(Closed) What do you think – is this an acceptable thank you?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is that an acceptable Thank You note?
    No way! : (14 votes)
    28 %
    Yes, it's great! : (1 votes)
    2 %
    Ehhhh, I'd give it the side eye if I received it, but it's not that bad. : (26 votes)
    52 %
    At least she sent a thank you card. : (6 votes)
    12 %
    Thank you notes are stupid anyway, she didn't have to do them at all. : (3 votes)
    6 %
    Other, I'm going to comment below. : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Hostess
    16195 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    Kudos for the couple sending a thank you note; however, if I received it, I wouldn’t feel like it was very personalized to me, especially as a member of the bridal party. I remember practically writing my bridesmaids a novel inside of their thank-you cards!

    Post # 4
    Member
    1333 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2017 - Seattle, WA

    @Gemstone:  Agreed!  I’d appreciate the gesture but it may sting a bit that my efforts weren’t more “acknowledged”, I guess?  She didn’t even write “thank you”, although it was printed on the front.  This would be ok to send a guest, IMO.

    Post # 5
    Member
    2335 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    While its not thorough, I think its obviously that she is super-grateful in the note.  When a bridesmaid does SO much in a wedding, there’s really no way to thank her enough.

    Post # 6
    Hostess
    16195 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    @Kings7911:  Yeah, I guess at the very least, I’d like a “Thank you for being part of our special day!” And I’d think that a “regular” (non-bridal party) guest would expect mention of their gift? Just because that’s what’s standard.

    Post # 7
    Member
    201 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    It doesn’t even say “thank you” and no, the pre-printed outside doesn’t count. It’s not hard to write…

    “Dear whoever,

    I truly appreciate everything that you did to help me. Your gifts were so thoughtful and extremely appreciated. Love you so, so, so, so, so, so much (seriously, a ton!).

    Love,

    Whoever”.

    Short, sweet and appropriate. What your friend received is the equivalent of no thank you note to me.

    BooRadley, I disagree with that. My bridesmaids blew me away with not only how much they helped with all of my pre-wedding crap but also their generosity when it came to gifts. You bet your ass I wrote them each a heartfelt, multiple paragraph thank you note for every event they hosted and each gift they gave.

    Post # 8
    Member
    9954 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    In my mind, that would be ok for someone (a Guest) who attended

    BUT NOT so if they brought a Gift (as your friend did)

    AND certainly not so if they were a Bridesmaid (which your friend was)

    Bridal Party and Family Members go waaaay beyond the norm in Weddings IMO… and so they deserve a heartfelt Thank You (not that this wasn’t).  BUT a lot more effort should have gone into it than what we see here.

    Certainly looks like it was a half-hearted effort because there is so little said (lets just get this damn things out of the way… more than anything is what it says to me)

    There is little regard to the person they are thanking… or what they contributed

    Curious as to when the Wedding was, and when the Thank You Card was received … is it possible that the Couple wrote them on the plane enroute to their Honeymoon (happens)

    If that is the case, I hope in the very least, that they follow it up with another handwritten note / letter and some pictures and a more personalized Thank You

     

    Post # 10
    Member
    1399 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    They didn’t actually THANK them for anything there, now did they? That’s a little weird.

    Post # 11
    Hostess
    1427 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    It’s strange if taken out of context but did they meet up in person for drinks/food etc.? Maybe if there was some physical encounter and there was gratitude expressed then this card makes sense. I always feel a sincere spoken thank you in person equated with a handwritten card.

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