Post # 1
My SO and I have purchased a beautiful ‘1 carat’ enhanced moissanite stone for my engagement ring, and I’m so happy with the decision for so many reasons!
I am concerned, however, about how family and other (more ‘traditional’) people will react if they learn my stone is moissanite.
If you have a moissanite e-ring stone,
- What do you tell people if they ask if it’s a real diamond?
- How have people reacted when you tell them it’s moissanite?
- Do you regret telling people?
** You can answer any or all of the above, or just post general thoughts! Thanks!
Post # 3
If I had a moissanite, I’d probably tell close friends and family if they asked. But as far as people at the grocery store or post office are concerned, it’s a diamond. People tend to go “Oh… yeah? OK, that’s nice…” It could be a pain to keep trying to explain it to people.
Post # 4
If I had one, I wouldnt tell anyone! I mean, from what I can tell, there isnt really a way to tell right? Unless its like Kardashian size, I cant picture anyone saying “is it real?” Although, there are some rude people out there!
Anyway congrats on your ring, and please post pics!!
Post # 5
I do have a moissy, and how much I say somewhat depends on the person.
With people I don’t know very well, I employ a “If they don’t ask, I won’t tell.” policy. Where I’m from, I get a lot of rude comments on the size, and it drives me bonkers. However, the people who have something to say about my “diamond” being too big for somebody my age are the exact same people who would turn around and criticize me for having a “fake diamond” if they really knew. Hence, I’m fine with them thinking it’s a diamond. If they asked me outright, I wouldn’t lie…but so far, nobody has.
Generally though, I’m happy to tell people I know well about it (family, close friends, etc.).
In fact, I kind of like explaining Moissanite to people, because I think it’s such a cool option. It has a really interesting history, and its a really beautiful stone in its own right. The chemical/crystalline structure and properties are pretty neat (for a nerd like me). I’m a science teacher, so I love explaining this kind of stuff to people.
Post # 7
Honestly no one ever asks me or even comments. The first comment I had was from a GUY (I’m 110% sure he’s straight) today, saying it was a nice ring. Must just be where I am.
If someone specifically asked if it was a diamond or not, I would probably tell them. If they said “that’s a beautiful diamond” (ie. like a grocery store cleark) I would probably just say thanks. Usually they don’t REALLY want to know, lol.
Post # 8
I don’t have one, but if I did, this is how it would go down:
Tactless person: “Omg is it real?”
1. “Yeah it’s 14 carat gold” Play dumb and answer about the band.
2. “Yeah I love it too!” Answer a different question.
3. “Ew there’s a bug in your hair!” DISTRACTION!
But seriously. Who asks that?
Post # 9
In my opinion i would think that no one would or should really ask. I have never heard of moissanite until joining the bee and if i had to have known about it i would have one they are so beautiful! i seriously drool over all the moissanites on this board. Just be proud of your beautiful ring and ignore anything negative that might come your way!! your lucky to have a man that wants to spend his life with you thats all that counts and on the plus side you get to rock an incredible sparkly stone
Post # 10
I tell everyone it is a Moissy! They are usually really interested in it and I am now not the only Moissy owner i know IRL Yes I got friends to buy them too! Everyone loves how much sparkle it has and the price tag! I have never regreted telling anyone!
Post # 11
I don’t have one, but I wouldn’t tell. I’d probably tell my close fam, but not everyone.
Post # 12
I havent received my Moissy yet (soon!!!) but I plan on being honest for those who ask. I love the stone for what it is and think that the world should know about it!
Post # 13
@KatyElle: I agree with you about it being a pain to always explain to everyone – but I wonder if you would tell close people if they *didn’t* ask?
Post # 14
@Cupcake2012:That’s what I was thinking – who would have the nerve to ask? But there are totally people who aren’t aware of how not nice asking sounds… Thanks! I have no idea when he’ll pop the question but I’ll post when I have the ring for sure!
Post # 15
@MrsBroccoli: I’ve thought about evading the question too, unless the person is also thinking about getting engaged and could benefit from the Moissanite info.
Thanks for your input!
Post # 16
Thanks, everyone, for all your supportive feedback and helpful input!
I totally agree that more people should know about how awesome an option moissanite is. I think I’m just concerned that the news will spread to people who take it the wrong way and then people think my SO is ‘cheap’ or that my ring somehow now has less value.
I know that what matters most is the meaning it holds for me & us, and that this decision was actually decided on after careful consideration of the options – and we PREFERED it to diamond!
At this point I think I’ll let people think what they want, and if they explicitly ask, depending on who they are, I’ll either tell them the truth (and all the awesome things about it), or evade the question somehow like britishbroccoli mentioned – ha!