(Closed) What do you notice?

posted 7 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Honestly, I look first at what anyone is wearing, and sometimes point out to myself that I wish i could look like that (pull off the style, have that flat of a stomach, whatever) or that I would never wear somethign like that, cuz i either don’t like it or it looks bad on them.  I don’t have esteem issues at all, I am really comfortable with myself, but would like to lose a few pounds around the middle since all my clothes are getting too tight (damn me for always cooking!).  But hubs loves me for who I am, so honestly it doesn’t matter, I just want my clothes to fit a little better so I don’t have to go out and buy new ones!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I usually notice clothes or faces. Weight is hardly ever the first thing I notice about a person, especially if we’re just passing on the street. Try not to beat yourself up too much!

Post # 5
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Usually shoes. Especially if they are stilettos. I don’t understand how people can walk for blocks in NYC in stilettos. I guess I’ll never be a super glamorous New Yorker.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@KatNYC2011: I could never understand that either.  Every time I wear heels that aren’t chunky or wedges in NY they get stuck in the grating.

I notice someone’s overall look – their face first usually.  I did once try to experiment and look at people as critically as I look at myself.  It was actually really weird and after a few minutes I started thinking about how weird human faces look in general.  It made me realize how differently I judge myself vs. others.  With myself, I can be tempted to pick out every little flaw, whereas with others all I see is them overall as a person.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@Entangled: I agree. I see the “overall person” rather than little nit picky pieces. (That is after I’m done staring at the Louboutons…)

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

i usually look at what people are wearing and then decide if i like their clothes better than mine or not. i rarely look at people’s faces….i’ve walked right by people i knew before. i also look at things that are of interest to me at that moment….right before i get my hair cut, i’m checking out every woman’s hair….before we got engaged, i was eyeing rings all the time. i’m sure when we are TTC i’ll be looking for pregnant bellies!

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@KatNYC2011: forget stilettos, i have trouble in a 2″ heel. or a 1″ heel. yeah, i’m a failure when it comes to shoes. flats all the way.

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@pb and j: Haha me too! I have 3′ heels for my wedding… so we’ll see how that goes.

But on the street I’m almost always in boat shoes, uggs, or flip flops depending on the season. All my work shoes stay at the office in my drawer.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

The first thing I notice is confidence.  The majority of people this doesn’t apply to but if someone has really slumped shoulders or is looking nervous or really sad, I’m always drawn to looking at those people and putting a story to them.  Perhaps that’s weird.  Same thing if I’m talking to someone, if they have some sort of nervous habit or seem uncomfortable in some way I go to story time in my head trying to figure out what’s their deal.  

If everything’s going smoothly then I notice things like outfit, style, hair, weight, wounds.  Just overall characteristics, nothing too in detail.  But like do I like the outfit they picked out or why is their hair so curly.  One girl I walked up to her at a meeting and asked her about biking, and she’s like how did you know, and it was just how her cuts and scrapes and calluses were, bizarre perhaps but I see wounds and I put a story to them.  

I don’t notice eyes, which I think is weird because I do make eye contact when I talk but I would never be able to tell you someones eye color.  

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper

I think I notice hair first, and I have no idea why. Shiney, healthy looking hair is like the icing on the cake, while stringy and dry/ overbleached hair is just as noticeable, but not in a good way.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

The first (and really only, unless something is really outstanding) thing I notice about women on the street is clothes.  I have noticed that I always check out what other people are wearing and critique outfits.  NOT AT ALL in a judgmental way (like, I never say in my head, “that is ugly” or “she should not be wearing that”) – but more in a fashion-conscious way.  I am always looking for style inspiration and new ideas, so I find myself walking around the city thinking, “oh! that outfit would look great with boots” or “I love the combination – what do I have that I can use to copy it?”

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I notice someones outfit and face/hair first.

Usually I think the person is attractive or looks well put together when they think otherwise (unless they are actually having a brutal day or are sick with ebola-death, but then I usually just ask how they’re doing rather than judge them since I know I have my bad days too).

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

The first (and really only, unless something is really outstanding) thing I notice about women on the street is clothes.  I have noticed that I always check out what other people are wearing and critique outfits.  NOT AT ALL in a judgmental way (like, I never say in my head, “that is ugly” or “she should not be wearing that”) – but more in a fashion-conscious way.  I am always looking for style inspiration and new ideas, so I find myself walking around the city thinking, “oh! that outfit would look great with boots” or “I love the combination – what do I have that I can use to copy it?”

I have also noticed that I do not notice body shape nearly as much as personal style.

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