Post # 1
I’m trying to decide what to get my bridesmaids for gifts. I’m thinking of a gift basket type thing with several things in it. Originally I had wanted to get everyone monogrammed robes to wear to get ready in but I’m wondering if this is something they would want or would ever wear again. I also don’t want to be a bridezilla and force everyone to wear the same thing, but at the same time it would make for pretty pictures and I think I would like to wear a bridal robe myself. What is everyone’s opinion about the robes? What about other matching outfits to get ready in? Yay or nay?
Post # 2
I think it’s fine to ask them to wear the same thing– just be nice about it, and it should be fine! You can also ask them to put the robes on all on for a photo or two, then let them take it off/change into whatever else if they want to. I wear robes all the time and would definitely wear it again. That said, I think it’s also nice to give your friends non-wedding related gifts in addition to anything you’d like them to wear.
Post # 3
I think “getting ready outfits” are silly. And more times then not the “getting ready outfit” is not even a gift for your BMs but rather a gift for yourself because you want cute pictures. As an adult, I know what to wear to get ready in and to make sure that what I do wear is clean and appropriate for any possible pictures that may be taken.
If you want to wear a bridal robe then do so. If you truly believe that your BMs would love a nice new robe, then get them one (make sure it is a robe they would like such as long vs short, plush vs silk vs terricloth, etc), but do not require them to wear it when getting ready. If you buy anything that is for getting ready purposes/pictures then you cannot consider that part of their gift. Their gift should be individual and focused on their likes and hobbies, and have nothing to do with your wedding.
Finally, when you look back at your wedding pictures years from now, you won’t care what your BMs are wearing while they are getting ready, all you will care about is their happy, smiling faces and recall the fun you all had the morning leading up to your ceremony.
Post # 4
sammylouwho: I think they make cute pics but are not a substitute for a thoughtful gift. Remember too that if all your bridesmaids are not fit and slim, they may not appreciate being asked to have pics taken in a short robe.
Post # 5
Of the 4 weddings I’ve been in, 2 had getting ready outfits for us. Both were monogrammed button ups (different colors) and I wear the white one all the time with my leggings. It’s super comfortable and I think it’s cute! The bride gave them to us with our other gifts at the rehearsal dinner, so while neither technically asked us to wear them, it was assumed. I had no problem with it and thought the pictures of us getting ready were super cute.
Post # 6
Good advice, ladies. I agree that if I do get the robes there needs to be a non wedding related gift as well. I definitely don’t want to make anyone feel uncomfortable. I had even though about monogrammed sweat pants instead. Hmm! I will think on this a little more before purchasing anything!
Post # 7
I think they’re cute, I am totally ready to admit that I got them for my girls for the photos. I went with silky button down PJs instead of robes, though, for more coverage and comfort (nobody needs to keep their legs together!). Also, I think the chances of them using pajamas again is more likely than a short thin robe. By snagging awesome sales at Kohl’s and Target, I got all four sets for only $70USD, so that’s exciting.
I will be wearing this:
and the girls will be wearing this:
Post # 8
I think they make for very cute pics! I also think that your bridesmaid will appreciate whatever you give them! I was in a wedding and the bride gave us matching monogrammed button up too! I wear mine all the time! I love it!
Post # 9
missinthecity: Good to know! Do you mind if I ask what other gifts you got with the button up? I’m trying to get some ideas!
Post # 10
sammylouwho: Sure! My one friend did a lot of monogrammed stuff (makeup bag, etc.), which I honestly don’t remember because I don’t use them, and earrings, which were beautiful. My other friend got us each something individually – I’m not sure what others got, but she bought me a gorgeous bracelet that was definitely my style and is worn frequently. My sister bought us each totes (completely different – styled after what each girl liked) and pampering treats (bath bombs, nail polish, etc.), which I also loved.
I recently bought my girls their gifts at Kate Spade; I picked out something specifically for each girl based on her taste. I also bought them matching rose gold bracelets and am covering hair and makeup, but admit those “gifts” are for me too 🙂
Post # 11
thelibrarylady: very cute idea! I had not thought about PJ’s!
Post # 12
sammylouwho: I really wanted to do t-shirts or robes for my girls, and found some cute ones on etsy. But then I got cold-feet, wondering if they’d use them again and was it worth spending the money for basically an aesthetic. Long story short, I didn’t get them. Annnnd instantly regretted it. Told my girls the day of when they complimented mine (I got a “bride” one for me) and they were all like, “OMG totally would’ve loved it and worn it again!”
So…do it! But understand it’s a “fun” gift, so I wouldn’t spend a ton on it and I also wouldn’t make it their only gift. You could get robes or shirts in a certain color but without “bridesmaid” or their names and such on it. That’d be more wear-able.
Post # 13
In regards to the monogrammed items, make sure that your BMs are into monogrammed things. I realize, that for some reason, with weddings, monogramming is a huge thing, but not everyone likes having their initials or what not put on everything.
As far as Bridesmaid or Best Man gifts, shop for each person like it is their birthday or Christmas. The gifts do not have to have anything to do with your wedding. They should be focused on what they like to do or any hobbies they may have.
In the end, if you do buy something for “getting ready” pictures, realize that you can’t force anyone to wear anything they don’t want to.
Post # 14
I think it would be cute! Just make sure you choose robes (or PJs) that match the temperature. You don’t want to get nice fluffy robes if your wedding is in the summer.
Post # 15
I think short silk robes can be cute (not fluffy or monogrammed). But as others have said, it’s not really a gift for your Bridesmaid or Best Man, it’s just another outfit you’re asking them to wear in order to look uniform in pictures. I would make sure to get them something else along with it.