(Closed) What do you gift Bridesmaids that didn’t do anything?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
689 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Thats more than enough imo.

Post # 4
1526 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Have any of them helped with anything?  Maybe get something extra for those who have been there to help you with projects or simply emotional support.  If none of them have been helpful, then I think the earrings are fine.  Although, I think maybe a personalized letter or thank you note would be nice too!

Post # 5
14495 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: Are you wanting them to wear those at the wedding?  If you are then I would also do something personal, maybe and inexpensive journal or something and a nice note from you written in it.  If you are not asking them to wear them in the wedding, then are those all of the girls style?  For me, I would never wear those, completely not my style.

Post # 6
11391 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I don’t understand how people say “You shouldn’t expect your bridesmaids to do anything for you.” But then say “You are expected to give them a gift either way.” 

Its enough, In My Humble Opinion. 🙂

I didn’t “gift” my bridesmaid or Maid/Matron of Honor with anything like that. I did however do their hair for them & bought my Maid/Matron of Honor her dress. I also offered to buy my BM’s dress but she declined it. I would be more than happy with the earrings your giving!

EDIT: I second the thank you card or letter. If they haven’t helped with anything wedding related just say “Thank you for your support on our big day.” Or something along those lines.


Post # 7
19 posts
  • Wedding: January 2012

No I think that’s fine.  If there are one or two that have helped out more than the others then you could get them something extra and give it to them at a different time, but it sounds like all they are doing is getting a dress and showing up, so earrings are good enough in my opinion!

Post # 9
1577 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Umm, no, I wouldn’t give them anything else.  The earrings & letter are plenty– probably too much– for BMs who haven’t done anything for you.

Post # 10
1962 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

If you are concerned that there is a possibility some of them won’t show up then the earrings should be enough. If you decide to be a little more gracious and gift them then you could, but under those circumstances you don’t have to. 

If you want to do something extra why not just throw together some bridesmaid survival kits for the day of? It’s cheap, easy, and practical. Laughing

Post # 11
468 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

My bridesmaids did nothing but attend the rehearsal and the wedding & each event was no more than 20 minutes from their homes. I gifted them each a wrap to wear with their dresses, their jewelry for the day and a brooch as a keepsake. I think earrings are more than enough though. I gave them all of the items I wanted worn with their dresses so that their dresses were their only expenses. we got married around the holidays & I knew money was tight.

Post # 12
8353 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2011

What you are giving them will, I am sure, be very much appreciated; however, even if they “didn’t do anything” for you for your wedding, haven’t they been really good friends? Isn’t that why you chose them? If you feel the need to give something addtional, then you should, but I would make it something that is personal to each one.

Post # 13
470 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think earrings are enough!  Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts can be such a pain…I paid for the girls hair but I was ridden with guilt over that shit so I bought them the necklaces for the wedding and little gift sets from Lush.  Mind you we all went jewelry shopping together and went to some Claires equivalent in the mall but they didn’t seem to mind,

Post # 14
7695 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: I think its fine. My BMs threw me a bachelorette and bridal shower, but they acted like everything that they had to do was a chore and were annoyed by it. They also caused a lot of drama and made me cry on several occasions. It even continued after the wedding. I didnt get them anything expensive. I gave each of them a bridesmaids survival kit, a tote bag from Old Navy, Old navy flip flops in their favorite color and a little shot glass. They liked it and appreciated it and Im sure your BMs will appreciate what you got them too!

Post # 15
37 posts
  • Wedding: September 2011

Are these girls close friends of yours?

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