Post # 62
I know where a lot of you guys are coming from on the up lighting issue. In the venue we were going to go with at first I told everyone that up lighting was a huge waste of money. We recently switched venues to the parish hall that I went to school at as a kid. Its really bland and u cant just turn a few lights on but u have to turn the whole flippin set of lights on! (its a huge room so the lights look like surgery lighting. it makes every one look really pale and old) We made the decision to do the up lighting so we wouldnt have to turn the lights on in the reception hall… If you have a nice venue it would be a big waste of money but I think if u were put in the same situation as me u would probably do the same. 🙂 My fi is the biggest cheap skate in the world and thought it looked pretty good… If I got his seal of approval with no fight needed, it was a worthwhile buy.
Post # 63
I would say shoes, I had nice satin J Crew sling backs which were pretty much destroyed after the church ceremony (no idea why but the inner lining came unglued on both heels) and impractical for our photography on rocks so I wore flip flops for the whole night despite spending more on shoes than I normally would and not even being able to wear them again becasue the insides are messed up.
Post # 64
besides the bridal party boquets and bouts we didnt have any blooms either. It cost us a total of 250.00 for all our wedding flowers!!! best idea EVER!
Post # 65
buying toasting flutes (or rather, having them gifted to us). We used them during the wedding, but could have easily used ones that the venue provided. We don’t even have a good picture of them!
Hmm, that’s pretty much it! Of course, we spent a lot of money on things that were by no means necessary (STDs, tons of flowers, fancy letterpressed invitations, favors, etc), but I loved each and every one of those things and don’t regret them at all.
Post # 66
I will never, ever understand brides’ obsession with chiavari chairs.
Post # 67
love this thread- thanks for making it…. give us future brides/brides to be a “think twice on this”.
Post # 68
It sounds like we had the exact same wedding! We didn’t include any of those elements, and it didn’t take away from the day one bit.
Plus – no cake. DH and I don’t like cake, but we LOVE cookies! We ordered cookies from our FAVORITE gourmet cookie place (Carol’s Cookies in Chicago) and only spent $100. We got to take all of the extras home and we have them in the freezer. We pull one out every so often and microwave it and it’s SOO yummy. Gift that keeps on giving!
Post # 69
I’ve got to speak in defense of the napkins. Yes. People wipe their mouths on them, but if you need cocktail napkins anyway, and you get a sweet deal on them, what’s the harm? I mean if you really think about it MOST things we do for weddings are wasteful. If I’m going to be spending 3k on flowers for FIVE hours, I may as well spend $50 on some napkins I like!
Post # 70
The ONE thing I regret spending money on is a veil I had made from an Etsy vendor. I had this idea of wearing this big fancy birdcage veil, but I realized after the fact that it just wasn’t my style. I ended up wearing a simple finger-length DB veil that I bought for $30, and it was MUCH better for me.
Things I DON’T regret getting:
— Photobooth: I LOVE the pics we got from it… and they are not drunken pics of our guests. They are really candid and fun and funny… very different than the pics captured by our photog. Our guests raved about it and everyone enjoyed it a lot.
— Chivari chairs: They came with our venue and I loved the way they looked.
— Expensive photog: Totally worth it… everyone tells me our wedding pics look like a magazine shoot. I absolutely adored our photog and she captured such beautiful moments… can’t thank her enough.
–STDs: I got the design for free and printed postcards for like 5 cents each. They were so cute, and some of our guests STILL have them on their refridgerators!
— Our cake: Also came with the venue, and was made at an amazing famous Cuban bake shop in the area. It was sooooooooo good. We kept the leftovers and had some the days following the wedding. We’re also saving the top tier in our freezer for our 1 year anniversary.
— Sit down dinner: Truly delicious… got lots of compliments on the food.
— My Badgley Mischka shoes: They are just so pretty, and were on sale, so I justified the cost. 😛
Post # 71
I really don’t get the whole Chiavari chair thing either. To me they look spindly and insubstantial, and I’ve never found them comfortable. But I’m a clean lines/less clutter kind of girl when it comes to furniture, so I’ve always preferred chairs that look more solid and aren’t as distracting to the eye.
Post # 72
I’m loving reading all of these! I am just beginning to plan my wedding and this really helps. I hear how “you have to have this” and “you must have that” Here’s my plan:
I only plan on sending STD’s if 1)they get finished in time and 2)only to family (mainly because those are the only people set in stone on my list).
My fiance is a photographer, so he is doing the invitations, we will have to pay for the printing, but it will be at cost. Having said that, we have lots of friends in the wedding industry that are giving us deals (flowers, DJ, photographer).
My Future Mother-In-Law was thrown off that we don’t really care about a cake. She was so upset by it she offered to make us one (for 300 people, yeah right), thinking it was a “money issue.” But really, cutting a cake is the least important thing I will do that day (in my opinion) and really I don’t even love cake. I never eat it at weddings, because I’m too full and generally having too much fun to stop and eat cake. My sister got married a month ago, I went to their house this past weekend, and their cake was still sitting on their counter…
I totally agree with cupcake711, I have no intention on monogramming anything. Everyone who is there knows my name. And in my opinion a wedding is about celebrating! I’d rather spend money on that 🙂
Post # 73
I am so glad that we are having our ceremony AND reception at a hotel. We save on:
1. Transportation. Don’t need any. We go from bridal suite to ceremony to reception to afterparty at the hotel bar to the bridal suite.
2. Time. Instead of interviewing caterers and cake bakers, all food and alcohol is included, even a hotel provided day-of coordinator! We just come in for one day to do the tasting and select a cake and that’s it. Time is money.
3. Invites. With everything at one location, we don’t need separate reception location cards. And the hotel provides direction cards.
4. Stress. Planning this wedding is so much easier with one location and a hotel planner on standby to help out and answer questions.
5. Extras. Elegant white linens and chair covers are included, so are dishes, glasses, menus, escort cards, etc. Also, the hotel cocktail area and ballroom are so elegant, we don’t need to do much in way of decor.
Post # 74
@abbyful: I agree that certain things are a waste.
Exspensive invitations..Do people really care ? And of course calligraphy looks great but its not worth it!
STD’s…I think they are a waste of $$, they will get the invite soon enough!
Flowers are great… but they die!
I dont get spending 100$ on a cake cutter… use the venues knife.. who cares.. noone sees it! although my mom purchased them..I think when she got married they were the ‘in thing”
limos… unless your taking all your bridal party all over gods creation!
videographer…Cant you just collect all your friends and families film and videos and get someone to put them all together all nicey nice later.. for free!
top shelf…peole who drink well vodka quickly become top shelf drinkers when its free… uugghh
I am mopre interested in spending money on food, dj, photographer and my candy bar.. I just want it.. silly or not 🙂
Post # 75
I agree with many of you brides on chair covers! I have those hideous brown metal chairs and even though I hate them , I cannot talk myself into throwing away $800 on chair covers that will only make the chairs slippery, and be another hour in setup time.
Other things I can not talk myself into buying is a videographer, flowers that need to be shipped in b/c their out of season, and a groom’s cake.
If I made 7 figures a year, maybe, but in reality, there’s no way I can justify those things.
Post # 76
I’ll add to this and I bet I have a NEW one not many people have heard of:
I’m not doing: personalized napkins, cake cutter, cake topper, etc. Why pay for a beautiful cake and put a plastic doll on top?! Register for a cake cutter set as a gift…you’ll probably get it early…all reasonably inexpensive stuff, but every penny counts.
But this one is too funny: while researching DJ’s, one I found had a few “bonuses” in his full package price:
uplighting (no thanks)
photo booth (I hired a photographer and pretty much 75% of our guests own a digital camera)
and……wait for it……….free text messaging service. So the DJ brings two huge plasma screens (for photo shows, that’s useful) but also to display text messages from your guests. During the reception guests can text messages to the DJ’s dedicated line saying “Congrats to Bride & Groom!” or “OMG, this wedding is so awesome!” and it displays on the huge plasma tv screens.
What??? Besides my 13-year old brother, who in their right mind would want to do that at a wedding reception? What ever happened to actually interacting with people and telling them Congrats! yourself? I was shocked.
I dare someone to top that silliness…