(Closed) What do you think?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Asking people to leave work early will
    Really piss people off : (15 votes)
    41 %
    Happily be done! Leaving work early for a wedding? that's the best! : (18 votes)
    49 %
    Other (see comment below) : (4 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
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    121 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Personally, I think it’s fine to do it at whatever time you want…as long as you aren’t upset if certain people can’t make it because they can’t get off of work. I know you said that it’s a holiday weekend and that most people will be leaving/will want to leave work early, but I know that some offices can be particularly strict about leaving early on those Fridays because everyone wants to leave. I say it’s your wedding and you can really do whatever you want, but you can’t be upset if people just can’t make it at that time. 

    Post # 4
    Member
    2063 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    When you explained it to me it made perfect sense. However, my *gut* reaction would probably be, *Huh??*”Babe, look, wtf?” ……..”Ohhhhh.”

    Post # 5
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    1245 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I don’t think it’ll necessarily piss people off, but it might pose an inconvenience. With that being said, this IS a once in a lifetime event, and those that truly love and support you will make a way to be in attendance for your wedding πŸ™‚

    Post # 7
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    121 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @jema: In that case, I think you should be fine! If your guests had ample warning and time to ask off, you have no reason to apologize for having the wedding you want (despite what your cousin’s wife says!)

    Post # 8
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    853 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Welp, if people think you’re being rude, I’m even worse – mine’s a Thursday midday courthouse wedding, and the reception is Friday night (begins 7 PM). So for out-of-towners, that’s a full 2+ days off. I’m a pretty darn selfless person – but when I planned the details, I absolutely was not thinking of people’s work schedules. Whoopsie! I don’t feel bad πŸ™‚

    Post # 10
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    1962 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I think you will be fine. If I were a guest who recieved that much notice I probably would just set aside some vacation time to come that day anyway. Considering the situation I think people will understand and those who can be there and are willing to leave early will do so.

    Post # 11
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    5993 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    am getting married on a Friday of a long weekend … Friday is NOT the holiday, but most people leave work early on this day anyways

    just a warning that people like me will be working even harder before a long weekend and have less time to be able to get away early on a friday – hopefully for this these people are the minority

    Post # 12
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    1798 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I don’t think people would be really pissed off about it, but I do think a lot more extended family and less close friends may choose not to attend since the timing is inconvenient. Just make sure that all of your VIPs (immediate family, close friends, etc) can make it before you book.

    Post # 13
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    942 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I, personally, would take the whole Friday off for a wedding! How exciting !! Although as other bees have said, being the long weekend it might be hard for your guests to take the day or afternoon off if other people in their workplaces have also tried to get the Friday off as well. As long as they tell work in advance though, it hopefully won’t be a problem. You’ll just have to bug them to make sure they tell their bosses early.

    Post # 14
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    366 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Im going to answer because you and I are both in Toronto (Im just east actually). Yes people around here normally leave work early on Friday, particularly on a long weekend, because they are trying to get a major head start on the nasty long weekend traffic. Everyone will be leaving work early, in fact for Labour Day weekend the traffic starts on Thursday as many people take the Friday off completely. If your ceremony or reception are anywhere out of the city and/or your guests must travel any ofthe 400 series highways I think it will be touch and go for them making it to your ceremony on  time unelss they take the day off to leave early. Traffic is snarled and backed up any Friday from 11 am through to 9 pm and the Friday of a long weekend is even worse, both east and west of the city.

    EDIT: Just saw your “towards Niagara” post. I think your guests will need to take the entire day off to attend, the travel time will be brutal. That may be financially hurtful to many, I know it would be to us so I would expect more casual friends may not attend, so you should be prepared for that.

    P.S. We are having a Sunday evening wedding, so I am in a similar boat in that some peopple willl find the time a problem, those who have to travel any distance may not be able to attend, though there are few of them. I am prepared to have “no” for several rsvps and thats ok.

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