Post # 1
I was catching up on the latest episode of House today and it brought up an interesting relationship concern. House was worried that he didn’t have enough in common with his new girlfriend and that would eventually cause her to break up with him.
This got me thinking, I don’t have very much in common with my SO. He likes weight lifting, loud/screamy metal music/country music, the medical field and all forms of cop dramas. I on the other hand love to read (historical fiction), cooking, travel/culture. listen to the radio and hate working out. We have very little in common, except we are both in the helping professions, enjoy eating (totally different foods, but we do love a good meal) and have a similar history.
Do you have a lot in common with your SO? Does that make you feel more secure or nervous about your future together?
Post # 3
We have enough in common that we’re never bored–we like video games, cooking, some of the same kinds of music, the same kinds of movies and TV shows–but we differ in more ways. I think what keeps our relationship strong is our ability to be silly together and talk about ANYTHING. Good conversation never gets old!
Post # 4
I don’t have a lot in common with my husband either. We do like playing video games and watching Law & Order SVU together sometimes. We also love to travel, just don’t have a lot of time and money to do it. I am trying to work on getting us out and hiking together which is a struggle for me!
Post # 5
We started out thinking we only had a few things in common when we started dating and now I almost want to vote the twins option above! It’s weird, but our similarities have grown over time. Even if we don’t have something in common now, we can appreciate the other person’s passion for it and we get enjoyment out of simply sharing each other’s life interests together. Cheesy, I know!
Post # 6
We have the exact same personality and the same sense of humor. Other people won’t get our sarcasm or jokes but we think we’re hysterical!
We don’t really have the same hobbies mainly because I’m into musical theatre and shopping and he’s into coding iPhone apps but we can both respect each others passions. We like all the same TV shows so we never fight over the remote. We are best described as the male/female version of each other by pretty much everyone we know.
Post # 7
We both work in the same industry (so we totally “get” each other’s career issues), and are from the same kind of family/socio economic background, and are the same astrological sign. We have 3 out of 4 Myers Briggs personality test letters in common. But we have mostly different interests and hobbies and tv watching preferences. He has typical “guy” interests (sports, kung fu movies,etc) that I could care less about and vice versa.
I think it’s more important to understand where the other is coming from and share certain values and life philosophies than it is to like the same shows or music or whatever.
Post # 8
We have a lot of big stuff in common. Our personalities are very similar, we’re both active Christians, we’re private and don’t trust the government (lol), we’re both musicians/creative people in general, etc. Our basic similarities do make me feel more secure in our relationship. I don’t feel like there’s anything so major about our differences that it could drive us apart. We understand each other and will be friends even when we’re not feeling “in love.” 🙂
I will say that our interests/careers overlap, but we’re not in the same field or trying to accomplish the same goals. We can appreciate the other’s work without the risk of comparing or competing. That’s a healthy difference, IMO!
Post # 9
We have nearly identical interests and backgrounds. If I had to estimate, I would say that we share about 90% commonality. I wasn’t necessarily looking for that, but it’s been nice to have together. Aside from having things in common, we approach life in much the same way too – same temperment, attitude, morals, work ethic, etc.
The only 1 think I don’t think we’ll ever do together is musical theater because SO isn’t a fan, but we do dramatic theater together instead and I see the cheesy musicals with girlfriends.
Post # 10
We have a lot in common. We are very similar in personality, sense of humor, values/beliefs, politics… just overall the way we talk and think and see the world. We both like to watch sports, play sports, lift weights… we both like musicals and similar TV shows. We have a few differences, but they’re all pretty minor. He likes new hipster music and I like classic rock. Also, I like action, suspense, fantasy, sci-fi, film noir, and mysteries. Whereas he likes serious books and dumb comedy movies (including romcoms which I hate).
Also, I am a Jets fan (J-E-T-S JETS JETS JETS!) but he is a Patriots fan (boooo!!). We both like the Yankees though, so it’s okay (even if I have to force him to watch baseball with me because he thinks it’s boring).
Although we have a lot of different tastes, all our friends think we’re oddly identical. Probably because we both have the sense of humor of twelve year old boys.
Post # 11
we’re similar with a lot of our personality traits except he is more outgoing than i am and i tend to be more of a list organizer than he is. we both approach problems the same way, have the same values and the same life priorities. i think we’re similar where it matters and compliment each other where we are different. we have some shared hobbies/interests but also outside interests. i think it’s great.
Post # 12
We have very similar political views, core values, senses of humor (harsh, sarcastic and witty with way obscure references thrown in), and upbringings. We also like most of the same TV shows (except I love crappy reality shows, and he always has CSPAN on), and music.
We both LOVE to cook, and eat. We also both love to sleep in! Travel, and do “our things” together (reading together is a big one). Our careers differ, but we take time each day to rave about what’s going on – or just toss ideas off each other for our work.
We are both huge nerds, but in different ways. I make miniature food for dollhouses and research my own nerdy interests, he researches his own nerdy interests and the highlight of his week came via text: “sweetie, they (the comic book shop) is selling vintage comics by the pound!!! $3/pound!!!”
Yeah, thats my husband, man I love him!!!!!
Post # 13
i’d say we have a healthy amount in common….probably more than average but not to the point where there’s nothing new brought to the relationship. we come from different cultures/backgrounds so when we first started dating it was fun teaching each other so many new things.
Post # 14
I think we have more things in common than we realize at times — we talk about this a lot & how we differ etc. Though we do have areas of personality/interests/hobbies that differ as well, I think it works in a way that we complement each other (somewhat–sometimes we clash I’ll admit).
One big thing is that my partner is far more outgoing than I am, so I often find myself doing things/going places etc that I wouldn’t normally do on my own.
Post # 15
We’re both geeky but in different ways. I will geek out about a bugle used in the Spanish-American War, while he will about the new Civ5 (computer game). We both dance with a special appreciation of Dean Collins Lindy, have a slightly darker taste in comics and graphic novels, and appreciate a good sci-fi movie. We agree on the whole about theological issues, some political issues (he is slightly more right than I am, but I’m pretty moderate so that’s not hard), and have a mutual distaste for ignorance.
He knows far more about the mainstream sports while I can go on for hours about fox hunting and marching band (though he has a new appreciation for Blast! after I used it to pick our processional).
But we have the same mannerisms (though he has a bigger ego). My brother told me when my cousin met him she exclaimed,”Oh my goodness, there’s two of them!”
Post # 16
I would say we have a good amount in common. We like mostly all the same music, television shows, movies (except he loves Zombies and actions films wheras I’ll pass on that!) we both like to go hiking and camping, we both care a lot about animals, We have the same sense of humor and both want to travel to the same places. However, of course we have our differences too! I like to read and write while he likes to play computer and video games. I wouldnt say we are twins but we do have a lot in common.