- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
Hi Bees! This is my first post even though I’ve been reading this website for the past 6+ months or so. I love it here!!
Anyway, my problem is this. Would you write off this friendship or would you try to save it?
I have a friend from college that I consider a dear friend of mine, even though I have not seen her in a few years due to the fact that she lives many states away and our plans always seem to fall through (on her part every time). She was invited to my shower and did not RSVP. She has been included in all the emails about my bachelorette party and has not responded to any of them (she does not know any of the other girls, I just gave the girls her email address to include her). She said the month of my wedding is going to be tough for her because she has 2 other events going on. The other events are her best friend’s grandmother’s 90 birthday and her sister’s birthday (her sister is in her early 30’s). I can’t help but feel like I’m being blown off and I think it’s really rude that she did not RSVP or respond to the bachelorette party emails. I completely understand if she can’t come and maybe feels bad saying she can’t, but it also feels like she just doesn’t care. She hasn’t said either way whether she is coming to my wedding, but I’m starting to really doubt it….
It hurts because I ONLY invited friends to the wedding that I’ve known for a long time and believe will be friends with for a long time (we have said to each other in the past we knew we would be friends for a long time). Every friend I have invited I have known and been friends with for at least 5 years. Maybe the distance has caused her to not care about the friendship anymore. She has offered to help with the wedding, but I haven’t taken her up on the offer so I don’t know if she is being genuine about helping.
Anyway, thanks for listening and I’d love to hear what you guys think.