- 9 years ago
Hi bees just would really like to get your interpretation of whats going on with my SO and I
So some time ago like 6-8 months ago SO were having some issues in relation getting engaged him not being ready ect. i really tried to get it together but the fights kept on surfacing and it felt as though our relationship was going nowhere.. despite all of this I said, that its fine if he cant decide now. But if something doesnt happen by the end of 2014 and if our relationship doesnt progress ill be re evalutating my options.
He is clear that the way I want our lives to progress is engagment, marriage, kids
And he is certain that engagment needs to happen before having kids, moving away from my family etc..
For some details I have been together with him for 2.5 years, living with him for 2 and im 27 and he is 29.
For the last 6 months I have not brought up marriage, future or anything engagment/ marraige related.
Anyway the other day he comes home and starts talking about how he has a plan for the beginning of 2015…that we will move away in 2015… I can work for a bit and then we’ll start having children, and then after he has completed this qualification we will move closer to my mum when our kids will be little and then move back to where we live now ( near my father)
All of the moving is due to his career –
I said nothing except “yeah that sounds great, sound like a plan, lets work towards that!”
I refrained from beating him with … “What about getting married, what about getting engaged” because I didnt want to ‘nag’ him and I wasnt going to break my promise to myself not to bring “it” up again.
Anyway bees — do you think that he might be planning a proposal??
I mean he has put a lot of thought into this future plan…. he knows what I require from a partner and he knew last year that I was close to the end of my rope…
I just hope that he knows that planning a wedding takes time and that im not going to move away from my family or start having kids without a ring…
Anyways bees… Do you think he might be planning something???