(Closed) Never mind.

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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3947 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I like to think my gaydar is pretty great.  BUT in the end, there are lots of flamboyant men out there who aren’t gay.  And who am I to say they are or aren’t gay?

I don’t say anything when I THINK someone is gay because it’s none of my business! 

Post # 4
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1093 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

For me, probably nothing. I’m sure she knows, she has to if he’s that flamboyant and if she doesn’t she’d in for a doosy!!!

Maybe they have some sort of an arrangement.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think that unless a man comes out and says he likes having sex with a man, he isn’t gay. He might enjoy musicals, sewing dresses, and walk around with limp wrists, but that doesn’t make him gay. if this guy keeps marrying women, obviously he enjoys being with women. And even if he was gay, you don’t know anything about her, maybe she’s a lesbian, maybe he makes her feel safe, etc. So what do you say when you meet a beard? Hi, nice to meet you.

Post # 6
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2981 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I thought this post was going to be about our men growing facial hair.

Post # 7
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1466 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Father's Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center

Nothing. You can never judge a book by it’s cover. Just because a man is feminine, it doesn’t mean that he is automatically gay. Some of my gay friends are some of the most stereotypical manly men you would ever meet, and they are also homosexual. I also have a few straight friends that are pretty feminine, but are straight. Never assume anything. To do otherwise can be very hurtful.

If she is just a beard, then I’m sure she knows something, but to acknowledge her as such before the cousin comes out of the closet can be the same as outing him. If he is gay and hasn’t done so, it’s for a reason. It’s just one of those elephants in the room that you can’t talk about until he does it first.

 

Post # 8
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478 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Eight6Eleven:  Same. And I was going to say that I’m fine with my Darling Husband having one, haha.

Post # 11
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1595 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

well to answer the title of this post “I don’t mind them, but I prefer clean shaven”

ETA: never heard of any other usage of the word

Post # 12
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54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

From my experience if you think he might be.. he probably is. I’d keep your trap shut though. It is mind boggling sometimes. Like, How can she NOT know! Hopefully she does and they’ve worked it out. 🙂

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Oh geeze laweeze. This must be some situation. You’ll probably just have to congratulate them and be happy for them! I can see how this would be amusing IRL tho…

Post # 15
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2009 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I thought this was about facial Hair.

As for the other, there are plenty of flamboyant straight men.

Post # 16
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13099 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Nothing.  Or at least “Congrats on your engagement!”

Just because he do some streotypically “gay” things, doesn’t mean he is gay.  To call him out as such is inappropriate and uncalled for.

ETA: I definitely thought this was about facial hair before opening the thread.

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