Post # 1
Hello lovely bee’s
I have recently had to sort out my own issues and as it usually is, when you have an issue girlfriends will talk to you about theirs. I have had a few chats with my friend or at least listened. She has been engaged over a year and her day is coming up but she has a little in-law issue.
Her Fiance has a Nephew who is a nice guy but his wife (they are both young) has since the day she first met my Girlfriend completely snubbed her. Of course it is at family events the most recent being xmas !
Initially I said for her to just be friendly with her, but I don’t think that continuing to be friendly and be received with a cold stare and then turned away from is something that should be allowed to continue. I asked if she told her Fiance and she has on the last few occassions which were very obvious.
Now her Fiance always greets this girl with a kiss and a hug and then she literally ignores my friend.
My friend is quite upset that her Fiance has again allowed this to go unabated. Moreso she is upset that after she walked up and greeted him and they exchanged pleasantries, she didn’t even acknowledge her, but that my friend waited a few minutes while her Fiance just talked and laughed with others and thinking that he missed it again, asked him if he saw it. He answered ‘yes’.
She is upset that he didn’t even acknowledge to her that he witnessed it and she said to me that had she not asked him, she believes he would not have mentioned it at all.
The next time they will most likely see them will be at her wedding. I agree that she should not have to expect that this person will greet him at the wedding and snub the bride.
I won’t say too much of what I think but rather see what others think.
PS there really is no reason for this. My friend is a very friendly girl. My take: My friend is very attractive and I think it is a case of envy but that is never an excuse.
how and who do you think should handle this situation.
i don’t think it is too much for a bride to expect that she will not be treated like and outsider and snubbed at her own wedding. Hmmmm
Post # 3
I don’t think anyone should have to invite anyone they don’t want to to their wedding. And I think it’s horrible that her Fiance isn’t more interested in standing up for her. That would be a big red flag for me.
Post # 5
Why doesn’t your friend start by just talking to this girl rather than starting a full on family war by not inviting her?
As for the FI- maybe he doesn’t think it is a big deal. What was he supposed to do- throw down his gloves and demand a duel for not acknowledging his partner?
Sorry but as adults I think we just have to accept that there are unpleasant people in the world and that as great as we are (or think we are) not everyone is going to like us and not everyone has to like us. If she doesn’t want to be civil well that is her choice but making a big deal out of it is not the answer.
Tell you friend to continue being polite to her and leave it at that. Other people will notice that the other girl is blankig her and it will make them think badly of her and not your firend.
Post # 6
I have to agree with J jaye. While annoying and rude I think your friend should just ignore her. Her Fi probably wants his cousin there. I don’t think your friend going to be an outsider at her wedding based on how this one person reacts to her. I say ignore the cold fish and keep it moving.
While I think she sounds annoying I don’t think her actions raises to the level of needing to draw a line in the sand and starting a family fued or not allowing this chick to come when that means a family member will miss the wedding.
Post # 7
Some people are just bitchy no matter what. I’d just ignore it. I think she needs to invite her to the wedding since she’s family. It’s her wedding day, she’ll probably hardly even notice she’s there let alone feel like she’s being snubbed by her.
Post # 8
@j_jaye: my friend does talk to her, she always includes her in the conversation and is ignored. So I would not say that my friend is starting a family feud, people need to take responsibility for their own actions and if anyone is causing a family issue it’s this girl but of course she is inviting her to the wedding. I just agree with her that the behavior is not right but I think it’s envy.
I do think that her Fiance should have somethng to say (just don’t know what) as not saying something is collusion in a way or at least allowing her the space to continue and perhaps looks like he doesn’t mind how his Fiance is treated. Jade is as much family as this girl is IMO