(Closed) What do you keep from past relationships?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: What do you keep?
    Pictures and Videos : (59 votes)
    23 %
    Gifts (jewelry, clothing, picture albums, etc...) : (64 votes)
    25 %
    Things purchsed together (Furniture, DVD's, things of value, etc...) : (34 votes)
    13 %
    Momentos (Movie tickets, Concert tickets, etc...) : (13 votes)
    5 %
    The "little things" (stuffed animals, "have a good day" sticky notes, etc...) : (14 votes)
    5 %
    Anything "His" that you ended up with (his clothing, his necklace...) : (13 votes)
    5 %
    NOTHING!! I tossed it all, and I mean ALL.... : (52 votes)
    20 %
    Other : (7 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I was going to answer nothing because I DID throw away everything, except for one item. It’s even been broken (on accident during our move), but I kept the cross from a wind-chime my ex-boyfriend gave me. He died last year. He tried to give me the world and rush into marriage and everything, well more like his mother tried to push that one more than anything. But, I still keep the cross, even though it’s in bad shape. All the other items from past relationships I have tossed, there’s too much hurt and hate tied to those items that were tossed. Who wants to keep crap from cheating ex’s anyways? :

    Edit – I do think it is innapropriate to keep naked pictures of your ex’s, but to each their own. :shrug: To me it seems like there is some sexual pull toward the ex, which if your current lover were to find could cause a bit of an issue. Some men and women are pretty insecure when it comes to their birthday suit.

    Post # 4
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    2947 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    @RenoRose: I’m like you. They don’t have much sentimental value for me any more, but I’m the worst packrat and hate throwing things away. Watch me on Hoarders in a couple more years. :p

    Post # 5
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    11105 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Threw everything and I sold the jewelry on ebay.

    Post # 6
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    4803 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I keep photos because those are memories of my life – and if I throw them away I won’t have those memories anymore.  It doesn’t bother me that exes are in photos…that was a time in my life and he was part of that time.

    I also have some jewellery (necklaces, earrings) and other gifts – they don’t have sentimental value I just look at them as material things that I like.

    ETA: Just to explain – I don’t have any harsh bad feelings towards any of my exes.  So it might be a different case if I had hard feelings toward them, things ended badly, etc.

    Post # 7
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    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    I have pictures still. That was 7 1/2 years of my life, I can’t just throw all of those pictures away. I gave away pretty much everything else…. except a diamond bracelet b/c it’s pretty.

    Post # 8
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    2947 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    @MademoiselleL: Ditto. I’m still friendly with mine.

    Post # 9
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    470 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I have a few pictures scattered in various boxes of my millions of other pictures that I never look at.  When I first started dating my ex he had framed pictures of his ex and him all over his bedroom and didn’t understand why that bothered me.  I had to take them down myself. I’m certain he was obsessed with her for our entire relationship but that was probably for the best as he was a total dumbass loser.  I think it would be inappropriate to save nudie pictures, sex tapes, lingerie, and pretty much anything that symbolized the sexual relationship.

    Post # 10
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    1133 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    A few photos, and small things like birthday cards.  My ex and I were on and off for 5 years, we were best friends too.  Our  relationship wasn’t bad at all, just the long distance thing was killing me.  Once my current SO came into the picture, he couldn’t bare to see me with someone else so we lost touch.  I only kept a few things because even if it did end, at one point I was happy, and it always makes me laugh thinking how young and stupid I was back then!

    Post # 11
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    1285 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    That’s an interesting thread because recently i was thinking about decluttering and throwing everything away that is not related to Darling Husband and me as a couple.

    I keep all photos because like a PP mentioned they are a part of my life and i could never throw them away. But i also have some jewelry and little gifts as well as cards or letters. They don’t have a sentimental value but i like having memories. And it doesn’t matter if it is from an ex boyfriend or any other friend, it’s just the same like keeping things from my childhood or from the years before i met Darling Husband.

    I have “memory boxes” everywhere and we could really need more space in our appartment. I already threw some things away, but i’m still undecided if i should get rid of everything else now that we’re married.

    Post # 12
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    1046 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    The only thing I’ve ever kept from a previous relationship was my child. His sperm donor gave me a ring (he was cheating and wanted me to stay around) but I sold that mofo and bought my son toys with the money.

    Post # 13
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    3011 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I have nothing. My ex of 3.5 years doesn’t deserve a memory In any shape or form.

    Post # 14
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    1944 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Absolutely nothing. It’s very cleansing not to keep anything for me. I’ve only wanted one thing from an ex and that was our dog that he never took care of. I was in school and couldn’t take care of her at that time but would have done anything to have her and he just wouldn’t budge. I was devastated when I found out he just gave her away 9 mths later; I was out of school then and in my own place and I could have taken her. Jackhole!

    Post # 15
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    14656 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I have all our pictures on harddrives and the ones that were printed for albums.  We were together 6 years so we did a lot of traveling and stuff, so its not just “us” pictures, but a big part of my life.  I have a few piece of jewerly also but I don’t really wear it.  Little stuff animals and other things, I just started decluttering and throwing away.  I’m moved in with Fiance now, so it just didnt seem right to move those little things along with me to our new house and life.

    Post # 16
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    9824 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I didn’t keep anything. I gave the ring back too. When I’m done, I’m done.

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