what do you provide while hosting?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
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Helper bee

We normally provide some beer, whatever we already have for wine (we always have red and white in our stock) and whatever is in our liquor cabinet for spirits (we always have whiskey, bourbon, vodka and tequila). I do bottled water, seltzer, coke/diet coke and sprite. Hardly anyone takes us up on our drinks, our friends and family always bring their own even if we tell them we are getting a keg or something like that. After buying things and having them go to waste I’m not sure what if anything I’ll bother buying for our Christmas party coming up in a couple weeks. 

I also normally provide finger foods. I do a veggie tray, cheese and crackers and usually a thing of pulled pork or chili. 

Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

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alfalfasprout10518 :  I totally commented on your other post! I absolutely adore hosting. It is one of my favorite things to do. I just love throwing a good party! So much so that almost everyone I know has suggested I get into event planning.

I host 2 kinds of events, causal and a blowout. I usually provide similar items for both types of events, however the blowout events often contain way more food and decorations and usually some sort of signature cocktail as well.

But commonly I provide:

  • Wine, both red and white
  • Beer, usually one type unless someone has a special request
  • Some sort of mixed drink or punch (I make a spectacular punch people rave about)
  • At a minimum, chips and finger foods. Usually chips and salsa, meatballs, spring rolls, lots of things you can just throw in the oven and then on a plate. Things that are easy to eat while people socialize
  • If the event is over a meal time, such as a dinner, I usually provide some more substantial food as well, such as pizza. If I can get away with a sit down meal, I usually have 3 courses.
  • Mixers for alcohol or those that arent drinking, pop, juice, etc etc.
  • A place to crash. At any and all events I host, I always offer up the option for people to spend the night on the couch as opposed to drive after a few drinks.
Post # 18
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Buzzing bee

Yes! We always have white and red wine, different kinds of beer, whiskey, gin, and vodka. I will usually have some mixed drink too like sangria. We always have finger foods as well. If I host, I go all out. 

Perk of living in a city where you rarely drive is that no one has to drive after drinking. 

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

Depends if the party and attendees. For close friends we take turns providing. Otherwise I’d probably provide vodka, whiskey a couple of mixers and beer.

Post # 20
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Beer, wine, and a fully stocked bar with all the basics (vodka, gin, tequila, rum, brandy, bourbon, etc.); plus almost any kind of mixer you can think of, similar to LilliV’s list.  (Non-alcoholic beverages are available as well, of course).

Yes, I realize we sound a little like alcoholics ourselves. embarassed  

Seriously, though, we like being prepared for anything any guest may want to drink.  Plus, my husband enjoys bartending.  

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

We always have wine (white and red), beer (usually a light domestic), and vodka, whiskey, & rum, because this is what we always have stocked in our house. Most guests usually bring their own, as well.

Post # 22
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

We typically have a variety of hors d’ouvres and snacks laid out for winter parties, and provide a BBQ meal and snacks for summer parties. We don’t purchase enough drinks for everyone, but we do usually have enough stuff on hand that we can offer people some pop, a beer or a glass or wine / a spirit. Usually, people bring their own drinks. 

I think it’s a bit disengenous to compare hosting a typical houseparty with hosting a wedding. Sure, you’ll probably set out a couple bottles of wine if you’re hosting dinner at your home, but providing drinks for 8-10 people is an entirely different animal from hosting an open bar for 100. 

Post # 23
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2018

We are a Prosecco and beer household, we’ll usually have a red wine too and maybe a white if it’s summer. If we’re having a barbecue we might have a gin cocktail or make a round of espresso martinis.  

I wouldn’t say hosting people in your home is like having a wedding at all, while I might have drinks in the house I generally expect people to bring a bottle of something and if they don’t I’m going to side eye them.

For food it just depends on what we’re hosting. Sometimes it’s a short thing so it’s chips and dips, sometimes it’s pizza, sometimes it’s a 3 course meal.

Post # 24
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Sugar bee

Disclaimer: we’re foodies as are many of our friends, and we have a crowd that likes to entertain. Many of us are really into craft cocktails, infusing our own liquor, etc.  It’s not uncommon for us to do things like work our way through various cocktail recipes for fun.  

In addition to a couple of beer/red wine/white wine, we nearly always have an impressively stocked liquor cabinet. We don’t have every single liquor that exists, but we have all of the basics (multiple gins, whiskeys, etc, in fact!) and most of the more common options.  And a few offbeat/less common items.  If we’re entertaining, we will often pick up a few additional liquors.  And some non-alcoholic options.

You could walk into my house tonight and so long as you didn’t ask for a really obscure cocktail, we probably have the ingredients on hand.  

I probably sound like a lush, now!

Post # 25
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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Sunfire :  just because it’s in the house doesn’t mean you drink it every day! I have a bottle of tequila that’s a few years old at this point because I only ever cook with it (margarita bundt cake. nom) but if someone wants to drink it then by all means have at it! Last summer I actually gave away a ton of the liquor we never drank on my local Buy Nothing Project because it was weird fruity stuff that no one we know drinks (I’m not even sure where it came from lol). We have a lot because we like variety! We don’t have just 2 spices in the cabinet to cook with at every single meal so why would we only have one type of drink?

Post # 26
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Bumble bee

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alfalfasprout10518 :  I don’t go crazy but I try to have a well stocked bar (liquor, wine, beer) at all times. My SO and I have stressful jobs and like to sip on cocktails as we make dinner. For a party, I’ll buy a fruit juice, soda water, and Coca Cola for people to make mixed drinks. If it’s a special party, I’ll even make some sort of punch. As a hostess, I want people to have a good time and enjoy themselves. I once went to a party where they only had tequila (no mixers) and dark beer and left relatively early. I brought a bottle of wine but the host threw it in her pantry and never opened it or set it out. 

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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ladyartichoke :  what is a “scrumpy” and “firkin”? Lovely words… but I have no idea what they mean. 

Post # 28
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

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LilliV :  My thoughts exactly, lol!  😉

Post # 29
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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alfalfasprout10518 :  We host everything. We have beer, cider, wine, champagne, and at least 8 different spirits available. I usually start the night with a few cocktails. The ladies usually take me up in that. The men don’t. They start with beer. Hubby and I don’t drink much but whenever we host a birthday for hubby at ours with our family, they all gift him spirits. That always stocks our bar for the year with spirits and mixers. I also make my own liqueurs and limoncello.

As for food. I’m Italian and I always overcater and end up with leftovers. I think the overcatering gene comes with my Italian DNA 😉

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