(Closed) What do you say to people who say “dont do it!!!!”

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

No one says that to me because I’m older and blunt lol. I usually say the sex is too good for me not to.

Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

😉 This southern belle has bite… but here they call it sass lol!!!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I usually just look at them..say nothing and move along lol I can’t stand when people say that!

lol @ creb

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Something along the lines of, “That’s such an odd thing to say, considering you’re married…” works wonders.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I find that sincerity can really take the air out of a blowhard.  “Oh no, do you really hate Fiance that much?”  If they do have serious doubts, that’s hard to hear but good to know.  Otherwise, to continue “joking” like that is pretty mean-spirited and hard to do if you have the big eyes out. 

When some of FI’s friends responded to the news of our engagement with “about time!” I wish I had straight away said that that hurt my feelings, so it could have stopped.  Pointing out that something isn’t funny, it’s mean, is really necessary sometimes, and I always feel good about standing up for myself (too bad it’s too late to call them on it now!).

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

lol creb..

 

thats a good idea.. saying something that will MAKE THEM uncomfertable.. possibly. haha

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

Yes, I get this sometimes. If it’s coming from family or close friends, I don’t get upset. I’m only 22 and been with Fiance for 3 years – of course they’re worried about me, we’re taking this huge chance together and they just want me to be okay. So I usually say, “We’re sure and we’re very happy about the upcoming wedding – what are your concerns?” And then I try to address those concerns. 

If it’s an acquaintance, then of course it’s none of their business and I get really annoyed. 

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

It’s a really nosy and disrespectful thing to say. You could always respond like “Well, good think I’m not marrying you!”

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

No one I know has said that to me (only strangers in passing) and I usually say, “Oh, I’m really looking forward to it!”

but I would like to say…”Just because you made a bad decision/are a poor spouse doesn’t mean i did/am!”

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Yup,I have gotten this before. Ive gotten it mostly from males though! All the females Ive told have been excited (yay weddings!) and then some of the men are skeptical. Who really cares though – if you know you are happy and it feels right for you then it doesnt matter what other people say!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I would call them out.  Calmly: “Wow, that’s a really rude thing to say!”

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I got that today! I was leaving work on my lunch break to pick up my wedding license and my co-worker was saying. “Don’t do it.. DON’T do it!” Jokingly but almost seriously. I calmly looked at him and said, “Just because you got a divorce doesn’t mean I am. I have been w/ my Fiance for 5 years. I feel we have a strong foundation to help us with this journey.” BAM! He shut the hell up!

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