Post # 1
I feel awful for my best friend. I am her Maid/Matron of Honor for her November wedding, and was supposed to leave this weekend coming for Tampa to host her bridal shower and bach party. She called this evening to let me know that we may have to cancel the weekend, and at first I was annoyed because we had a situation a week or two ago about maybe canceling and rescheduling, but this is for something much bigger. Her father has been in the hospital since last week and has for years not been in good health…they are moving him to hospice tomorrow. 5 weeks before her wedding she is going to lose her father and I have no idea what to say to her. I could tell she was just so overwhelmed with everything, I just wish I had the right words to give her the comfort she so needs. She has a few siblings and has always been the most responsible one, so I know she is going to be the rock for her family when she herself is falling apart inside. What do you do in a time like this?
Post # 3
Your her MoH 2nd but your her Boyfriend or Best Friend 1st and foremost. If you were already scheduled to go to see to host the parties, I say go anyway and just be there for her. When she’s not with her Father or SO she should be with you. You should plan little inexpensive things for you two to do to A.) Take her mind off her Dad being in a hospice and B.) Take her mind off of her wedding in general (unless of course thats what she wants.)
I say just be as helpful and encourging as possible as you can in a time like this. Be the type of friend you would want if it were you in this situation…
Post # 4
I agree with PP still go and just be for her she is going to need you more now! Just be there for her to talk to and a`shoulder to cry on.
Post # 5
I would lovee to still go down there. However in talking to her, it souned to me like if things go badly she’ll be making arrangements, but if he holds on for awhile she wants to spend as much time as possible with him.
Post # 6
Just call her and see what she wants–if she wants you to go, then do it, if not, no problem.
Post # 7
@MamaMegs721: I would go anyway just so taht you are there. your presence alone and the fact that you came to support her in any way you can will mean worlds to her im sure. Even if you only end up with some alone time while there. If something does happen or if she wants to do what other pp’s have said such as do somethings taht arent wedding related or do something to take her mind off of the situation you will be there. And god forbid something really bad happens you will be close by. the gesture alone will mean so much though IMO. Let her know though that you came out of support and that if what she needs is time with her dad alone than you understand and will be ok on your own for the weekend but you want her to knwo you are there for whatever it is she may need.