(Closed) What do you remember about weddings you DISLIKED being a guest at?

posted 11 years ago in Beehive
Post # 17
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Honey Beekeeper

One wedding I attended this summer had a very abrasive Master (Mistress?) of Ceremonies during the evening, and then we found out she was the lead singer of the band that would be playing later. She went on to sing a lot of songs that aren’t super wedding appropriate. It was awful.

Post # 18
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I went to a wedding where the speeches lasted 3 hours. And they were so boring. When the speeches were finally finished it was 10:00pm and we had to be out by 10:30, so there was only a 1/2 hour of dancing. Because of this wedding we have a rule “No Speeches!” 

Post # 19
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Where to start? Bride was 1.5 hours late (getting her hair done); priest had to rush through ceremony to be out of there in time for the second wedding scheduled at the church that day; bride & groom’s caravan blocked several guests in the church parking lot for 30+ min as they tried to gather everyone together who needed to head over for photos; bride & groom almost 2 hours late to reception; buffet sat waiting for us as we sat through 2 hours of speeches (with no breaks); bride’s aunt (a minister) felt she had to redo the ceremony because the priest had been so quick earlier, so she proceeded to give us a sermon which included the duty of the wife “to submit to her husband” so that he has the confidence and strength to make the right decisions throughout their marriage (I’m not making this up); some diabetic guests began getting faint from the long wait for dinner, so they announced that we could quickly step outside to fill our plates but please, out of respect for the speakers, hurry back so that the reception can proceed and they’d appreciate it if we didn’t go back for seconds as it would be too disruptive while the speeches continued; bride & groom left for a costume change then returned and did a dance around the room — guests got up to dance with them but after a few songs the music stopped; bride & groom went to cut the cake but no one was allowed any (!). I’m afraid at this point I could take no more and we left.

We actually had a really good time because our table (in the back of the room) was full of hilariously fun people so we were able to misbehave a little and at least keep each other entertained.

Oh, and the kicker is that the bride is a professional event planner.

Post # 20
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I have a real doozy for this one…

The wedding was held in a huge barn but had a small guest list so it just seemed empty. The tablecloths weren’t ironed and there was very little other decoration. The guests all arrived at the reception hall and had to wait almost 2 hours for the wedding party to arrive before the “buffet” was opened. The “Buffet” for this evening wedding consisted of a fresh fruit plate with yogurt, raw veggie sticks with dip, really soggy defrosting/frozen shrimp, spinach dip, and dry chicken skewers. At first people assumed that this was the appetizer section of the buffet but then it became clear that this was all that would be provided. The only beverages were sweet tea and beer. Now, all this would have been fine (in theory) if the invites had said something along the lines of “join us for appetizers/snacks/cocktails” after the ceremony, but instead the invitation read like a standard sit down dinner. The brides family left as soon as the toasts were finished. The toasts by the way were outstanding – as long as your definition of outstanding is the brides friend from elementary school (not in the large wedding party at all) stealing the microphone from the Maid/Matron of Honor and blurting out how wonderful it was that the bride had a baby on the way. Whoops! The parents of the groom were pissed all night because apparently they had sent him a large sum of money to pay for an actual sit down dinner – which clearly none of the money had been used for. They ended up going out and buying a bunch of mixers and liquor to make drinks for everyone. The groom spent 60% of the reception out in the parking lot doing shots (with alcohol he brought for him and his buddies to drink) while the bride was inside dirty dancing with not 1 but 2! of the ushers. The icing on the cake (which was the only edible thing in the whole barn) was that the favors were beer cozys which the grooms friends ended up stealing from all the tables to bring home for future parties.

But you know what? It makes for a great story now!

Post # 21
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Sugar bee

@KaiLunKat wow, that sounds like a wedding gone wrong from a movie.

I guess the worst wedding I attended is not bad in comparison. It was just too long. They hired a woman who played Elvis songs on her Ukulele. She was okay but the problem was there was no dancing. The bride’s family and friends were more than double the groom’s side and we watched no less than 4 amature (no music, 12 seconds per photo) slide shows prepared by her guests where one would have been fine. The worst part was that this was a German wedding so leaving before 4am is unthinkable unless you want to offend the couple. I think we spent the last 2 hours miserable, sitting at our table complaining about slide shows!

About a year later, while hanging out with  the couple, the bride mentioned that she was kind of disapointed the reception didn’t last longer. A long wedding without dancing is boring! I would rather have music I don’t like than no music at all.

I hope we don’t end up on this thread, our ceremony will be a full hour, it’s religious and there is no way of getting around it so I will start preparing people now.

Post # 22
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Man, I can’t compete with you guys at all. The closest thing I have is that at a cousin’s wedding one religious family member called her “a piece of meat that’s already been sold” because she and the groom had moved in with each other the month before. Thankfully it was only in a small group of immediate family members, but it was just horrid.

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

My story pales in comparison!  My fiance and I went to a wedding where he was a groomsmen.  The ceremony lasted an hour and 45 minutes, and when we got to the reception a bunch of people who hadn’t RSVP’d showed up so there were no seats left.  Fiance had a seat at the head table, and I had to wander around by myself until someone squeezed a chair in for me.  It was so awkward because I didn’t know anyone!

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

At both the weddings I’ve been to this year, the wait for the wedding party to arrive at the reception was obnoxiously long. It’s one thing to sit through a long ceremony, that doesn’t bother me, but once the formalities are over and the party gets started, it better get started!

Post # 25
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Oh gosh, I feel really bad posting this b/c I love the bride and groom dearly and they paid for it themselves but here goes:

At the wedding I went to this past weekend (destination) the ceremony didn’t start until 6:00pm and the cocktail hour did start immediately after – and went on for over 2 hours with absolutely not a bite to eat or a place to sit. When we finally sat down at our table(my feet were KILLING me) instead of putting food on the tables, the speeches started. And went on for another hour. Finally, we got some food, but it was too little too late – just a light salad and a few pieces of bread. There were several people throwing up in the bathrooms and in the reception room! It was disgusting, there was throwup everywhere!!

Turns out, no one knew ahead of time there would be no food and since the ceremony didn’t start till 6:00pm and we were all from out of town there was some heavy drinking going on beforehand. And we figured, why shell out money for a snack beforehand when we’ve paid so much for plane tickets and hotel rooms when we’re about to eat? Also, it was a very expensive city, so we were all trying to save money. They also didn’t give us food in our Out of Town bags – just bottled water and champaigne.

My theory is they obviously saved money by not feeding us, but they are both extremely skinny people who eat like birds – I know, I’ve been to several dinners with both of them. They probably thought no one would want anything to eat during cocktail hour and would want to dance instead of eat at the reception. Luckily, my FH and I are kind of heavy drinkers and know how to pace ourselves so we were good to go all night, and those who lasted past the salad were actually dancing and having a great time. I also feel bad critisizing anyone else’s wedding – especially those who are footing the bill themselves with no help from family.

 

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I did a post about this … I think it’s like 12 pages long now hahaha

Ok, what I hated was a cocktail hour with absolutely no place to sit … it was weird that I had to stand around for over an hour …

Also at another (I have only been to 2 1/2 weddings ever) which was outside … the aisle runner was on top of grass and everyone stumbled and almost fell over. It was really squishy and weird … nobody couldwalk on it!

Post # 27
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I went to a destination wedding and I wish they would have put down on the invitation or something that it was an appetizer only reception because my fiance was starving and little appetizers are not going to put a dent in his appetite.  They had a ton of booze (full open bar) but no food, we snuck out early just to go eat.  Nobody showed up and the people that did show up didn’t bring a gift! 

Another wedding was a fairly good friend of ours and we were seated with other people that we had never met and at a table of 10, only two other people had showed up (she had like 10 no shows).  So we sat there making lame conversation with two people we had never met, had nothing in common with and who were very shy/quiet.  I get the idea of assigned seating but I wish she would have put a little more thought into it because it was very uncomfortable. 

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

a bride who’s dress was too loose (strapless) and she kept pulling it up all the time.

a reception location that was trashy – some old, dark and panelled VFW type place.  

A ceremony that was behind the VFW place and next to some dumpsters in a gravel parking lot.

Food that was gross – deep fried chicken and nasty mashed potatoes with boxed gravy.

DJs that play terrible music from the early 80’s that no one can dance to.

 

In general I always remember the personal touches that make a wedding great – stories about chocolate truffles that were hand made by the bride’s german mother.  Also I always remember plated dinners vs buffet dinners.  I always like the weddings with plated dinners better.  I always like weddings better that have assigned tables too.  I hate it when weddings dont have assigned tables and i have to hold my spot all the time.

 

Post # 29
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Boxed gravy? omg

Post # 30
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Busy bee

wow – some of you guys are harsh i gotta say!!

i don’t think i can remember anything i really felt that strongly about to list here except their being not enough food at cocktail hour and everyone decedning on waiters as they came out b/c they were starving – and even that really wasn’t so horrible.

Post # 31
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Helper bee

I agree that my worst was the ceremony that lasted almost 2 hours!  I’m not catholic but I was assured by the groom’s very catholic family that the mass would last an hour AT MOST.  Two hours later I was pretty frustrated.  I think that if there is going to be a super long ceremony, let the guests know!  We had to board the coach bus at 12 to be at the 1:30 ceremony (that started late and didn’t get out until 3:30) and then we were bussed back to our hotel for our 5pm cocktail hour.  To be on the bus by 12, we all ate an early breakfast and we felt like the day went on FOREVER!  I think either having a ceremony that was closer to the reception or giving us a real break to eat (not cocktail hour “snack”) would have been much nicer.

 

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