Post # 17
I vote for donations – and go ahead and buy a plain old bag of hershey kisses to stick on top. A huge number of favors get left on the tables and end up being basically gifts for the wait staff. Who really needs another dust collector in your house?
People have taken the time and spent the money to come to your wedding because they care about you and appreciate you and because they are honored to be part of your special day. Not because they are getting a random thing with your name on it.
Post # 18
Honestly, as a guest, I’d rather know that $200 went to a charity rather than $2 worth of candy to each of the 100 guests (for example). I think especially with your family history, people will appreciate a donation being made.
Post # 19
I much prefer donations. I have gotten coasters, bottles of wine, candy etc… at weddings. I didn’t want or need any of it and would have been much happier knowing the money went to a good cause.
Post # 20
Just know your guest list. I couldn’t care less about seeing the donation card or a favor so either is wasted on me. PS: I think some people are very down on ACS (or is it the Heart Association). I think its pretty innocuous but some people may poo poo on your choice (consider the reaction you would get if you advertised that you were giving a donation to a white supremacist non-profit or a terrorist org…obviously not the same at all but then again, some people are crazy).
Post # 21
We’re doing a donation to the MSPCA. (massachusetts society for the prevention of cruelty to animals) We adopted our cats from this shelter and personally I’d rather money go towards a good cause then to a favor my guests are going to eat in 5 minutes or throw away.
Post # 22
What many people don’t realize is that favors are never required and no one will miss them if they aren’t there. The wedding magazines want you to spend money you don’t have on your wedding and make you feel guilty because you don’t, but those who love you don’t want you to do that. Favors are the first thing to be cut when a budget is tight or limited, and because guests won’t miss them, they would rather that you either save the money for a rainy day after the wedding when your bank account is tight or use the money for things they actually remember: food/beverages and entertainment, or put it toward better photography which is your only tangible keepsake after the day is over.
If you must have favors, edible is best. Donations are not favors and should always be kept private between the couple and the charity in question, and most guests don’t need or want to know that you spent the money for that reason. Alot of charities are controversial and most do not take no for an answer when seeking out further donations in the future (to the names of your guests you provide if you do it in their names).
As a guest, I would prefer you put the money toward better food or photography, or else save it for after the wedding when you really need the money.