(Closed) What do you REALLY want to say to your bridesmaids?

posted 11 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 47
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

To my Maid/Matron of Honor: You are an incredible big sister and best friend, there was never a question as to whether or not you would be my Maid/Matron of Honor, but I have to say, I was worried that every idea I had for dresses and favors and locations would be met with… polite resistance as we have VERY different styles. My coffee filled centerpieces? I thought you would make them crash and burn but hearing “I think that’s personalized and fits you perfectly” come out of your mouth was SUCH a relief. I love you

Bridesmaid or Best Man2: Sweetheart, I have heard you witch and moan for years now over every friend of yours that got married before you.  You are my best friend and have been since we were 10, but dont think all those 11 pm telephone calls about being jealous about people getting married and having babies around you didn’t effect me… I KNOW you are going to do the same to me and it makes me resent you. And btw, you are going to have to FIND time for dress shopping, I will not continue to book appointments around you solely because your “Whoa is me” attitude is simple and uninviting.

Bridesmaid or Best Man 3: You are my half brother’s half sister, and in by no means blood to me, but I have always considered you my little sister.  I never imagined I would ask you to be a bridesmaid when the time came, but when it did, I couldn’t imagine not asking you – you are wonderful. That being said, please PLEASE dont let your 21 year old attitude, your lesbian phase and your black and blonde hair get in my way… Selflessness comes with age, but please remember this is my day and I really need you to temporarily grow that part of you up… just for 11 more months please.

Bridesmaid or Best Man 4: I love you.  I never imagined you would not get to be a bridesmaid, I never imagined we would lose you so young.  You’re still my bridesmaid and I love you. Miss you sista

Post # 48
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145 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

MOH; I am so sorry that you had a sucky, pathetic wedding that was not “you” in anyway when you married your ex. I am sorry that he turned out the be an abusive POS but hello? Could you be happy for me already?

Secondly, this is not your wedding. I have a budget and this wedding is going to reflect ME so when I tell you that x,y or z is something that I don’t like or cannot do, shut up about it.

Lastly, no, just because you are my Maid/Matron of Honor that does not automatically mean that your daughter can be my flower girl or a bridesmaid! If you tell me even once more that wherever you go, she goes or that you won’t be my Maid/Matron of Honor if she can’t be in the wedding I will gladly show your ass out the door and proceed to plan and get married without you.

DD#1 (FI ‘best girl’): Your 17 and have been the most amazing kid ever. I love your ideas and your thoughts about the wedding but yes, you have to wear the dress that *I* choose for you. Think of it this way: it will be the last time that I ever get to choose your clothing again. I haven’t done it since you were a little wee girl and I want to do it for you now because it makes me happy and not so sad that in a few months you will be 18 and next summer moving out to go to college.

DD#2 (bridesmaid): you’re wonderful and you are adorable. Don’t worry I will give you special jobs. No, you can’t invite your friends to the wedding we are only having 17 people, total. Yes, you will, like your sister wear the dress of my choosing. See the above notes to your sister.

Post # 49
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Dear bridesmaids, there are a few choice words I need to say to you all,

Maid/Matron of Honor: thank you for being amazing. I’m sorry you’ve had to deal with such stupid people. Thank you for your patience.

Bm2:thanks for pretending to be my best friend then always ignoring me. I’m sorry you’re dating a sorry fat f*ck who cares more about his video games than you! Maybe if you weren’t so wrapped up in being mediocre and never growing up you could be happy for mE. sorry you don’t believe in marriage before you’re 26 but guess what, this isn’t your life. Sorry you don’t want to spend money on anything, but guess what else, you decided to accept being a bridesmaid. Suck up your huge ego and talk to me. DOnt think you’ll be walking down the aisle having not spoken to me in 6 weeks. Youre a bitch.

Bm3: you make $15,000 more than I do and you have to make our parents pay for your shoes, bm dress, and hair? You’re rude jerk. Grow up and pay for your own shit. [Post moderated for racist comment]

Bridesmaid or Best Man4: why don’t you stop playing video games and actually do something with your life.

Bridesmaid or Best Man5: you’re batsh*t crazy. Literally. You lied, screamed, and cried until we gave in and made you a bridesmaid. Now you’ve literally offended every other member of my bridal party and my family. You’ve threatened to ruin the wedding and single handedly made my life a living hell. Thank you. 

Post # 50
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779 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

MOH&MOTB; Stop making me feel bad for how much money I’m spending. Just because you got by with only spending under 10k doesn’t mean I have to too. Every time I say my budget to a vendor or consultant, I have to hear the same song and dance, disappointed sighs and guilt trips.

BM#4: You’re only in the wedding because you scare the sh*t out of me and I can’t get on your bad side, because I’ve seen you tear people apart until there’s nothing left to them. I don’t know how you managed to do it, but you got in my wedding party. Now I’m stuck with you, and everyone knows the only reason you’re in the wedding party is because I’m too chicken to say no to you.

Post # 51
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779 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@Kellywedding12:  Oh god. your BM#5 sounds exactly like my BM#4. Whyyyyy…

Post # 52
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2013

This is why we have NO bridal party….and another is it’s about him and I….not anyone else. I don’t feel the need for one and it makes things a lot less complicated and drama free.

Post # 53
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@christina.a.nuckols:  I wish I would have thought of this! 🙁 Maybe just a Maid/Matron of Honor and Bridesmaid or Best Man.

Post # 54
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693 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@Kellywedding12:  Jew? I don’t get it.

 

Dear bridesmaids-

#1, thanks for making the drive to my wedding. Even though you had to bring you Mother-In-Law, DH, DD, and DS. Only the Mother-In-Law wasn’t invited, and she stayed in my room the entire day while I got ready, which was just weird. Also, thanks for letting your son jump in front of our photog during the ceremony, familiy pics, reception, and exit. It’s cool. I can’t be that mad, because you’re the only one that showed up.

#2, Thanks for bailing on me a few months before the wedding when you got engaged to the guy that you cheat on, lie to, and in your words “can’t afford you”. Thanks for not asking me to be in your wedding, and announcing to everyone else your reasons for not including me..and letting someone else tell me..I mean, really?

#3, thanks for attempting to publicly humiliate me on FB in front of our 6o mutual friends. Didn’t work, and you look like a dumbass. Stop crying all the time. Way to go on telling everyone I unfriended you because you didn’t buy me a shower present. You didn’t even rsvp to my shower! You were a bridesmaid! Whatever.

#2 and #3…thanks for not being my friends anymore. I guess I really just didn’t need you in my life.

MOH- seriously. The whole wedding was not about you, and i’m sorry. I’m sorry that our Dad showed up. It wasn’t to spite you, he was acutally an invited guest, and was going to walk me down the aisle. Not my fault you stopped speaking to him a year ago. Deal. Sorry that your accomodations that YOU CHOSE the week of the wedding weren’t up to your standards. You didn’t have to get mad at me for not letting you stay in my HONEYMOON COTTAGE with your husband and toddler..on my honeymoon. ON MY HONEYMOON?!?

Seriously, my bridal party was a joke. I moved a few hours away in the middle of hte engagement, right when I was just starting to plan things, and everyone bailed. I didn’t have any BM/MOH/bride time, parties, showers, bach parties, get togethers, anything…it was weird, because in the beginning everyone was so gung ho…idk

 

Post # 55
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@kellywedding12: 

“Jew.”

C’mon.  Really?  In what world is that appropriate?  Or even the slightest bit ok?

 

ETA: reply to PP.  

Post # 56
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252 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Jew??? Really?? Wow do the world a favor and don’t procreate, we don’t need more ignorance like this in the world. I’m sorry but I can’t STAND stereotypical stupidity like this.

Post # 58
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

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@LilMsMicro:  I just want to say that my bridesmaid has referred to herself as such, and that is all I will further say upon the matter.

Post # 59
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899 posts
Busy bee

This is why I’ve declined to be in three weddings of my closest friends. Too much drama and too many BRIDEZILLAS. Honestly, if you dislike these people so much, why ask them to stand up?

 

Post # 60
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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@Kellywedding12:  Well I’m sure she did refer to herself as a Jew… since she is a Jew. You using that as an insult is so disgusting… I have no words. I hope your friend stumbles upon this and sees you for what you are.

Post # 63
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37 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Here goes!

 

BM#1 (MOH)- You are absolutely my best friend in the whole world. I love you. Hands down. Thanks for being supportive. YOU ARE SOOOO FREAKING AWESOME. I love you so much. And your sisters are my sisters. I love them too. I’m so glad you are my bestie and that you’ll be with me on my day. 🙂

 

BM#2 (MatOH)- I love you too. But I know that since I’m marrying your baby brother, and you’ve always been like a big sister to me, you tend to forget that though I’m 25, I’m still a grown woman, who makes smart decisions, and who is capable of handling my own life, even if you dont always agree. Your brother and I argue. So what? Some things might not bother you, but that;s you. What bothers me I discuss. I love you, but sometimes you forget that I’m not a baby, and fyi, neither is my future husband. But that’s just my own frustration. I’ll work on mine, ad I hope you work on yours. 

 

BM#3 (MOH)- I love you. It scares me that so many people dont like you. My mom does’t. And now I fear that though you seem happy for me, your log distance and single relationship status, along with the major chip on your shoulder will be my ruin. My groomsmen dont like you and dont want to walk with you. You can be very abrasive and rude. And your comments are not appreciated. We were very close in college, but since you’ve been MIA lately, and don’t even know that I have a dress and a bouquet already. You don’t seem to interested in my day. Which is cool. But if you act up, cousin or not, I’m not having an angry bitter woman ruin my day. I kinda wish I asked BM#5 to be Maid/Matron of Honor instead of you. And by kinda, I mean really.  

 

BM#4- I love you. You are my youngest Bridesmaid or Best Man. It shows. Everyone else is grown, No one else has asked to wear a long dress. You can wear a different dress if you come as a guest, but as long as you are in my wedding, you will wear the pretty dress I picked out. You get to wear your own shoes, and own hairstyle, so I’m not too demanding. But then again, its just your age showing. 

 

BM#5- I LOVE YOU. YOU should’ve been my other Maid/Matron of Honor. That is all. LOL I hope you don’t get lost in mommyhood and planning your own wedding to help with mine. I know thats selfish. I will try to get over myself. 

 

BM#6- I love you. PLease don’t get back with your ex. No one likes him. You are so beautiful and can do better. MUCH MUCH better. Plus, he isn’t invited or wanted around me or our family. I hope you aren’t moody and depressed around the wedding. I also hope you can be happy for me since im 8 years your junior and getting married first. 

 

OK. Lots off my chest. 🙂 I love all my girls. Not all their personalities (entirely), but I know their hearts are in a good place. 

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