Post # 1
Hi bees –
No this question is not about me, but about my roomate.
My roomate’s boyfriend has had in his mind the last couple of weeks that he wants to propose on Valentine’s Day. My other roomate and I think that Valentine’s Day proposals are kind of well, overdone.
The first roomate (Jen) is not a girly-girly girl at all and usually despises Valentine’s Day and most ‘Hallmark’ holidays, and this is precisely the reason why he wants to propose on that day – because she will not expect it at all. He also thinks because she dislikes holidays so much that it would be cute to propose to her on one. He has a warped sense of humor.
She does not know that he has the ring so this will be a complete surprise. Her boyfriend thought about waiting until spring when the weather is nicer because the 2 of them do a lot of outdoor activities, but he can’t wait.
He’s also getting some grief from my other roomate’s FI saying NOT to propose on Valentine’s Day.
I was proposed to on 4th of July by my ex, so I personally am not against holiday proposals, but I don’t know, for some reason Valentine’s Day just seems kind of cheezy. (No offense to anyone that got engaed on that day!)
I know my roomate will be thrilled, but at the same time, I can see her saying ‘really? Valentine’s day?’
What do the bees think?
Post # 3
I think they are super cute, but overdone.
Any day is a great day for a proposal!
Post # 4
I think they are overdone, BUT the only reason I would think this would matter is if she knew it was coming. Holiday proposals just mean that the risk of losing the surprise element is higher, but if she truly has no idea it’s coming, I don’t think it’s a bad idea at all!
Post # 5
@LilliePad: Yes – she doesn’t think he’s even bought the ring yet because he was complaining about how much money he had to put into his car recently, so she would be completely surprised.
Post # 6
@SnowInApril: THen I say go for it. The only reason I wouldn’t want a V-day proposal is becaue I’m waiting and I think I would know, deep down, that it was coming, at least it would be suspected. If she has no idea, I think he should do it!
Post # 7
I would have been happy being proposed to on V day or any day!
Post # 8
Any day works and the bonus is you will always remember when! We met on New Year’s Eve, got engaged on Black Friday and got married the Sunday before Memorial Day. We will never forget.
Post # 9
I told my fiance that I would say no if he proposed on any holiday, especially Valentine’s Day. I wanted a random day that could be “ours.”
Post # 10
I got engaged on Valentine’s Day which was special because the year before he said I love you for the first time on Valentine’s Day. I was thrilled. I knew a ring was coming because we looked at rings and discussed getting married. It just turned out to be the day around the time things were progressing for us so I didn’t think oh it’s lame, I thought it was awesome. He took me to dinner and we came home to do presents and then he got down on one knee and popped the question. It was just as special as any other day would be and maybe for him easier to remember (you know guys) lol!
Post # 11
i think any day is a good day to get engaged. i think it’s more about the actual proposal than the date.
having said that, i think it’s been done, but if my husband had proposed on valentine’s day i wouldn’t have said no!
Post # 12
I’ve always considered a holiday proposal a bit… tacky? But the closer I get to my own (hopefully!) the more I am coming around to the idea! I get the impression that a lot of guys don’t have too much creative thought when it comes to this kind of thing so if he thinks Valentines day would be a great time to do it-then let him and enjoy it! It’s him giving his bit back as best he can!
Haha I don’t think guys are completely emotionally backward but honeslty, if my SO turned up on Valentines day with a ring and asked, because he thought it was romantic, I’d love it!!
(NB. My SO won’t be proposing on Valentines because the ring won’t be ready )
Post # 13
I think he should propose when he wants to propose. At the end of the day, I think she will just be happy to be engaged and not really care what day the proposal occurred on.
Post # 14
I really don’t like Valentines Day AT ALL. My husband proposed THE DAY BEFORE instead!
The entire time we were walking in 4 feet of snow (NE Ohio and we live in the snow belt. I wasn’t a happy camper about this!) he was saying how much he loves special holidays for people in love, like Valentines Day and I was saying how stupid I thought these silly holidays are. I had NO idea he was about to propose.
I look back and I love our proposal. I thought it was funny, romantic and cheezy which is perfect. I think any day is a good day to get engaged and Valentines Day, while a tad cheezy, is still cute and kind of romantic! And if shes like me and hates Vday then it will be perfect! At least it was for me..
Post # 15
ANY DAY is a good day to get engaged. Think its crazy when I hear women say they will say no if they get proposed to on Valentine’s day/any holiday. My fi could’ve proposed at a cemetery & I wouldve said yes. Its about the commitment, who cares where it happens.
Post # 16
My fiance proposed on April fools day…. (My uncle thought my dad was pranking him when he told him) Valentines day is a fine day to get engaged, and hopefully he won’t be able to forget the date then.