(Closed) What do you REALLY want to say to your bridesmaids?

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

LOL AWESOME!!!

For the most part my Bridesmaid or Best Man are pretty kicken! But of course I have one that is….ugh….you know…

I mean is it bad if all my other Bridesmaid or Best Man dont want her there? And I would not be upset what so ever if she wasnt?

Post # 5
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2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Dear Bridesmaids:

Thank you for all you did to help and make my wedding day special.

I’m sorry i didn’t give you more direction with what I expected from you!  It was silly to think you knew Bridesmaid or Best Man expectations when this was most of your first time being BM’s.

Everything wasn’t perfect, butI still love you and I’m determined to be the best bridesmaids you’ve ever had!

-LatteLove

Post # 6
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5262 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Ohhh, I love this: 

Dear BM#1 – You’re amazing. No complaints here, girl. 

BM#2 – Please don’t be a drama queen. I’m sorry that the colors aren’t right for you, and that you know someone who could have this and that and the other thing, but we can’t afford that/don’t want that. Also, I know that I have known you longer than BMs #1, 3, 4, and 5, but aforementioned fits caused you to be out of the running for Maid/Matron of Honor. 

BM#3 – Your wedding was nice but it was your style. I love fashion, and the city, and swanky affairs. I do not like flat screen TVs or big SUVs, so I can live a little now! Also, you didn’t pay for your own wedding, your parents coughed up $20,000 for the reception, so stop telling people otherwise! 

BM#4 – Please please please don’t get horribly drunk and hit on FI’s 18 year old cousin at the wedding. 

BM#5 – No complaints with wedding related things, but please pay your share of the bills so our internet is not shut off on the day I have a big paper due again. 

 

Hmm, that was much-needed. 

Post # 7
Member
436 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Hmmmm…..

I think I would like to say………

1. Um, didn’t I buy that hideous light blue dress for YOUR wedding and I didn’t complain?

2. Just go with it, I went with yours…

3. I asked YOU to be in the wedding…not your mother (to FSIL)

Post # 8
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6659 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Haha, this sounds like fun! For the most party, my BM’s (so far!) are great, but of course I can think of some pet peeves:

#1: Please stop talking down about my engagement/wedding just because it’s happening shortly after yours. Most people are actually happy for me and excited while you clearly couldn’t care less. Also, please stop throwing temper tantrums about how much everything is going to cost, especially the stuff you aren’t paying for.

#2: You are great and I am so glad we are getting closer because of the wedding!

#3: I know we don’t keep in touch as much as we should, but please make at least a small effort to remember my birthday and reply to emails I send! Especially after everything I just did for you, how much money I spent, etc. 2 months ago at your wedding.

#4: You have been great as a bridesmaid. But I’m sorry I can’t fix all of your personal problems and when I listen to you complain EVERY time we speak about why you aren’t engaged and I give you some advice or consolence please leave it at that and move on!

#5: You rock.

Post # 9
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433 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

#1 – I know I’m your Maid/Matron of Honor a month before you are my Maid/Matron of Honor, and you have a TON of things left to do for your wedding, but answer your cell phone every once in a while!!  We need to talk – about both of our weddings!!

#2 – Please, sweetie, buy your darn bridesmaid’s dress already.  It’s been months since I told you to pick whatever you wanted in a dark blue cocktail-length style.  You told me you had gotten a BCBG dress, then I found out you never ordered it!  You’re a size 2 – it shouldn’t be this hard.

Wow, that felt good!  🙂

Post # 10
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7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Ladies – please, please, please don’t go crazy on me. mmmk thanks.

Post # 11
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375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Hmmm….cant say its crazy. I mean come on. Wedding planning can be strressful, and when you have Bridesmaid or Best Man that adds to it when its so not needed. what is so wrong with venting? I mean really, none of us really know e/o, and many of us can sadly relate. ITs a way of getting it off your chest so you DONT go crazy! I would rather vent over a blog then going Bridezilla on a Bridesmaid or Best Man, I dont think thats so crazy! LOL but thats just me!

I mean, I am planning a wedding in a state I am not even currently living in, its back home for me, the Military has brought me elsewhere, so its a hell of a challenge trying to plan my wedding when I now live so far away. For the most part like I said earlier, my girls all rock, I have my friends who have remained true to me back home, and kept in touch since I have been away for YEARS, then I have my friends I met in the military who have become like fam to me seeing that I have no family out here! Unfort, there is one who gives me a hell of a time so to her I would love to say this, and yes I would never have the heart to say it to her face. I can be irritated, you can push me to far. But I am not one for confrontation, so I always let things slide…but if I could, and had the nerve to say something it would be….

BM- I am sorry you decided to rush into getting married as a teenager and never had a real wedding, if you dont like my ideas, too bad, its not your day! Stop trying to tell me what YOU would do, or are GOING to do for when you do have your big wedding, its been over 7 years since you got married. If your going to do it, then do it, hell, I will even help you because I will have gone through it all, if not stop talking like you actually know what you are talking about, until you can relate to wedding planning, zip it! Stop trying to push your ideas on me because you think its funny or would be cool, its tacky! I dont think its funny you want to make your husband sneak into my wedding wearing a tux T-Shirt, I dont think its funny you want to switch into and wear lime green sneakers in your Bridesmaid or Best Man dress, I dont think its funny that you want to pay my DJ off to play songs you KNOW i dont want played. But ha-ha you think thats just Hilarious. Nice try, just for that I hired a more expensive DJ who will have a very in depth CONTRACT! I wish i had the balls to be like this in person, I wish i could express my frustration that you give me, but I never do! I let you pick the dress out, I only said what color it had to be, I let you pick whatever shoes you want that are comfortable, i understand they wont even really be seen, but yet I am Sooooo demanding and I am bridezilla. Because heaven forbid I dont like the idea of you CUTTING your Bridesmaid or Best Man dress, to create a slutty long slit in it so you can “dance” better at the recception.Ohh….and I am sorry that I CANT give you a date that my bachelorette party is going to be on. Pretty sure thats my Maid/Matron of Honor job, and I am sorry she does not live here for YOUR convienence to let you know OVER NINE months in advance when its going to be. And I am sorry that all my other Bridesmaid or Best Man are true and loyal and tell me when you are bitching about all this nonsense behind my back!

Post # 12
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7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@KT – are you talking to me? Because I was writing ‘to’ my BMs. Not the bees. 🙂

I think venting is great ~ but I don’t have any Bridesmaid or Best Man vents yet and am just hoping to not have any to come either, haha.

Post # 13
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11810 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

@ KT Williams:  I think daydreamwanderer’s comment was directed to her bridesmaids.

Here’s what I’d say to mine, after the fact.

Bridesmaid or Best Man #1–Even though I hadn’t seen you in 2 years, you swept into town and kicked some major ass as my Maid/Matron of Honor.  I miss you and we should see each other more often!

Bridesmaid or Best Man #2–I wish I’d gotten to spend more time with you when you came down for the wedding.  I’m sorry things in your life have been crazy lately, and I really wish I could’ve been there for you more.

Bridesmaid or Best Man #3–You rock for driving to Austin 3 freaking weekends in a row.  It was so good seeing you!  (The dress you picked out was awesome, btw.)

Post # 14
Member
375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

OMG! So sorry dear! I admit, yes I did think you were talking to my first post i wrote! I am soooo sorry, have to admit, I am reallly out of it! Laugh at me all you want, lord knows I desserve it. I am a little on the drugged up side right now. Just had a knee surgery yesterday! Maybe I should not be bloggin on these meds! LOL Sorry again! LOL

Post # 15
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375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Also daydreamwanderer, for your sake, and for ANYONE for that matter, I would not wish Bridesmaid or Best Man drama on ANYONE, its soooo not fun! : ( Best of luck and I hope it stays that way for you, and for all the bee’s here who have been of much relief to me in keeping my sanity! LOL

Post # 16
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2344 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Maid/Matron of Honor: I love you. You are wonderful. Fiance questioned why I chose you but now he gets it.

Bridesmaid or Best Man #1: I still feel really bad about how I botched telling you that you aren’t my Maid/Matron of Honor. And I feel bad for being so happy when you are not. I love you too. I didn’t expect you to be at all interested in my planning, so that’s not a big deal. But really – my own bridesmaid isn’t giving my engagement pictures to me as a gift? When I offered to pay you I thought for sure you’d turn it down, but nope. And now you’re complaining about the day we picked and that you had to switch shifts at work. This is why you aren’t my Maid/Matron of Honor.

Bridesmaid or Best Man #2: I love you too. Thanks for always listening. Is it bad that one thing I love about you is that you will look so pretty in your dress?

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