(Closed) What do you REGRET spending or think is a WASTE of money on for the wedding?

posted 9 years ago in Money
Post # 92
785 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

FRESH FLOWERS!  I saw the bill for $500 for a bunch of dead plants and said NOPE (and that was only for 5 bouquets of roses and daisies)!  I went DIY with fakes and don’t regret it a bit.  They are all done and I only spent $100 on them.  They look fabulous and I can’t wait to carry mine down the aisle!

Post # 93
410 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m not going to call any of it a waste because we all have different taste and priorities but this is what I personally do not see as needed:


Personalized napkins

Reception dress

Wedding coordinator

Monogram favors- people just don’t want them IMO

Open bar all night that consists of ALL types of alcohol

Insane amounts of food at cocktail hour or any food for that matter. If cocktail hour is right before dinner I think they can wait one hour. For what I’m paying for dinner I’d hate for my guests to get filled up on snacks and not eat the good stuff.

Save the dates- not necessary but who knows I may end up doing them

I found that buffets and sit downs were comparible in price, often buffets were more so I went with sit down just to avoid the buffet lines.

I had always wanted chair covers (hate banquet chairs) but my venue isn’t a hall and they have beautiful wooden chairs that do need covering.

The one thing I am considering that others have thought as a waste is transportation. Initially I was going to do ceremony and reception at one venue but now I’m thinking church so I’d like the wedding party to all ride together.

I have certain things I will skimp on and certain things I will splurge on…it’s all a matter of priority.




Post # 94
78 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

@Elle_Neotoma: It was a nightmare because we weren’t familiar with the sound system. We rented a private house for the wedding, and when I first met with the owner he assured me we could operate an iPod. Turns out we couldn’t. We spend 2 days with multiple people trying every solution to run our playlists off the sound system. We finally were able to burn cds and play them on the DVD player, but it caused us all a huge headache. If you are familiar with the sound system you’ll be using, go ahead, but make sure you designate someone to run the iPod (switching playlists, skipping songs that aren’t working for the dance floor). 

Post # 95
1077 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Nothing.  I feel like we spent a fortune, and I wish we’d spent more.  

Post # 96
178 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I feel like i wasted money on my veil! i really didnt care that much about what my veil looked like so i let someone else pick it out and it was 250…i saw some at davids for under 100 later on and it made me regret it!

our candy buffet, since we already had favors for everyone and its not going to be what i would want from a candy buffet:-(

thats it so far for me!

Post # 97
20 posts
  • Wedding: September 2011



I’m so glad you said that!  Everyone looked at me funny when I bought comfortable shoes (and they were on clearance for $12)!

Post # 98
20 posts
  • Wedding: September 2011


I saw you might make your own veil.  I know someone that did this and they bought a childs veil after halloween and added beads and rhinestones and a fancy clip…..it was beautiful and really cheap.

Post # 99
3148 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

I’m against favors for every place setting. not very many of the guests will really care about them, and I think they’re very wasteful– all that packaging going into the landfill! who needs them?

Post # 100
371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I wish we didn’t request transportation from the hotel to the ceremony. We did it because all of our guest are from out of town, including the grandparents, and they’d be in their wedding get up, but really…most of them are young enough to walk on their own and it’s only about a 10 minute walk. I kind of wish we’d cancel that and planned to transport the grandparents in cars. I guess we can’t back out of that now with just two days to go.

Post # 101
150 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

ooh, i like this thread.

i think flowers are a waste of money.  i DIY’d a ribbon rose bouquet for me and button bouquets for my ladies.  i’ll figure out something for the guys and moms/grandmas….but it likely won’t involve flowers.  my cheap booty will not spend on thousands on something that will die the next day.

save the dates.  i did them for the people who are traveling and the bridal party, but not for everyone.  11/11/11.  you can remember that. 🙂

chair covers.  i’m having them only because alcohol was of the utmost importance for me and the “awesome alcohol” package at the venue also included chair covers as part of the deal.  if they weren’t included, no way would i have them.

crazy expensive shoes.  i spent $20 at marshalls.  and i couldn’t be more happy with them.  i danced around in them for days when i found them.


Post # 102
2319 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Extra decor. Most banquet halls are exquisite to begin with. There is no need to spend any extra money to pretty it up more. They look good the way they are. Really!

Favors. Who needs ’em? Or more importantly, who gives-a-shit about ’em? People chuck ’em usually or eat them. If they can eat them, then why bother with those anyway? They are eating a world-class meal at the reception as it is, aren’t they!?

Flowers. Why go beyond the bouquets, corsages, bouts?

Too much cake. Nobody ever eats enough of it. Just get same fake tiers in there if you absolutely MUST. Save lots of money!


Post # 103
5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

Thank you for posting this I find myself wondering the same thing.

Post # 104
371 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I ended up not having to pay for the transportation anyway as the hotel messed up the schedule and gave us transportation for free! Woohoo!

Post # 105
477 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

Honestly, I feel like all of our big ticket items (church, photographer, pastor, transportation, and reception venue) were bang-on in terms of their value and worth.  A few things cost more than we thought or wanted, but then we saved in other areas so it evened out in the end.  Could not have been happier with our vendors.

The only thing I really ended up thinking were a waste of money were a ton of smaller purchases I made in the last 2 weeks before the wedding.  Common sense just gets thrown out the window at that point and you start buying a BAJILLION little things and that really adds up.  I got striped paper straws because I think they’re so cute and they looked great in our photos, but I had 800 of them leftover!  They were only like $20, but I still feel like I overdid that.  Then there were the foam Oasis I ordered online two different times because I forgot I’d already ordered them and couldn’t return!  And the HUGE spool of baker’s twine I got to tie each individual wedding favor (which took SO LONG TO FINISH!!)  I will never need twine again in my life.  Then I bought FOUR different cardigans to wear with my reception dress (a short little number I got on sale, great value on that purchase) because I didn’t have time to go shopping and try things on.  I bought a faux fur wrap in case I got cold (even though I already had a bolero to wear).  I ended up wearing the wrap for 20 minutes total before I went into the church.  Countless Target, Walmart and Dollar Tree runs for “last minute things.”  And it goes on and on.

Each of these purchases were only $20-ish but it really added up at the end when you just don’t care about price tags and go into “OMG-IM-GETTING-MARRIED-I-NEED-IT” mode.  Luckily, we gave ourselves a little “last minute wedding planning insanity” cushion, but I get annoyed by the money I COULD have used to furnish our house or something.

Things I didn’t PERSONALLY see a point in spending money on for our particular small wedding:

  • A fancy card box.  (We grabbed one at Walmart for $10).
  • An expensive wedding cake.
  • Expensive liquor.  We went with beer, wine, and champage and it was perfect.
  • Arranging a hotel block at an expensive hotel.  We went for 1 mid-range hotel for all of our guests (Four Points Sheraton) and all of our guests thought it was great.
  • Expensive programs (we made our own).
  • Special linens or place settings (our restaurant provided plain white table linens and plates and glasses.
  • A DJ (but only because we were having a lunch reception at a restaurant and we knew we’d only be dancing for a little while).
  • Elaborate ceremony flowers (we got married at a small white historic church so I just made my own arrangements).

But these were all very particular to our wedding, which was a small 60-ish person affair with a morning ceremony and lunch/afternoon reception.  

Post # 106
1051 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

The only issue we had with our wedding that we would do over is the alcohol. My mom went a little crazy and bought 80 dollars worh of wine, beer and champagne PER PERSON including children. Needless to say, we had a ton left over and most places do not let you reutrn (even if they have previously said they would -_-) We’ve given most of it away as gifts but really, it was overboard! 

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