Post # 1
I’m getting a little frustrated. Our rsvp deadline has passed, and too many response cards have rolled in with people adding their uninvited guest to their card. What?! Since when can you bring a date if your invitation was addressed to JUST you?! Like 6 people are bringing dates that weren’t originally supposed to. Its so annoying! Or am I overreacting?
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch
It depends… can you accomodate them? If you can, I’d probably let it go and just not invite those people to future events. 😉 If not, or if you really, really don’t want to, you should call them and tell them you just don’t have the space to allow uninvited guests (and be prepared for them to rescind their RSVP). It’s such a dumb situation to have to be in.. you would think people would know better than to bring a guest that isn’t invited!!
Post # 4
I know that when we got RSVPs, people really thought that it was just understood that everyone was invited with a guest. It’s perfectly fine to call them and (politely) say that you aren’t able to accommodate extra guests, but that you’d love to meet (guest) at another time.
On the other hand, if you invited people who were engaged or married without a guest, then it was you who committed the faux pas.
Post # 5
I really have never heard of that happening until I became engaged … and consequently, obsessed with WeddingBee!
I have always known and thought everyone else knew that all who are invited are on the envelope … if the bride and groom are allowing a guest, it would say and guest on the invite.
Post # 6
I would phone them and tell them the invite was just for one. Or have your parents do it. Depending on who’s guest it is. If they kick up a fuss, I would just say there’s no room and you already had to pare down the guest list as is. Good luck!
Post # 7
hi! new to the forum but your issue is something that i myself am concerned about! and no, i don’t think you are overreacting. i agree that there is nothing wrong with calling them and letting them know there is no space for their +1. as annoying as that is to do, that’s what i plan on doing!
Post # 8
In order for us to accommodate all of our college friends, we only allowed those who were married/engaged/living together to bring a date.
Most "singles" caught on (it was also a topic we brought up casually throughout the wedding planning). However, there were still a few who edited their RSVP to say +1. Eventually, we had to contact them and let them know the situation.
We didn’t receive any negative feedback…guests were actually very understanding, after we explained our situation!