Post # 1
We all get caught up in the details.
The details seem important to you and the photographer will take wonderful pictures of those details. But, in the joy of the day and the muddling of time, people may not remember the details.
Or the may, if the details were that good. Sometimes, people won’t remember the big things. Perhaps, even, the most expensive things!
I am having a guilt trip because as I try to sit here and remember the floral/non-floral centerpieces of weddings I’ve been to, I realize that I can’t remember them! I am trying to remember them for some inspiration for my own decorations. Of course, I can refer back to pictures but I was surprised that I couldn’t remember the details or decoration of a wedding–something that I assume the couple took enough time and money to present. I mean, I wouldn’t want that to happen after my wedding…right?
Well, maybe it’s about the environment at the moment. Maybe people won’t remember how fancy my flowers were, but at the time, they were awesome.
What details do you not remember about weddings you’ve been to? Details that you may be obsessing over at the moment, perhaps!
Post # 3
table numbers, invitations and most all the paper products. The only reason I remember the last place card we had (though I wasnt there) was my Future FIL’s place cards becasue it is Greg and Fiance since it was the weekend after we got engaged. Otherwise, flowers, and most all these super expensive time consuming crap that we dont remember… sigh
Post # 4
Definitely the paper products and table linens/place setting/and etc. There’s only one centerpiece I actually remember bc it was really super tall and and flowers and lights, perhaps fish. No, seriously, it was 4 feet tall.
On the flip-side I ALWAYS remember the DJ/entertainment. To go with the 4 foot tall centerpieces was the Elvis impersonater they had for music :/
Post # 5
I don’t remember the paper stuff, linens or centerpieces. Oh, and my fbil had a giant ice sculpture at his wedding a few years ago and I didn’t remember it until I looked back at his pics recently. I think that the food and music are usually the most memorable parts of a reception.
Post # 6
I agree with the previous posters… any sort of paper product detail (invitations, place cards, table numbers)…. I can’t remember any of it from any other wedding I’ve been to.
I always remember if the bride/groom do some sort of off-beat choreographed first dance. And I remember how the DJ was.
Post # 7
Out of dozens of wedding invitations I’ve recieved over the years, the only one I remember was hand sewn by the bride, and I only remember that because it was SO HER. She’s like … if she had her way, she’d be living in Little House On The Prairie, you know?
I don’t remember any centerpieces, except that one friend had candles. I only know she had candles because we lit the food on fire.
I remember live music because I’ve known some of the musicians. I remember one infamous speech made by a father of the bride about how his daughter got the last good man and the rest of us single ladies were doomed. I remember when one wedding ran out of champagne about 2/3 of the way through the guests.
Honestly, people are NOT going to remember; a lot of them won’t even notice. This isn’t a bad thing – if anything, it’s a chance to save yourself headaches, money and blistered fingers from DIY overload. 🙂
In the end, for me it boils down to: only spend time or money on it if it means something to you and you have a good reason for wanting it, or if it takes care of your guests (like enough food, etc.) If something is done well, it usually goes without being noticed – it’s only when something is messed up that it really gets noticed! So not being remembered just means it was good enough 🙂
Post # 8
I remember bad food, too loud music with no variety, and squished tables and seating. I hate when people try to squeeze too much in to a small space and just trying to get to the dance floor, you have to keep aplogizing for people having to move their chairs so you can get through.
I don’t remember the invitations, unless they are beautifully done, or the centerpieces, unless they are in the way.
Post # 9
It seems like what we remember are the things that didn’t go so well! I understand that. I was about to say that, Oh, I remember the paper products, but then I realized it was because I thought they were…well, what I wouldn’t do for my wedding.
Thanks for the replies! They’ve eased me as I haven’t bought too much for the wedding yet (on our teeny budget, nonetheless). Keep the replies coming! 🙂
Post # 10
i don’t remember any centerpiece(except for the last wedding we went to since it’s still fresh in my mind) at any wedding i’ve ever been too. i was just going to use a centerpiece the venue offered but FH wants us to make our own(which are going to be super simple anyways) which surprised me.
Post # 11
I remember invitations if there is something special about them. Like I remember my best friend’s invitations because they made them and printed them themselves with something lke a Yudu.
Escort cards, table numbers, linens, place settings, even centerpieces… they’re all lost on me. And I even forget almost all favors.
I remember whether or not I had fun. I remember the look on the bride and groom’s faces as she walked down the aisle. I remember the bride’s dress. Those are the kinds of things I remember after the fact.
Post # 12
I don’t remember much about the weddings I’ve been to except memories of talking to people, the dance floor and having fun at the after parties.
Post # 13
I always remember the flowers at the ceremony site, but never at the reception (maybe I get distracted by the food?). I also always remember specific songs played during the ceremony, but at long as they’re not horrible, I won’t remember what was played at the reception (once again, food probably to blame).
I remember the food at the reception (duh!), and the general feel of them. Oh, and I <3 invites, so I almost always remember then unless they’re really generic.
Post # 14
Isn’t it kind of funny? We spend hours and hours pouring over decor and this and that and then when it comes to the actual day, most of the things the we spent soo much time/effort/money on, the guests won’t even remember. Honestly, the things I personally remember most is the reception and the party lol.
Post # 15
I think now that I’m planning my wedding I remember more than I used to. But I definitely used to never remember the cake, the favours (would never actually take them home), the decor, etc.
Post # 16
I definitely remember –
General impressions of the food
DJ vs. band
Elaborate-ness of the cocktail hour
Whether there was a huge gap between ceremony and reception
Open bar or not (and whether it switched to cash bar at some point in the night)
Whether there were favors – what kind
I sort of remember –
The cake – what it looked like and the flavor
I couldn’t tell you –
Ceremony flowers, “extra” flowers (cake table, place card table, etc)
Table numbers (unless it’s very unique)
Whether liquor was mid range vs. top shelf
Whether they did bouquet/garter toss
Most people’s first dance songs (if it’s not something I already recognize)
Boutonnieres and mom’s corsages (what they were, how nice)
The cake toppers