Post # 1
Alright bees, I’ve got a question.
My FI and I have been working on pulling together gifts for our bridesmaids and groomsmen (along with the flower girl, ring bearer, and guest book attendent). But I have a question about these gifts.
Are these gifts to our wedding party from both of us? Or from me to the bridesmaids and him to the groomsmen? We’re just not sure.
How are you doing it?
Post # 3
I’m doing gifts to my girls and he’s doing gifts to his guys. I’m also putting together little groomsmen grooming kits for the day because one of our GM has a…. smelly… odour issue…. I feel awful saying that but the guy stinks! LOL! So I’m putting together little kits with deoderant, mini colognes, etc for all of them.
Post # 4
I would say each of you gives the gifts to your attendants as individuals. But unless you are worried about signing a card or something it’s not very obvious who the giver is any way.
Post # 5
I would say that the thought/sentiment is from both of us…but I’m in charge of the actual gifts to my girls, and he’s in charge of teh gifts to his guys (although I might end up picking them out if he doesn’t do it!).
Post # 6
Bump – Any more opinions / votes out there?
Post # 7
We see the gifts as thank you gifts. Thank you for being my/his friend and for supporting me/him in this whole endevaour. Since I asked the bridesmaids to be in the wedding party and he asked the groomsmen, we will be treating them as gifts from each of us as individuals.
Post # 8
How close are you to the guys and vice versa for your FI?
I think it could be person dependent. Meaning, if you are close to one of his GM, then address the gift from both of you. Or, if you have a BM that only you are close to – then address it just from you.
As a BM, I’d expect it to be from the person I’m standing up there for (most typically the bride). I wouldn’t think it was odd if the gift was from both the groom and the bride, but it seems to make it more personable if it was from the bride.
Post # 9
We are giving the gifts from both of us. While some may be his attendants and others mine I am grateful for everyone who is supporting us during this wonderful occassion.
Post # 10
We are both friends with everyone in the wedding party except for one of his groomsman (he’s know him since Kindergarten and I’ve only met him a few times). His sister is on my side and my brother is on his (but obviously those people are more supportive / more close to their actual sibling).
I actually had the idea for and found his groomsmen gifts too! The way I see it, they are all standing up there in support of both of us and are friends of both of us. The GM and BMs are getting different gifts, but it seems to make sense to me that they’re from both of us. Fi disagrees. I don’t really care, but I still want to give them to all of them together at the rehearsal dinner.
Post # 11
We each did o ur own gifts for our attendants. They each got something for the wedding and then another gift.
Post # 12
I’m giving to the maids and he’s giving to the men!
Post # 13
Our wedding party is all family, and we have been together of just over 10 years, so the gifts will be from both of us; however, my FI will be handing the guys theirs and I will be handing the girls theirs.
Post # 14
we’re giving gifts from both of us. the bridal party is standing up for our marriage so i think it is only fitting that we thank them from us.
Post # 15
The thought is from both but for me the gifts were me to my MOH and my husband to his BM