(Closed) What do you tell people when they ask “how did you know he was the one?”

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
1246 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I say that there wasn’t one big magic moment, but that it was a gradual process of building our friendship and getting to know one another (and fall in love!). It just eventually got to a point where I realized that if he asked me to marry him, I’d say yes. And then he did. 🙂

Post # 4
5822 posts
Bee Keeper

Like the sappy line in As Good As It Gets, he makes me want to be a better person.  Who wouldn’t want to be with someone who made you truly feel worthy of life?

Post # 5
898 posts
Busy bee

I have trouble with this too, especially since I’ve been engaged before (and didn’t go through with it). It’s kinda like the boy who cried wolf…every time I give them an answer, they give me a skeptical look or they just literally blurt out "But isn’t that how ____ made you feel?"

Basically I tell them that I found the right person at the right time in my life, and that he makes me feel like the most important person in the world. Of course I tell them how much I love him and how much better my life is with him, too. But I think it’s very important to feel like a priority in his life.

Post # 6
1205 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Are they being genuinely interested, or skeptical? That would influence my answer.

I don’t get that question a lot. Not sure why. I guess most people know us together and the answer is obvious. If I were asked, I think your answer is great — I love him and I want to spend the rest of our lives together. 

I also think, "when you know, you know" is fine; another trite saying I never really understood until it happened to me. 

Post # 7
443 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

The moment I met him something inside me clicked and I knew he was different somehow. He intrigued me and I was instantly drawn to him. Obviously it was for good reason because 5 wonderful years latrer we’re getting married- and in 3 months!!

Post # 8
1266 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Its what the heart wants, as simple as that

Every single woman on here can go on a tangent of how love is this, and love is that, and blah blah blah, but there is a simplicity to love, and thats it!


Post # 9
2324 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I tell them that it was when I realized that I missed him when we weren’t together. We went from friends to engaged very quick, so I got this question a ton! We’ve been married for 6 years in August though and planning to renew our vows next summer.

Post # 10
818 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I know he’s the one because I try to picture life without him and it’s blank. There is nothing there if he isn’t with me.

That kind of sounds silly, I just reread it. Hmm. Oh well.

Post # 11
65 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

My response is exactly the same as AmySue’s.

Post # 12
126 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Honestly…I just say…’I just knew’.  Sounds cliche but it’s true.  I’ve dated enough guys to know what I wanted and what I didn’t want.  I met him…we became friends…we started liking each other and dated exclusively…and somewhere along the way you just knew.  You can picture spending the rest of your life with that person =)

Post # 13
286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

Not to quote Sid from Ice Age 2 . . . lol. . but. . . . . i say "He completes me." He is the ying to my yang and i cannot even rember my life w/o him. And when i try to picture my life with someone else that isnt him. . . i cant picture it . . . there is no picture because he is my paint

Post # 14
256 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I have yet to get this question…To be honest I hope no one asks me because I would find it very hard not to give a sarcastic reply.

Post # 15
14183 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Hmmm. I feel like this is a real personal question. If you answer poorly, people are disappointed. If you go on and on and on they’re like "ok i get it". I just don’t like people asking this of me and judging me b/c it’s really none of their business. Once they find out my Fiance was deployed and we’ve been LDR for so long, sometimes people like to pipe in that maybe we should wait a few more years or make a comment about "you know how military men are". Yeah, bite me stranger!

I always say something sarcastic, like, "well, he stuck around long enough"or "anybody who can put up with my two cats is good by me". Sometimes, "meh, I just know we’re good together" works too. I’m just never sure what to say spur of the moment.

But in reality, with all his military obligations and him being gone, I realize how happier I am when he is with me. We’ve definitely spent more days apart than we have together. Thanks, US Army. And while I’m fine without him (honestly i’m one of those girls that could be single forever and probably be just fine. i’m just really independent and i figure i have to be happy by myself before i can be a good wife), I just notice that my life is that much brighter when i have him there. 

Post # 16
1048 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009 - City Hall

I agree – this is personal to the couple. I knew Mr. Mary Jane was the one within a month. We were just SO good together. We had our disagreements, but the understandings and closeness that we gained as a result of them really sealed the deal for me.

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