Post # 1
Ok… We’re engaged but I always feel kind of goofy if I refer to him as my fiancee, and I’m so used to calling him my boyfriend that usually I still refer to him that way in conversation. I know I won’t have any problem referring to him as husband but the fiancee thing just feels kind of affected every time I say it… Am I the only one?!?
Post # 3
@ErinBlue: I feel the same way! I want to just call him my husaband already. I feel like I am trying to be fancy when I say fiance haha I have definitely still called him my boyfriend a few times since getting engaged.
Post # 4
I’m glad other people are like this. We RARELY say fiancee, and when we do we kind of laugh about it. It feels a little forced sometimes. We typically just say boyfriend and girlfriend or something. But I know alot of ladies on these boards get really upset when other folks dont refer to their SO as fiancee or something of that nature, but to us it just isn’t a big deal. When we’re married, we will obviously say husband and wife, but right now it just isnt that big of an issue.
Post # 5
I call him his first name. If someone doesn’t know who he is, I would say my fiance or my husband, X. Then, only refer to him by his first name.
Post # 6
I say fiance or partner. Even before we were engaged, I tended to call him my partner rather than my boyfriend.
Post # 7
I refer to him as his first name…? I occassionally call him my fiance, but I’m more comfortable calling him my boyfriend.
I can’t say fiance with a straight face. 🙂 It feels like such a pompous word when you say it out loud…
Post # 8
We say partner when referring to one another.
Post # 9
I never called him “fiance”, not once. I think it’s an incredibly pretentious word.
I called him by his name, or if I was forced to give him a title, he was “Not boyfriend.”
Post # 10
I tend to slip into a super Southern drawl when I say fiance… O Brother Where Art Thou always pops into my head when I need to use that word.
Pretty bad, right? I just avoid it. First name only if I can help it.
Post # 11
I mostly just call him my husband at this point, honestly. Maybe if I keep doing it for long enough, he’ll agree to elope…
Post # 12
I either call him by his name since everyone knows it or boyfriend. LOL. That f word sounds weird to me.
Post # 13
I say fiance. I know it sounds weird and fancy but you only get to do it (most of us anyway) for about a year! lol After marriage you never get to do it again.
Thought I should add* my parents call him my “intended” or “intended husband” lol
Post # 14
@SparkleBee11: Exactly! I like it when he tells me he’s mentioned me as his fiancee to guys at work and I always call him my fiance.
Post # 15
I either call him by his name or say “fiance.” I don’t get people’s “issue” with that word. He’s not my boyfriend and not my husband.
Post # 16
@ErinBlue: I’m with you. I don’t like to say the term “fiance” but frankly I’ve never liked the phrase “boyfriend” either. I try to refer to him just as “Dave” but on occasion I’ll call him my bf. I did refer to him as my Boyfriend or Best Friend recently and a savvy listener corrected me and said, “I thought he was your fiance?” STFU! He’s just DAVE! 🙂