Post # 32
I agree with Selene221. Donating to a charity that is important to you is clearly a great thing, but it’s not appropriate to announce the donation at a wedding. Just think– would you donate to this charity if you were not recognized for your contribution (i.e., in front of all your friends and family)? If not, then you’re doing it for the wrong reasons. In terms of using donations as favors (in place of or in addition to), there are some people who (rightly) are offended when people donate to charity in their names because it may not be a charity that they support, for whatever reason. I think if you really want to do some kind of donation (and be publicly recognized for it), then a subtle message in the ceremony program or something that says a donation has been made to X is the most benign way to do it.
Post # 33
Love it! We donated to our local humane society. I think its so much better than all of the favors I have ever received at weddings. I really love the chocolate bone idea!
Post # 34
I seem to mostly be in the minority here, but I am really put off with donations as favors.
First, I don’t really see what the donation has to do with the wedding. It seems that people choose this when they aren’t sure what else to do for favors–but what’s wrong with just not doing favors if you don’t have a good idea for them? A favor is a “thank you” to the guests for spending your special day with them, and I don’t really think donating a dollar or two to an organization that they may or may not care for is really any kind of special treat for your guest.
While I think most people wouldn’t be offended by your organization (though it is not unreasonable–I do have issues with some of the ways that ASPCA achieves their mission), I still think it’s presumptous to assume that other people would like you to make a donation in their name.
If the reason for doing this is just because you would like to make a donation, then go ahead and make a donation as a couple to that organization. But do you need to be publically recognized for this? Again, what does that donation have to do with the wedding? Also, if you really want to support this organization you could ask guests to donate in lieu of a gift.
I’d encourage you to find a way to tie in your love of pets in another way. And of course, it’s all about knowing your guests and knowing what the traditions are in your circle of family and friends. I hope it turns out well for you!
Post # 35
I don’t think people would be offended, but I wonder if some people would feel like it’s really just a gift for yourself – and I don’t mean this to be harsh. I LOVE the idea of giving to a charity, and have been contemplating doing this too, but that’s one thing I worry about. Since you said you wanted honest opinions, I thought I should share my concern with you. What do other bees think about that?
It would be great if your charity sold cookies or candy or something that could work as a favor – then the donation goes to them, but people get a favor, and no one even needs to know that the money went to charity! Does this exist?? Please tell me it does! LOL
Post # 36
I can’t think of one person that would be offended at my wedding and I think that everyone there would actually like the fact that I spent my money on something that was going to make a difference rather than something that they more than likely will not care anything about. I am donating to the Special Olympics because my best friends and MOH’s son who is 4 has Downs Syndrome. Everyone that is coming to my wedding knows about this and they also know that my Fiance and I think of him as a nephew. When donations are done for the right reason they can actually be very touching and mean a lot not only to the bride and groom but to their guests as well.
Post # 37
I don’t see the issue with publically recognizing a donation at a wedding as a favor…at all…not in the least! I would and do regularly donate to the Humane Society. Even if I didn’t, I find a wedding a perfect reason to start…why? Because ANY reason to start donating to a great cause is the right reason. We all have very different reasons for starting to donate…why not a wedding! Now it might not be the best idea to donate to a controversial group that your guests wouldn’t appreciate (think a pro-choice charity at a conservative wedding), so I do think it’s important to consider your crowd in terms of finding the right charity. But at the same time, it’s YOUR wedding and you should really donate to a cause that is important to you and describes who you are. Guests shouldn’t get offended that they didn’t receive a cookie!
I don’t think a donation is just to make a donation. It’s to use the money that would have been spent on something frivolous on something meaningful.
Post # 38
We’re doing the exact same thing — we have 2 dogs and 2 cats that are the center of our world, so it will be no surprise to anyone that we’ve decided to donate to the Humane Society as part of our favor. Like you, we’re also giving away something small and edible — sugar cookies shaped like bones and mice (but they’re clearly sugar cookies, not doggie treats!).
Like some posters stated above, many guests don’t want spam from the Humane Society, so we donated in the name of “The Smith-Jones Wedding”, so that the only one receiving mailings will be us. Also, I had never thought of a public donation as a way to brag, but rather as a sign that “this is our favor, so don’t bother looking around for a $2.50 trinket that you’re going to throw away, cuz there aren’t any!”