i so agree with you.
i know alot of people say that a bridesmaid only needs to show up.i disagree.
when you ask someone to be a bridesmaid you are asking them to be part of your wedding,which includes things such as asking the bride if they need help with anything.if there is going to be any partys before the wedding like bridal shower,the bridesmaid should help in anyway she can,whatever help she is able to offer,it doesnt have to be about money,they can help in other ways.
i dont think they need to do everything the bride wants them to or everything she may ask,or drop everything for her,but there are only a few things that a bridesmaid should be apart of,like dress shopping if the bride needs them,help with a diy project the bride may need help with and help with any partys before the wedding.
they dont need to help with money if they cant,but they should be a support for the bride and apart of a few things before the wedding.it really isnt to much to ask.
thats just my thoughts on it,and no one else here has to agree.if i was asked to be a bridesmaid i would feel horrible if i didnt offer support or help in anyway,i might not be able to do much or give much,but i would do what i could,when i could.
i have had only one bridesmaid offer help,and im so glad she did because i was so clueless on anything wedding related,i dont know what i would do without her.with that said,i dont ask her for anything,she ask me what i need when she has time and can help.and i will always be greatful,and i will always be there for her if she needs me.
i will say life kicks us in our butts at times and can knock us on our knees,and if any of my bridal party is going through a hard time that was not foreseen before i ask them to be in the wedding,i would not exspect anything and i would be the one asking what i could do for them.
i asked everyone before hand to think about if they want to be apart of our bridal party,i let them know they would be responsible for their wedding attire and how much it will be.so i think before a bride ask for a yes or no answer from the girls she ask to be bridesmaids,she should let them know what she exspects of them so the girls can think if they can handle being a bridesmaid.
geez,years ago bridesmaids jumped at the chancce to be in their friends wedding if they wanted and were excited to help be apart of the planning process with the bride.i know times changed and life is tuff,but dont accept the part if your not gonna offer a thing other then show up