wanted to–no harm in that.

Post # 8
1048 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall

Shred them. Trust me. Do it. If you don’t have a shredder, burn them.

Do you get happiness from looking at them? When i stumble across reminders of the past, I just feel sad/weird. Just get rid of them.

It took me a long time to be ready to do this, but I did it. I even went through my old albums and took out all the pictures of me with exes, and shredded those. I deleted the digital ones too. All I have left is one DVD of unedited wedding pictures from ‘the one that didn’t last,’ and I only still have that ’cause I’m lazy and haven’t gotten rid of it. The less reminders you have of past relationships, the more you can focus on the future.

And you don’t want your some-day kids looking through your albums and saying "who’s that mommy?" or "why are you kissing that guy who isn’t daddy?" So definitely get rid of those old pictures, ESPECIALLY the compromising ones.

I don’tk now what my mom did with her old pics of me and the ex… but I know what my grandma does (with anyone who becomes an ex): she cuts the HEAD of the person out of the photo so she can still keep the memory of the event. funny eh? haha.

Post # 10
484 posts
Helper bee

I haven’t done it yet but I have albums full of photos and boxes of letters/momentos. I plan on getting rid of the momentos (I dont need old love letters) but will probably keep some of the pics. I plan on pairing down my albums anyway. I have about 7 from high school alone. Good grief, I need to plan a weekend to clean out my old room at my parents house.

Post # 11
2030 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I’m sentimental and keep lots of mementos, but after I got engaged I tossed them all one afternoon. They just didn’t mean anything to me anymore. It was easy to toss them out and I haven’t regretted it.

Post # 13
6009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I’m not sure how "compromising" some of them are; I would get rid of anything I didn’t want my parents/future children to see.  For all the rest of the photos and mementos, though, personally, I kept mine.  My husband and I were just going through these last weekend, and he told me I should keep them and scrapbook them.  So now they are with the rest of my bazillion photos in a big box I plan on someday putting into scrapbooks.  🙂 

Post # 14
960 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Hmm good question. A lot of pics are from high school dances and such, and I really don’t want to get rid of those. I think old pictures tell your story. If the scenarios that are documented in those photos hadn’t happened, you wouldn’t be the person you are today. I’ve never been a shredder or a burner, and I don’t see myself ever being one. I love looking back on old photos, even one’s with ex’s, and seeing how far I’ve come. I actually would love to go through old pictures with my future children and tell them my story, ex-boyfriends and all.

Post # 15
756 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

The only ex with whom I had a significant, long-term relationship is someone with whom I’m still on great terms. Also, I’m no longer attracted to him, not even the tiniest bit. As we were prior to having a relationship, we are back to being friends.  Our relationship ended in a rough way, but we are adults and we got over it. My Fiance is aware of all this, and is also aware that he means 100 times more to me than my ex ever did.

I have a lot of happy memories in pics from that relationship (but again, zero feelings for him anymore), and I see no reason why I should throw those memories away.  Just because I’m engaged doesn’t mean that the happy memories I have from other relationships don’t exist.

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