(Closed) What do you REGRET spending or think is a WASTE of money on for the wedding?

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Post # 108
2103 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

The only thing I wasted money on was buying too much food. Looking back, there are some details that I wish I had included, and wouldn’t have cost much, but they got lost in the shuffle. But I’m not disappointed that they weren’t included. Everything was perfect.

Post # 109
6 posts
  • Wedding: August 2012

Hi ladies, I have to contribute to this post as I’m in the same boat here. Planning a wedding on a modest buget. My fiancee and I want our day to be memorable and spectacular, but we are both on board with saving $ where we can. From what we both remember from everyone’s wedding that we’ve ever been to are a few important things:

We are not going to skimp on the following:

  • Band (music is the key to a great party)
  • Venue (we got our perfect venue for $35/day! haha)
  • Food (we’re doing buffet, and it’s very resonanably priced)
  • photographer (after all photos are the only thing left after a wedding)
  • my dress (I did not put a price on that, I would never spend thousands of dollars on something for one day, but I am going to buy what I love)
  • transportation/D’D’s after the wedding (I want everyone to get home safely so we’re going to provide transportation back to town for our guests so that no one drives after drinking)
  • Open bar all night (we feel it’s a considerate thing to do, and guests really appreciate it, plus whatever we don’t use can be returned to the LCBO)

Things we will not be spending much money on:

  • invitations (it’s true, they get filed away or thrown out…not worth it)
  • Save the date’s
  • a cake (we are not having a cake at all…and my friend is going to make cupcakes for me instead)
  • flowers (my Future Sister-In-Law is a florest/wedding decorator, so she will find us a cost effective way to get a nice look for the day)
  • favours (we have an idea for something simple and inexpensive)
  • chair covers/linens (again future SIL to the rescue…she’s going to give us this stuff to use)
  • hair/makeup (I’m doing my own makeup and my girls willl do theirs also…and as far as hair my other Future Sister-In-Law is a hairdresser and will be able to do this for me…I know I lucked out with the SIL’s hahaha!)
  • personalization/monographing
  • transportation to the reception (our venue is 5 mins from our ceremony site so we’ll all be driving ourselves)
  • shoes…(I have a cute pair of white Guess flip flops that I spent $35 on and I plan on wearing them all day and night…their comfy and cute, with crystals and a bow)
  • lots of extra last minute “decorative” purchases…no one really remembers what was on the tables (besides the centerpieces) or the gimicky things that brides get caught up buying last minute

I’m sure we’ll find other things to save on…but from weddings we’ve been to, the things we decided to spend on are the things we remembered and appreciated in the past.

Good luck to everyone planning! Enjoy it because it will go by so fast and then it’s just a memory.


Post # 110
12 posts
  • Wedding: October 2012

The only real thing I regret spending money on is the limo bus. I had this idea since high school that on my wedding day I wanted the entire wedding party together, hanging out and having drinks. So once I got engaged, this was one of the first things we booked.  Then we thought about logistics-our church and the reception hall are a 15-20 minute drive apart. I dont want to waste a lot of time driving around, I’d rather have that time once photos are done to spend with my guests before dinner. But now I’ve signed a contract, so that’s a $600 twenty minute car ride. Everything else I’ve come in under budget, but I’m really mad at myself for this crazy mistake.

The two little things that we spent money on that I REALLY dont regret are the STD’s and personalized napkins. My family is large and VERY forgetful, and if I didnt hand out STD they literally would NOT have had time to book the date off work. However, I made 100 STD’s for $15, I bought a package of printable magnet sheets from Staples, and designed and printed them myself. This way, people put them on their fridge and they didnt lose them in the months before the wedding. As far as the napkins went, personally I had never even considered them, but my Fiance was super excited, so I shopped around and found a sale online (100 napkins for $24!). Now that they’re here they’re actually pretty cute-although if they had cost more than $40 I dont think I could have justified it.

Post # 111
814 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Thinks my husband and I felt were a waste of money so we skipped:

Groom cake


Flowers (we did DIY, cost us nothing)


Engraved anything

Engagement photos (this might be regional, NOBODY does it here. Seems strange to me?)

We also did cupcakes instead of a proper wedding cake because 1) I hate cake 2) wedding cake almost ALWAYS goes to waste.


I’m interested to see so many people against sit down dinners. I think it must be a regional thing, I’ve been to about a dozen weddings and they’re ALL been sit-down. People here would be really weirded out by buffet I reckon.

Post # 112
2692 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Love this post.  We want our weddding to be memorable and for people to have fun but like many brides, we’re also on a tight budget so some things have to go.

Things I deem not necessary for our wedding:

tears of joy packets (really?)

Personalized bridal hangers

OOt gift bags

Bathroom baskets (all they need is tp, water and soap which is all at the venue).

Personalized Bridal Party bags

Personalized napkins

Wedding planner (I have time and love to plan)


Things I think aren’t necessary but I wanted them anyway

Menu cards


Save the dates (fun and I spent $5 on 10… I did a Facebook save the date too).

Engagement photos: had Fi’s cousin take them using Fi’s really nice canon SLR camera.

Candy buffet: originally I wasn’t going to do this but I love the look and since it’s never been done in our circle I know it’ll be a hit…saving money by only doing it for the kids at the wedding though.

Cake: I LOVE cake and found a bakery that does wedding cakes for $70


Things I DIY’ed because they weren’t worth the money to buy:


Garter (well I did buy one for $3)

Ring Pillow

Invitations (Fi is actually doing/designing all the paper so we’re saving a ton). Just the cost to print.

I am frugal, so most of the stuff I got I got at a steal:  my dress was less than $300, so was our photography. Flowers are costing less than $300 too and that is for everything, including centerpieces. The venue is less than $400. Ceremony is in our backyard, so need for fancy decorations. Cocktail hour will consist of light snacks, etc…


Things I wish I could have but arent in the budget:

Chair covers: so not doing them as they are too much $$ but I like the look of them and would add a little something to the plain brown metal chairs

Transportation: just seems fun

Videographer: we’ll have video and Fi will edit so I guess not missing out really.

DJ: while we are happy to be saving money, I would love a pro.  However, Fi’s cousin is a dj so he will be a big help. 



Post # 113
11259 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

i was an encore bride and had a lot of regrets from my previous wedding so this time i didn’t want any regrets.

if i wanted it, i got it.  keep in mind, we had a small wedding but things still add up.  i did a lot of diy projects to keep costs down.  my husband doesn’t even want to know how much everything cost.

no regrets.

Post # 114
879 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’ve been trying to be very budget conscious but I can understand how certain brides feel like they need this or that for their wedding.  We’re still in the early stages of planning, but I’m pretty sure we won’t be doing/having:

– Monogram anything (I actually think they’re cheesy).

– Expensively designed cake.  I’ve always liked simply designed cakes the best.  We’re using fresh florals on our cake, which I love the most anyway.  Plus I’ll always put taste in front of looks any day when it comes to cake.

– Chiavari chairs. I’m actually pretty sad about this, but I’m sure it will be a no.  They fit the more elegant look I want, but  I was quoted over $1500 for chiavaris and when I really think of it, it seems unreasonable to spend that amount on less comfortable chairs that people will sit on for 3.5 hours.

– Live ceremony music.  I’m really really sad about this one, but our venue requires all equipment to be insured so we’re having our DJ provide the sound system for the ceremony.  So $700 just for 30 mins of ceremony music was too much 🙁

– Limo.  I actually had a limo company tell me he wouldn’t recommend spending the money for a limo since we technically only need it for a 10 minute roundtrip drive back.  We’ll do taxis for those who need it at the end of the night.

– Fancy videography.  I just want something clean.  Those edited mini movies are great, but not necessary especially since it will only be watched a few time.

– Expensive shoes.  Won’t be seen and I think many brides splurge on shoes just so they can say “Look how much I spent on my shoes, everyone!”

– Programs.  FI wants them though, so we’ll see.  I rather people focus on us versus the programs.  Menus we’re doing one per table.  All paper goods are short-lived and seem such a waste to spend so much time and money on them.

– Excessive decor.  Pretty, but sometimes less is more.  We’re splurging on uplighting though since our venue won’t allow any decorations (unless freestanding) and the walls are SO stark!

Post # 115
942 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I think expensive invitations and favors are a waste of money, I’ve never kept either after a wedding…and I’m not getting multiple dresses either for ceremony and reception. One dress is enough!

Post # 116
744 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

We did save the dates because our wedding is between Chrstmas and New Years, plus all but 10 guests are traveling from out of state. We designed them ourselves, and found a Vistaprint groupon, so the price was decent. People were pushing us to do them, so we came up with an obnoxious, yet perfect for us design.

We’re skipping a lot of things, and doing the rest ourselves. No DJ, no videographer, photographer is a friend who will be doing it for free (though, this might be up in the air at the moment), no florist, no bartender (though I might try to find some people to bus tables after dinner).

Post # 117
493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Pretty much everything, lol.  I wish we’d had a small private ceremony with just our family and a few friends.

Post # 118
100 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We’re cutting out a lot of the extras to save money especially on the things I doubt anyone will notice.  Some things we personally think are a waste of money and won’t be doing are:

Save the dates, uplighting, real flowers, chair covers, favors of any kind, monogramed anything, catering, videographer, huge centerpeices, china, alcohol, basically anything that isn’t really important.  It’s a very budget wedding so I tried to save money by doing a lot of things myself, using help from friends/ family, and eliminating things people wouldn’t notice like nice plates and napkins, pew bows, etc. 

Post # 119
195 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012


Things we are not doing:

  • Chair covers
  • Limo
  • Open bar
  • Monogrammed anything
  • Personalized champagne flutes
  • Elaborate centerpieces
  • Flowers that aren’t for the wedding party
  • Videographer
  • Photobooth
  • Up lighting
  • Save the Date cards (really?  when did this suddenly become a trend?? Waste of $$)
  • Favors (no one likes them and you’re usually left with a whole bunch left over)

Things we are doing to save $$ in lieu of items above:

  • Using chairs at the venue.  They are elegant, padded and comfortable.  They also fit the ballroom decor, so why pay for chair covers?
  • We’re driving ourselves to the hotel, free valet for wedding party & guests
  • Cash bar – not too many drinkers in our family.  Couldn’t justify an extra $18 per person when only a handful will drink.  The venue includes a champagne toast for the wedding party & all guests as part of the reception package.  That’s all we need!
  • Using the linens provided by the venue.  They’re beautiful and elegant.  No monogrammed napkins that no one will ever keep or care about.
  • Using champagne flutes provided by venue
  • Centerpieces provided by venue are simple & elegant.  Mirror tray with water-filled vases and floating candles with rose petals
  • Don’t need elaborate flower arrangements that are just going to wilt & die.  We’re doing a simple bouquet for me (ivory roses with greenery & an ivory bow), a bouquet of seasonal flowers for my Maid/Matron of Honor, bouts for the groom, Bridesmaid or Best Man & my son and coursages for my mother, Future Mother-In-Law & FStep-daughter
  • Our good friend is a  photographer and she’s offered to do our photos for a fraction of the cost

I see so many people spending thousands of dollars on a wedding and it makes me cringe.  I guess I’m just frugal, but all I can think of is “that money could be spent on a down payment for a home or saved”!


Post # 120
2965 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Yes I agree I believe uplighting is a waste, I dont get it either. My venue already comes with lights you can dim or light up as much or as low as you want it. Though I think the drapery can be very pretty but I’m not doing it.

Post # 121
942 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

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@ohheavenlyday:  I totally agree with you on the “reception dress”, I just don’t get it. After all the money I’m spending on that Pronovias, I told my Fiance I’m wearing it for 24 hours straight lol.

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