Post # 61
Hmmm I’ve never really thought about having baby showers for babies other than the first one to be an issue. I do see what people are saying, though. I still don’t think it would bother me personally, but I do see why it bothers other people.
My SIL had a baby shower for each of her three girls (her friend hosted them, though). My first and second niece are 7 year apart, and my second and third niece are 5 years apart, and I know she did give away most of the baby stuff between each baby. Some people might still think it wasn’t okay for her to have a baby shower for her second and third babies, but eh, whatever, I never even thought to care and I never heard anyone else complain either (not that that means there weren’t some people judging her privately, I suppose).
I personally am not a fan of having showers for myself, so I probably won’t have a baby shower for my first baby even (in a couple years), and especially not for any subsequent babies after realizing what people think of them lol.
Post # 62
- Wedding: April 29th, 2016
alfalfasprout10518 : This is definitely not the norm in my area, thankfully! Most people I know have a shower for the first and register for big ticket items in neutral colors if they’re planning to have more in the future so that they can use them for the next one. Sprinkles are more common in my area, but they tend to be small gatherings with light refreshments and small gifts, versus your traditional shower.
Post # 63
I think it seems pretty entitled and gross to have multiple baby showers when the various children are all born within a close timeframe and are presumably the product of planning.
Like, if this is someones third kid but it’s been five years since the last one, then ok it might make a bit more sense that perhaps this kid wasn’t expected and they have long since gotten rid of all their baby stuff.
But third kid in 6 years? Yeah no.
Post # 64
I’m torn. I like to get my friends cute baby stuff and if there’s a second child of another gender I’m ok with a sprinkle. Also if a lot of time passed between the first and second child and maybe they no longer have baby stuff? But the posters saying their friends had like four or whatever? Or three? Close together? That’s way too much.
Post # 65
I don’t personally know of anyone who has had a baby shower with the sole purpose of receiving gifts, that’s quite the assumption. The only way this would be truly rude in my book is if they noted in the invite that gifts were required. Other wise, I’d just assume they want to celebrate a joyous occasion in their lives with the people they love, which I’m all for no matter what number kid they are on!
Post # 66
abeeinlove : well, a shower by definition is a gift giving event. So it’s not assumption it’s fact based on the name of the party.
Post # 67
you are right about that, but I don’t think gifts are the driving motive behind parents-to-be wanting a baby shower. Most mamas I know just wanted to celebrate their pregnancy and baby. And that’s okay. There are real problems in this world lol. And if it really offends anyone’s sensibilities, they should absolutely not attend. Let everyone else have fun and be merry 🙂
Post # 68
Tbh I think it’s more hilarious that people say a second shower is tacky but a “sprinkle” is fine. All the sprinkles I’ve seen are just… baby showers. Getting together, eating snacks, giving the mom gifts (diapers are still gifts!) – that’s a baby shower. Which I think is fine! Just cracks me up that etiquette-obsessed people are okay with a second baby shower as long as it has a new cutesy name.
Post # 69
I think showers should only be for the first baby, as it’s a celebration of the couple becoming parents, not of the kid itself, otherwise it would be after the child was born.
I mean for anyone I’m close to, I usually bring a gift for the baby the first time I see it, doesn’t matter if it’s their 1st or their 10th and that’s very common in my circles. That’s how we celebrate each baby, as well as cooing over them when they’re here.
Post # 70
I’m currently pregnant with #2. First was a girl, now having a boy. They’ll be 2.5 years apart. Our families hosted a shower for our first and were incredibly generous. We didn’t know the gender so everything was gender neutral, so we’re pretty set. But, there are some things we need with two, so yes, I’ve created a registry BUT that’s because you can get this little thing called a “completion discount” starting after your due date or a few weeks before. Just because someone creates a new registry does not mean that they are hoping people will gift them things. My Mother-In-Law keeps insisting she wants to host a sprinkle, I am not too comfortable with them but it’s not a battle worth fighting if she wants to host a gathering for her side of the family. Now I’ll be even more happy that I have put together a registry for needed items. As pps said, you typically have so much baby stuff with your first that you don’t need more of many things (baby blankets everywhere!) so these kinds of suggestions are helpful.
I’m sure many people are greedy and want, want, want. But some appreciate a way to save money (completion discounts through registries) and don’t feel like fighting someone who wants to celebrate your new baby. Just today, I declined a friend’s generous offer wanting to host a sprinkle as well. It is possible friends and family are the big reason behind these things too.
Post # 71
My family has done baby showers for the first baby and then sprinkles for the next child of a different gender. Other than that, it looks very tacky. I’ll be going to a shower this weekend where the friend I know co-hosting has told me the mom invited a ton of people in hopes to get more stuff.
I like showers, but mostly to get to see family that we don’t see often. And as far as a sprinkle, I’d only be wanting gendered items.
Post # 72
- Wedding: May 2016 - City, State
We did a second baby shower for my 2nd daughter, but it was a STRICT noooooo gifts at all. Some people brought little things like a cute little onesie, or a small pack of diapers, but mostly we just wanted to celebrate that we were pregnant again. So I guess technically it wasn’t a shower, more of just a party/family gathering
Post # 73
i mean, within a years time you should stilll have the crib, changing table, bouncers, bottles and everythign else given. All you need to worry about is purchasing your childs diapers and clothes if the baby is a different gender.
It can get tacky with each kid you have. Im from California.
Post # 74
This was so interesting to me to read. I always assumed baby showers were to celebrate the baby. I didn’t realize people thought multiple showers were “tacky” but then again I’ve only ever been to a couple of showers and don’t have any children.