(Closed) What do you know about co-dependency?? My mom thinks she has this.

posted 6 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Read Love is a Choice and Women who Love Too Much. a lot of people struggle with this issue, but counseling and self awareness go a long way. 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Also, feel free to PM me if you want more info. Both Darling Husband and I struggled with this in the beginning. It can wreakhavoc on a relationship. 

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

It is now defined as someone who helps a dependant person.  The co (part) of the co-dependent.  Often times someone is used to helping others in that role and finds themselves in it again and again.  Best wishes for her!

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Melody Beattie has written several wonderful and helpful books on co-dependency.  “Co-Dependent No More” is one that comes to mind.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m not sure what her situation is in particular, but I learned that I have a co-dependency problem when my husband got treatment for drug addiction.  I went to a seminar for family members at his rehab and I learned some basic information about it, but I identified myself with the characteristics.  Now I go to Nar-Anon, a 12-step support group for family of addicts, that helps me a lot.  If the issue is not related to drugs or alcohol, I am fairly sure there are Codependents Anonymous groups that you can probably look into on the internet.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@misskarianne:  ah I see.  I don’t think it could hurt either way – talking to a therapist first or just going to a meeting.  I think if she self-identifies as a codependant then that should be enough to check out a meeting and at least see if it fits.  As far as I know, I don’t think codependency is technically a diagnosable condition but a therapist may help her identify the symptoms.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@misskarianne:  I saw a therapist for years before a therapist even realized this was an issue. Part of it depends on what you disclose. But it’s good for her to explore the option. It can’t hurt. It’s all about learning good boundaries in relationships. I hope it all works out! 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@phillygirl629:  Agreed,  Check out Codependents Anonymous.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I havdreads the codependeBoone more book and it gave me so much insight into my relationships,  it’s a fantastic read for anyone struggling with these issues!

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