Post # 1
My Fiance and I have been living together for 4 years now and we just bought a house last year, so needless to say, we have a lot of the traditional things you would register for on a traditional bridal registry. Now don’t get me wrong, I can’t wait to run through Crate and Barrel with scanner to register for items and accessories that will rock our pad. But I was starting to think that I would much rather have money go toward our honeymoon than on a new set of salt and pepper shakers.
What do you guys think? Register for your honeymoon…or go with a traditional registry?
Post # 3
I think this probably depends on the people you know. We were so excited for our honeymoon registry but we ended up only getting $70 on it and getting a LOT more money and a good bit more presents off of our traditional registry. I’ve heard of people having entire honeymoons paid for by them though. I think it depends on the person. I say make a honeymoon registry and a traditional registry and let everyone decide which they’d rather go with.
Post # 4
@mandb122: Totally seconding this. I wanted to go with a Honeymoon registry and then realized that some of our guests are not as internet savvy and are more inclined to give cash than even gifts so I am giving folks an option of Macys or Honeyfund. No complaints yet 🙂
Post # 5
Why not both? Gives people a bigger option… Were actually thinking about doing both but we have a lot of time to change our mind…
Post # 6
we are doing honeyfund and Target. Even if people don’t go through honeyfund, at least they know that’s what you want, so they usually give cash anyway. We’ve gotten 1 item off our Target list – the rest has been $ so far… and we’re still 5 weeks out.
Post # 7
@mandb122: I agree, it really depends on your guests. I don’t think there is any harm in having a honeymoon registry and a traditional one, so your guests have options.
Personally, I would be more inclined to purchase a gift from a traditional wedding registry, but I certainly wouldn’t be offended if I saw a honeymoon registry. I just really like shopping for gifts for people, so I’d probably skip over the honeymoon registry option so I could have another excuse to go shop. 🙂
Post # 8
@mandb122 I also agree it depends on your guests.
I think honeymoon registries are completely fine and great ideas for some couples. My husband and I didn’t register for a honeymoon but I also don’t think we would have gotten much towards it…most of our friends are younger and our aunts/uncles/grandparents/parents/etc arn’t “hip” to things like honeymoon registries and would probably just give us $$ or gifts instead.
Post # 9
Sorry, I don’t really like registering for a honeymoon. Just my opinion. Call me old fashion and I know people will disagree. I just think asking people to pay for one’s honeymoon is odd. Many older generations would agree. Take whatever you get from the wedding and put it towards it. Or better yet, save for a honeymoon yourself!!! Imagine that concept….hahaha.
Post # 10
@Kitty Kat: I’m with you! I don’t hold anything against people I know who have done things the more modern way, but I really prefer the more traditional route- a) if guests want to know where you’re registered, they have to ask, and b) asking for money in any way is really hard to do politely.
Post # 11
I think the OP summed it up. They want to register for cash. Asking for cash is always rude.
A honeymoon registry is just dressing that up in a fancy bow (that eats a portion of my gift).
Post # 12
I’m anti-honeymoon registry too. I won’t even check the box at the bottom of the registry that says register for a giftcard though, but that’s just me.
Post # 13
I would register for a honeymoon. I mean, what else wouldd I register for? All I want are a huge kitchen knife set for my man, a brilliant Pot and pan set, Egyptian cotton towel sets, 600-1000 thread count Egyptian cotton sheets, maybe some crystal vases… But I bet those things make me look like a super snob don’t they? Tacky to ask for such lavish things right? But that’s what I like. So I say honeymoon fund it up! If these people know you well enough to come to your wedding then they should know you well enough to go with your wedding choices.
Post # 14
I think the honeymoon registry is tacky. Guests want to support your marriage not your vacation. Your guests know you have been living together for four years and will probably give you money because of that. Use that money towards your honeymoon. I think if you use a traditional registry that will lesson the $ you would receive as a wedding gift and you will end up with new salt and pepper shakers.
Post # 15
@MrsGolden2Bee: I 100% agree with this! 1000$+ Wustof knife set or the choice of buying a dinner on our honeymoon… Prob the latter! I don’t want cheap thinks and I would feel obliged to register for things in diff price ranges with a traditional registry. In addition, I have everything I want and need, my Fiance is in the Air Force and I don’t want to carry a bunch of crap with me around every time I have to move! A traditional registry and a Honeymoon registry are both ways of picking out what you want and having your guests buy it. At some point I am sure that was considered tacky! And about the comment “save up for it yourself”…why not furnish your house yourself as well while you are at it? These are not gifts that are NEEDED.. they are gestures for the happy couple.
Post # 15
I have to agree with the “don’t register for your honeymoon” crowd. My husband and I also lived together before being married, and had already combined two households. If you don’t need anything, then don’t register for anything. We didn’t register anywhere because it didn’t feel right when we already had a houseful of stuff, and it has been fine. People ask, and I say we aren’t registered, and that’s the end of it. We have received some gifts from kind people, but mostly it’s been a few bottles of wine, and really thoughtful cards. And it’s great!