Post # 1
A friend of mine got this thank you note from the bride for a wedding she was in. Friend was a bridesmaid, bought a shower gift, a bachelorette gift, gave cash for the wedding, and threw/paid for a lot of the bachelorette party.
I can see both sides of this. So without further ado, is this an acceptable thank you note in your opinion? (Handwritten – cover of the card is pre-printed with “Thank you”)
John + Jane!
We love you.
So so so much.
Mary and Michael.
Post # 3
Kudos for the couple sending a thank you note; however, if I received it, I wouldn’t feel like it was very personalized to me, especially as a member of the bridal party. I remember practically writing my bridesmaids a novel inside of their thank-you cards!
Post # 4
- Wedding: February 2017 - Seattle, WA
@Gemstone: Agreed! I’d appreciate the gesture but it may sting a bit that my efforts weren’t more “acknowledged”, I guess? She didn’t even write “thank you”, although it was printed on the front. This would be ok to send a guest, IMO.
Post # 5
While its not thorough, I think its obviously that she is super-grateful in the note. When a bridesmaid does SO much in a wedding, there’s really no way to thank her enough.
Post # 6
@Kings7911: Yeah, I guess at the very least, I’d like a “Thank you for being part of our special day!” And I’d think that a “regular” (non-bridal party) guest would expect mention of their gift? Just because that’s what’s standard.
Post # 7
It doesn’t even say “thank you” and no, the pre-printed outside doesn’t count. It’s not hard to write…
I truly appreciate everything that you did to help me. Your gifts were so thoughtful and extremely appreciated. Love you so, so, so, so, so, so much (seriously, a ton!).
Short, sweet and appropriate. What your friend received is the equivalent of no thank you note to me.
BooRadley, I disagree with that. My bridesmaids blew me away with not only how much they helped with all of my pre-wedding crap but also their generosity when it came to gifts. You bet your ass I wrote them each a heartfelt, multiple paragraph thank you note for every event they hosted and each gift they gave.
Post # 8
In my mind, that would be ok for someone (a Guest) who attended
BUT NOT so if they brought a Gift (as your friend did)
AND certainly not so if they were a Bridesmaid (which your friend was)
Bridal Party and Family Members go waaaay beyond the norm in Weddings IMO… and so they deserve a heartfelt Thank You (not that this wasn’t). BUT a lot more effort should have gone into it than what we see here.
Certainly looks like it was a half-hearted effort because there is so little said (lets just get this damn things out of the way… more than anything is what it says to me)
There is little regard to the person they are thanking… or what they contributed
Curious as to when the Wedding was, and when the Thank You Card was received … is it possible that the Couple wrote them on the plane enroute to their Honeymoon (happens)
If that is the case, I hope in the very least, that they follow it up with another handwritten note / letter and some pictures and a more personalized Thank You
Post # 9
@this-time-round: I believe the wedding was in the first couple weeks of September. The thank you was received this week.
Post # 10
They didn’t actually THANK them for anything there, now did they? That’s a little weird.
Post # 11
It’s strange if taken out of context but did they meet up in person for drinks/food etc.? Maybe if there was some physical encounter and there was gratitude expressed then this card makes sense. I always feel a sincere spoken thank you in person equated with a handwritten card.