(Closed) What do you think about this “answer”

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 16
3774 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

I would say, “I agree, you are so right.  Lets go ring shopping”



Post # 17
576 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I think it feels like he’s giving you mixed messages. but I don’t know if he necessarily is. Too me (who is a complete outsider with limited information), it sounds like he loves you very much and is invested in your relationship. But isn’t really interested in getting married. Especially, being divorced, he may be disinterested in having another party and legalize your relationship. Again, this may not be the case AT ALL. but if he hasn’t directly, honestly, and upfront told you he wants to marry you. Then, maybe he doesn’t want to get married again. It sounds like he loves you very much and is perhaps afraid to share he’s feelings with you. Maybe you need to have a very open conversation to what the ultimate goal of “moving forward” is.

Post # 18
3460 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

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@jen24au: Haha!  I just read a book where someone says that his father taught him that falling on your face is forward movement (and good to do at times).  (This was in regards to jobs.)

Post # 20
82 posts
Worker bee

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@prshadow:Funny how everyone is so different with our needs. i too am divorced, very bad marriage. I would be over the moon to have my guy move in and never get married. When a person goes through a very bad divorce, you realize that piece of paper does not make a person stay or work any harder at a relationship. It should, but it doesn’t, so living together, in a non common law state would be the perfect situation for me.

I respect how you feel and your confusion, but I envy you, as stated in my story, can’t even get the guy to spend the night after 3 yrs 🙁 but at this point, giving up and trying hard to laugh at my most recently blinding mistake.  Good luck to you, I hope you get what makes your heart happy 🙂 

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