Post # 1
I am going to try to start looking for my officiant. We are planning from afar and will have to pick someone via phone or email convos. This really freaks me out. How did you pick your officiant? What types of questions should I ask? It would be nice and easy if we could just say oh we have a priest or pastor we know….but we don’t!
Please help! I have no idea where to start. This being the reason that I have yet to start to lookimg.
Post # 3
Be REALLY careful! I picked mine via reviews on the internet and checked out her certifications. She had the most positive reviews, various certifications and classes, was very nice on the phone and very responsive to emails. I never was scared that anything would go wrong with her even though so much had gone wrong in our planning. Well, everything else came together, but she was 45 minutes late. Our wedding was supposed to start at noon and it didn’t start until 12:45ish. I could go on about how this impacted our reception, but that seems pretty obvious. She never apologized and her and her 40-something year old daughter stayed ate our food, drank our wine, and butted to the front of the appitizer line. Get recommendations! Be careful!
Post # 4
Our rabbi did our wedding so we didn’t have this situation. However, we wanted a really special non-formulaic, meaningful ceremony, and we got one. Everyone commented on how great the wedding was, and no one seemed to mind that it was 40 minutes long. I think it’s important to develop a relationship with your officiant – meet (over the phone if necessary) frequently so he/she gets to know you. I’d be concerned if s/he only wants to meet once before the wedding. Ask how a typical ceremony goes – order, details, etc. Find someone you are comfortable talking to. As with any other vendor it’s okay to ask for references. Also, ask your venue – ours had a list of recommendations.
Post # 5
1. The price because I’ve heard of huge ranges there.
2. Find out if they have a backup if anything happens.
3. Find out how much you can personalize the ceremony because some have scripts you choose from and come write from scratch.
And try to meet before the wedding if possible
Post # 7
This was one thing we didn’t think about very much at first but it became one of the more important things to us. We found one that was wonderful with correspondence, would customize our vows and that we felt very comfortable with. We worked hard to have her no matter what because we wanted to be able to feel comfortable and customize our ceremony.