Help! My best friend said my ring looks splintery?

posted 3 years ago in Rings
Post # 31
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Honey bee

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bakerbee09 :   Yeah I guess I still don’t get it. I mean I guess cool beans that we get the same priority level as your best friend and your fiance. How many votes for splintery before you trade in a ring you love because of a bunch of people who won’t ever wear the ring? 

She said it was splintery. Yeah. And exactly how is that a problem? Did she say it looks splintery and like a piece of s***? Or did she just say it looks splintery and not like a diamond? Because no s***. It’s not a diamond. You knew that. How is that a problem?

Unless you’re planning to timeshare the ring and let her wear it, I think this is one of those things where you need to be more secure in you and spend less time seeking external validation.  You’ll make yourself crazy trying to find something universally adored when it affects no one but you.

Post # 32
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2021

Oval moissanites never look like diamonds, I think along with pears they are the least diamond like. I am with the other posters that I don’t really understand the problem if you returned a diamond because you preferred a moissanite? Moissanites can look splintery, if you don’t like how it looks then I would return it and get a diamond, if you do like it but was hoping people would think it was a diamond then that’s a different problem, but again I would return it and get a diamond. 

Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2005 - Shreveport, LA

I have to disagree with your comment that oval moissanites don’t look like diamonds, mine is very convincing. Even the local jeweler thought it was a diamond when I took it to be set. I originally had a brilliant oval moissanite and that was too icy and splintery and had the rainbow colors and bow tie effect but I returned it and got a crushed ice and it is cut just like an oval diamond. My friend has a 1 carat oval diamond and when we put them side by side you cannot tell which is diamond and which is not. But I guess to each their own I love my moissy and am not trying to pass it off as a diamond and am happy to tell everyone it’s a moissanite!  

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ariesscientist :  

Post # 34
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Helper bee

Where did you get your ring it’s beaitoful 

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erinebee1 :  

Post # 35
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2005 - Shreveport, LA

Thank you, I got the moissanite from Harro Gem and the setting from Etsy. 

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lovetwoloveme :  

Post # 36
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Helper bee

If you want it to look like a diamond,  it needs to be just that,  a diamond. 

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2021

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erinebee1 :  I’ve seen many videos and side by side comparisons of different oval moissanites and diamonds and the difference is very obvious to me even with crushed ice, the cut is just off particularly with the table, they often look chunky and fuzzy instead of sharp, clear and crisp. If you feel that to you it looks like an oval diamond then that’s great, but I’ve never in my life seen an oval moissanite that looks like a diamond to me personally.

This I think, is the crux of the moissanite vs diamond debate though, to some people they look just like diamonds  and they can’t tell the difference and to other the difference is very obvious. 

Post # 38
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

It’s very pretty!!! but yes it looks splintery if you compare it to diamond.

Post # 39
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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DrAtkins :  Whether a TOS violation has occurred or not, isn’t someone allowed to flag what they believe to be a violation (whether they’re in the right or not) without an administrator making the OPs flag choices public to the whole thread? 

Ive been coming on here for years I have NEVER seen that sort of mention of ‘flags’ like that before especially from someone who can see ‘behind the scenes’ I thought that was the whole point of the anon aspect of flagging 

For me if there is no violation the OP should have been messaged privately with an explanation on the TOS, no need to make her feel ostracised on her own thread by telling everyone that she was concerned with their responses to a ‘flag’ level 

Post # 40
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - City, State

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Tisa85 :  You took the words right out my mouth! I was thinking the same thing and I’ve been a member for years. I’ve never seen such a thing from a mod.

Post # 41
Hostess
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2005 - Shreveport, LA

There are plenty of moissanites even crushed ice that are cut, table and width, the same as a diamond.  I own both and the differences are not as obvious as you seem to think they are. The main ring in this thread is gorgeous and had she not said it was moissanite I highly doubt you’d have known it wasn’t a diamond.  

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ariesscientist :  

Post # 42
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Sugar bee

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Tisa85 :  
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MrsGirlyGirl :  On the other hand, shouldn’t we all be judicious when choosing to flag a comment, and make sure we really know what constitutes a violation of the TOS? OP mentioned “unhelpful comments”, which could be read as comments she did not like. Flagging comments that are not a TOS violation could very well be a waste of time for the moderator. Given that they act on a voluntary basis, I think we should be more respectful of their time.

Post # 43
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

I love your ring but I do prefer the look of crushed ice Harrogate! Personal preference.

Post # 44
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Bee Keeper

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erinebee1 :  I knew it was a moissy instantly, just as I knew yours was. Nothing wrong with that, but I wish people would give up on the idea that no one can tell. It’s simply not true. The body color and the faceting on moissanite don’t look like diamond. Whether it’s because I have seen a lot of diamonds or I have good vision and color perception, I can tell.

The trick is not to give a shit what other people think, but the OP isn’t there yet. OP, it’s your ring. Who cares what other people like if you like it?

 

Post # 45
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Bee Keeper

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DrAtkins :  With all due respect, you can be a poster in the thread or a moderator. You can not be both at the same time. None of us needed to know the OP was flagging posts. You could and should have handled this via PM. 

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