(Closed) What do you refer to your future hubbie as?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
117 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@ErinBlue:  I feel the same way! I want to just call him my husaband already. I feel like I am trying to be fancy when I say fiance haha I have definitely still called him my boyfriend a few times since getting engaged. 

Post # 4
182 posts
Blushing bee

I’m glad other people are like this. We RARELY say fiancee, and when we do we kind of laugh about it. It feels a little forced sometimes. We typically just say boyfriend and girlfriend or something. But I know alot of ladies on these boards get really upset when other folks dont refer to their SO as fiancee or something of that nature, but to us it just isn’t a big deal. When we’re married, we will obviously say husband and wife, but right now it just isnt that big of an issue. 

Post # 5
11760 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I call him his first name. If someone doesn’t know who he is, I would say my fiance or my husband, X.  Then, only refer to him by his first name.

Post # 6
4050 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I say fiance or partner. Even before we were engaged, I tended to call him my partner rather than my boyfriend.

Post # 7
2440 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I refer to him as his first name…? I occassionally call him my fiance, but I’m more comfortable calling him my boyfriend.


I can’t say fiance with a straight face. 🙂 It feels like such a pompous word when you say it out loud…

Post # 8
5068 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

We say partner when referring to one another. 

Post # 9
8991 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I never called him “fiance”, not once. I think it’s an incredibly pretentious word.

I called him by his name, or if I was forced to give him a title, he was “Not boyfriend.”

Post # 10
342 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I tend to slip into a super Southern drawl when I say fiance… O Brother Where Art Thou always pops into my head when I need to use that word. 



Pretty bad, right? I just avoid it. First name only if I can help it. 

Post # 11
1064 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I mostly just call him my husband at this point, honestly.  Maybe if I keep doing it for long enough, he’ll agree to elope…

Post # 12
8704 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I either call him by his name since everyone knows it or boyfriend. LOL. That f word sounds weird to me.

Post # 13
1184 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I say fiance. I know it sounds weird and fancy but you only get to do it (most of us anyway) for about a year! lol After marriage you never get to do it again. 


Thought I should add* my parents call him my “intended” or “intended husband” lol


Post # 14
2567 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@SparkleBee11:  Exactly!  I like it when he tells me he’s mentioned me as his fiancee to guys at work and I always call him my fiance. 

Post # 15
11242 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I either call him by his name or say “fiance.” I don’t get people’s “issue” with that word. He’s not my boyfriend and not my husband.

Post # 16
3736 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@ErinBlue:  I’m with you. I don’t like to say the term “fiance” but frankly I’ve never liked the phrase “boyfriend” either. I try to refer to him just as “Dave” but on occasion I’ll call him my bf. I did refer to him as my BF recently and a savvy listener corrected me and said, “I thought he was your fiance?” STFU! He’s just DAVE! 🙂


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