Hmmm…a sensitive topic and I see how this thread might spiral out of hands very quickly.
To understand the OP, I went to her profile and read almost all of her original posts and some responses. I want to get a feel for who she is, where she’s coming from, how different is the OP from me, etc. Here’s my opinion, which may/may not be correct but here goes nothing:
I’m in my 30’s whereas the OP has just turned 21. I’m a newlywed, the OP is a newlywed. I’m done with grad school, have worked for over 10 years(!), the OP is still young (in age) and is currently in school. I have no children, the OP has her first child at 19 and expecting a second child. Obviously, the OP and I have vastly different life experience. My self-identity is based on my 30+ years as a single person, and I’ve spent those years learning who I am, which led to me knowing that I do not want to be a mother. The OP has chosen to be a teenage mom, which is a courageous thing to do in my books, and her personal decision which is no one else’s business.
Being a mother will change anyone, at any age, but especially an 18 year old who hasn’t had much time on this earth to experience other things. (Note: I’m not judging unmarried teenage mothers, I’m merely pointing out the lack of years of life experience compared to the old-me). I am a wife, a CFO, an artist, a mentor, plus many more, and all the roles contribute equally to my identity. The OP is a wife, a mother, a student (and many other things I’m sure), but not one role will ever compare to that of her role as a mother, and therefore, her self-identity. From some of her posts, I conclude that the OP feels judged for being married young, having children young, and is juggling school, children, finances, etc – that must be difficult at 21. So, the OP read that article she mentioned and took offense, without realizing that a lot of the unconscious biases are rooted in her own personal life. She put in efforts to solidify her thoughts but as so many PP pointed out, the arguments didn’t make such sense.
So yes, I find the title a bit off-putting. I too, didn’t get the “respect the next generation” bit, I agree with most of the PP’s comments. But I see where the OP’s coming from. I have 10+ years of life ahead of her, I ought to know better. So I’m choosing not to take offense to her original post and subsequent comments.
Much love to all the PP’s for your mature comments, for having the guts to express your honest opinions with class. I love WB because of all of you! 🙂