- 8 years ago
Lemme just say, I love posting here. You ladies are so thoughtful, and offer such insightful advice and opinions, and I thank you!
As a follow up to my last post in regards to whether living together delays or ignites a proposal, (http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/do-you-think-living-together-delays-a-proposal) I came across a theme: Make sure your man knows your timeline. Honestly, I’ve always wanted to be married by my late twenties, so I may be able to start a family by 30. I’ll be 25 this fall. While my boyfriend and I have discussed marriage and have a family together in depth, and have talked about a proposal occuring within the year, I still catch myself getting nervous at times. Perhaps it’s my biological clock ticking, maybe it’s my overly planning nature – who knows!
I want my boyfriend to buy the ring when he’s ready, and ask me to be his wife when he’s 100% confident that he’s ready for family life. However, I also know that guys can drag their feet. The idea of sitting him down and saying “Honey, I would prefer to be engaged no later than midnight of St. Patrick’s Day of 2011” makes me cringe a little bit, because I don’t want to put a scary expiration date on our relationship. I guess I’m just a little confused by the whole idea.
So, have any of you set an engagement timeline, loose or detailed? What was your SO’s reaction? What do you plan/did you plan to do if they didn’t propose within your timeframe?