(Closed) What do you think of the groom seeing the bride in the dress before the wedding?

posted 10 years ago in Dress
  • poll: What do you think of the groom seeing the bride in the dress before the wedding?

    Completely fine for him to see it!

    No way!

  • Post # 47
    1425 posts
    Bumble bee

    Heck, do whatever you two want! 

    I wanted my FI’s opinion more then anything, since I feel I’m sort of dressing up for him, and I frequently ask his opinion on clothes anyway. Before I went dress shopping I showed him a couple bridal dress sites and asked him to critique the dresses… who knew he was so picky about wedding dresses! (mind you, I know he likes specific styles that accentuate certain things, so it shouldn’t have been a surprise) It put me off at first, because he didn’t like the ones I was initially looking at. I eventually blurted it out and the poor guy was mortified and “knew this would happen because the dress is so important for the bride”. He reassured me that no matter what I chose, I would be a flawless beauty in his eyes. So I took both of our ideas into account and I’m positive I found THE dress for me and one that will awe him as well. In the meantime, he won’t even look at pictures of me in the ones I didn’t choose. He doesn’t know what I look like in a wedding dress and doesn’t want to know until our W-Day.

    Post # 48
    1443 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    My husband went dress shopping with me and it was a blast!  He is very opinionated, so when I made the purchase I didn’t have to worry about the “what if he doesn’t like it” mindset.  He teared up when I tried on “the one” and it was great to share that special moment!  My dress was actually a surprise to the rest of my family instead, as we live on the other side of the country and flew “home” for our wedding.  He even learned how to bustle my dress during my alterations appt. so he could show my bridesmaids once we flew into town the week before!

    Haha…looking back, he was such a trooper about the whole thing.  If your Fiance is excited to be a part of that process, I say let him!!

    Post # 49
    915 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    I say go for it if you’re both comfortable with it. My Fiance will see me before we get married in the dress for our photoshoot, but I am planning to keep the dress a surprise up until that time cuz I want him to get the full effect.

    Post # 50
    566 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Whatever works for the two of you! My fiance and I didn’t care either way, and he happened to be the most convenient shopping partner, so he was actually with me when I bought it.

    Post # 51
    91 posts
    Worker bee

    I showed my Fiance all the dresses i liked online, and he helped me narrowed it down to the one. He will, however, not be seeing me in it until our wedding day.  

    Post # 52
    22 posts
    • Wedding: June 2012

    Here is a post that I just put up on seeing the groom before the wedding. I thought you might be interested in seeing the pro/cons! 🙂

    I’ve been debating whether to have a staged first moment/look for photography on the day of our wedding. If we did this, we would probably do the bridal party and couple photographs before the ceremony. I’ve researched and seen pictures of this, I think that they are super sweet but I was curious what the pro and cons of this decision would be. I know that there are probably other brides out there who are torn about the exact same thing so I thought that I should post about it!


    -A planned moment can provide better scenery, lighting, and timing.

    -By getting out the tears and emotions before the wedding, the bride and groom can be more composed during the ceremony in front of friends and family.

    -This allows more time with the guests after the wedding and reduces the wait time for the guests as well.


    -It goes against tradition and some would say that it is bad luck.

    -You may disappoint the parents who want the first look to be during the ceremony.

    -Some guests may be offended/hurt/sad/disappointed that they didn’t get to witness that first look.

    Here is a video discussing the subject:


    Also here is a video and examples that really helped me make the decision to go ahead and do a “First Look” before my wedding!:



    Post # 53
    629 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I think the “first look” is one of the best, most romantic moments in a wedding, and one I have always dreamed of when I thought of my big day, so I say “no way!” That said, I think every couple is different and I would not judge a couple if they decided to go dress shopping together or see eachother before the wedding. It’s their choice! (I would like to add though, that some of the SYTTD episodes where the groom was present, seemed kind of awkward to me, like he was judging the bride a little. There are bound to be a few dresses that just look terrible, and I don’t think I would want my groom to see me in those. Juat my humble opinion!) Good luck and follow your heart!

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