(Closed) What do you say to people who groan about your upcoming full mass?

posted 9 years ago in Catholic
Post # 77
399 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We had a few grumblers before hand, but not too bad.  Most of our families are Catholic (though many aren’t practicing and don’t typically go to Mass), while most of our friends are not.  Some of our non-Catholic friends were actually excited for the full Mass since they had never been to one.  It meant a lot to us to have the full Mass, and that’s what I told people.  I said that it means a lot to us to have a sacramental marriage, and I explained that having a full Mass as opposed to just the Rite of Marriage really doesn’t add that much time.  I’ve been to Catholic weddings both with and without Communion, and there really isn’t much time difference.  What’s another 20 minutes out of your guests day when it would mean so much to you?  If they’re such important people in your lives, they should be willing to spend that extra 20 minutes for something that means so much to you.  To me it seems really selfish for guests to complain about that when they’re there to celebrate the bride and groom’s marriage.  If it’s really that much trouble to spend 20 more minutes with us, why even come at all.  I heard no complaints about the length of our Mass the day of.  All I heard was how beautiful the Mass was.  It lasted about an hour (and I’ve never been to a Catholic wedding, with or without the full Mass, that was longer than an hour and fifteen minutes).  It was really special for us to have the full Mass, too, because it was the first Mass at which my husband and I were Eucharistic Ministers, so we were able to distribute the Precious Blood to our family and friends. =)  I think our guests might have appreciated/accepted/enjoyed the full Mass a little more because of that.

Post # 78
1018 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@Klb5882: hahah love it. It’s the least they can do for us =)

Post # 79
226 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I will have to have a bilingual mass… in Spanish and English. Half of the family only speaks Spanish, the other half English… so a full mass in 1 language isn’t bad at all.

Good luck & who cares what those other people think. It’s about the commitment to eachother & receiving this beautiful Sacrament of Marriage. 


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