(Closed) What do you REGRET spending or think is a WASTE of money on for the wedding?

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Post # 77
109 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Oh, and my last one. Paying for dramatic, artsy Ephotos (that I love) but not having one appropriate portrait photo of us to put in the newspaper for engagement announcements. ๐Ÿ™

Post # 78
3978 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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@SouthRNComfort: My dad… and Mr. Hedgie. They joked about rigging their own because the thought of it was too cool. Uhm, no.

Post # 79
109 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

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@Mrs Hedgehog: So other people HAVE heard of this? Wow, one trend I just missed I guess

Post # 80
2192 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

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@sailor:  I admit I love the chairs but at 8.50 a pop and another dollar for the cushion it was going to cost us another two grand to bring in chairs!  Luckily we are in a very modern venue with pretty chairs which means NO CHAIR COVERS!  They are so ick! 

I’m laughing at all the people saying STDs are a waste because I am making mine this week and just spent another forty at Paper Source for supplies.  Necessary and worth it to me.

Not worth the money is favors.  I really really don’t need a minature(picnic basket, gumball machine, etc).  We are donating to our fave charities instead.

Post # 81
2187 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Things I purchased and wished I didn’t:

My first dress.

My reception dress.

My bustier.

My two veils.

crafts for DIY projects that I messed up!

Things I didn’t find necessary:

reception uplighting

pew bows

expensive shoes

Post # 82
2947 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I get where you guys are coming from on a lot of this stuff, but I can’t imagine some of them not being in my wedding. ::shrug:: To each their own, and maybe I’ll have some regrets when it’s over, but if it’s within our budget, no biggie. Lighting is an absolute must at our reception venue because it’s an empty loft.

We’re still in the planning stages but the things we splurged/are splurging on:

– Photography. We refused to skimp at all on this.

– Food! This is FI’s top priority and we don’t want what’s expected. Our friends and family know we travel to eat; we’re total foodies and they are expecting something different from us. We’re personalizing the menu by incorporating some of our favorite dishes from our travels.

– Cake. I’m a baking nerd and I’ve always baked for others! I really want a cake that’s made for us for once.

– Decor. I’m all about ambiance. Whether anyone else cares is no matter because it’s what we want. FI’s been involved in picking colors and flowers, which has been a fun bonding experience. ๐Ÿ™‚ We’re working with an awesome event designer too.

– Planner – This is only because we are Austinites and our wedding is in NYC. We need a fully involved planner that has relationships with local vendors to handle logistics that would cost time and money for us to fly back and forth to deal with.

– Photo booth! We had the best time using one at an event a few months before the engagement and it’s one of my favorite photos of us.

Things we’re not splurging on:

– Shoes. Technically I already did splurge on them, but they’re already in my collection. As much as I’d like to get a special pair for the wedding, I just can’t justify it and I’d rather have the money go toward my dress.

– Stationery – I’m a designer, and one of my best friends is also a fellow designer, and we’re going to do everything together. We are splurging a bit on materials and printing, but everything will be at cost since there’s no designer to pay. ๐Ÿ™‚ I’m involving her as payback for her having us sew on the inserts for her invites and glue on rhinestones with tweezers…hah! I keed…it’s her gift to us.

– Videography. We gave it up to get our photographer. If we have wiggle room, we might reconsider.

– Transportation. We’re probably going to be a couple blocks from the ceremony. Reception is in the same place. Plus, I’d love to have photos of us walking to the venue. ๐Ÿ™‚

– Personalized napkins/cake cutter/flutes. I don’t even like the look of them and they’d just collect dust somewhere.

– Flower girl/ring bearer. We don’t have small children among our friends and family (waaaay too young), and I have one friend who just announced her pregnancy a couple months ago (my MOH). It hit me that my friends who were married before me are now getting preggers…time flies!

– Reception dress. I personally have no interest in a second dress.

– Veil. I might DIY or not wear one at all. Still undecided.

– Throwaway bouquet. I have maybe 3 single friends that are coming? I don’t want to put them in the spotlight.

– Chair covers. Don’t care for them, and we’re getting decent chairs that don’t need to be covered anyway.

Post # 83
674 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Favours. I think they’re a waste of money but my mother insisted.

Post # 84
1175 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

The Big Day hasn’t come and gone yet, but the one thing I’m hoping we don’t regret is getting a videographer.  It is a $500 touch, which isn’t that much for all-day coverage.  We don’t get an edited video for that price, but I can choose between an editable or uneditable DVD or the raw footage and edit myself if I want. 

Anyone have regrets that they had a videographer?

Post # 85
312 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m not married yet but I think its a waste of money to have a big banquet for the meal.  Half the time people don’t remember it anyway (at least I never do and nobody I’ve talked to ever does).  I also think its crazy to have a venue that costs more than an average wedding costs.

We are paying for this ourselves and I guess I’d rather just have a great DJ, Photos, Video and decor.  I think you can have an average venue and with the right decorations can completely transform it. 

I also think over the top expensive invites are a waste as well.  People just throw them away so other than my and my Fiance as well as our parents and MAYBE our grandparents no one is going to keep it.

As for STD all of my family is out of state and our wedding is on Labor Day weekend so STD are pretty important for us so people know to not make other plans if they can.

Post # 86
8 posts
  • Wedding: March 2012

I have to be honest in all the excitement of planning a wedding I went and got table clothes (now as soon as they come in I will be selling them on here) Cake knives (monogramed of course), mono napkin and save the dates. And yesterday I took a step back.  I honestly said this is not what I want. I am  wedding photographer and I have seen just about it all and I always said a wedding should not be about the stuff. So in protest I am going to sell those eggplanty table clothes (the venue has white) Not order and more napkins (plain ones from here out) and no more mono gramed anything unless its handmade by me. The save the dates are staying Im diy them and a few other “big plans” are being scaled back.

Post # 87
682 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

wedding not here yet but I can tell you what we won’t be doing or what we DIY’ed

photobooth: made our own! under $200 and the kids use it at birthday parties (it’s a hit)
flowers: not doing them. I made a pearl bouquet and will do something for DH’s lapel but no live flowers
chairs: I *hate* Chivari chairs. We’re renting Chameleon chairs and I LOVE them
photographer: I am a wedding phtographer and my partner is shooting the wedding for free
cake: no cake. we are doing a dessert table with cheesecake, pastries, etc
dinner: the cost of buffet vs seated is actually VERY similar. $32.50 PP for seated or $30.00 PP for buffet. We’re doing seated
Save-the-Dates: designed myself, printed at Vista Print for under $30
Invites: again, designing myself and printing myself. The only cost we wil have is the paper/envelopes
Lighting: we are having one wall with draping and lighting. Along with leather couches and chairs in the bar area. While the lighting/draping is a splurge, the furniture is not. I am disabled and can not stand for more than 30 mins. And we’ve saved so much on DIY items the $600 for draping/lighting is no biggie
Drinks: caterer includes unlimited tea, water, and soda. We’re doing signature cocktail and white and red wine at the bar. Fr a $25 fee we can supply our own wine which we will purchase from Costco. The signature cocktail will be with med shelf liqour ๐Ÿ™‚
Attendants: I don’t have any.
Hair/Make-Up: one of my best friends in a hair dresser. Her wedding gift to me is my wedding day hair. My sister is a make-up artist so she’s doing my make-up.
Overall: We’re keeping the cost down by keeping it small. 50 people or less is what we expect so we will have trouble meeting the food and beverage minimum. We will make it up in alcohol lol

Post # 88
424 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@ kala way – what are you FOR with weddings?  DJs, guestbooks, sit down dinners and getting your hair done are a waste? 

Post # 89
764 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

i’m not buying a serving set… I’ll never use it again.

Not buying champagne flutes… the reception venue has some.

Not buying a super fancy guest book.

STDs for $20.

100 invitations for $100. Printing at office.


Post # 90
78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

In the grand scheme of things, I don’t regret anything we got for the wedding. Oh wait, I bought a photo guest book for like $30, but Adoramapix screwed up and didn’t deliver it in time. I know have a guest book with no signatures in it. 

A lot of people are bashing STDs, but I did mine for less than $40 with vistaprint (including postage). No big deal.

A regret on something we didn’t spend money on: a DJ. We decided to iPod it, and it turned into the biggest nightmare ever. I wish we spent $500 and didn’t have to deal with it. 

Post # 91
274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

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@phxgal10:  What happened to make it a nightmare?  We’re considering using our iTunes on a laptop.

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