Post # 32
I don’t like the pin idea. And I say this as a bride who lost her father. I wouldn’t take one, and would feel awkward about it. We put a mention of my dad in the program similar to what PP’s mentioned, I had a locket with his photo in my bouquet (and if there are people on your FI’s side, they make little photo charms that can hang from the boutinire), my sister mentioned him in her toast, and we had a memorial table– a memorial vase I bought from oriental trading co., and a couple photos. There was a small candle, and my sister and I lit it together (not as part of any specific ceremony, so most people didn’t see us do it, as that likely would have brought down the mood, but the photographer did get this photo (and there’s a really touching one of us hugging right after we lit the candle, but it’s not on my computer):
Post # 33
We struggled with how to remember loved ones since, like the OP, we aren’t printing programs. We decided to have our officiant read this passage:
At this time, LittleRiver and Fiance would like to honor the memory of family members who are no longer with us physically but are here in our hearts: John and Jane Doe, LittleRiver’s grandparents, and John Doe, FI’s grandfather.
This will be after the welcome and before the officiant’s address, readings, etc.
Post # 34
All of this is very nice, but I would not do the pins. I think it’s a little too sad. Also, the only other thing is for the flip flop sign, I would omit “compliments of the bride & groom”
Post # 36
Is there a particular reason to omit?
Post # 37
I don’t think it is too much. I did a lot as well: guest room welcome packages, hand made coffee cup sleeves at our ceremony hot chocolate station, bubble magnet tins for reception favor, and s’more packages with our late night lunch. We also had prizes for our wedding day scavenger hunt. People really loved it all.
We didn’t originally plan on all of them but with a little work from us and minimal cost they sure gave a huge impact.
Post # 38
Like others I agree about the pins. I went to a wedding that had flip flops and it was great and helped me out big time. There was no sign on that really it just said take one or something. I like the hot chocolate.
As far as remembering loved ones goes though we wont be doing anyrhing about that. FI and I have had numerous deaths in the recent past and everyone is still in mourning. Everyone in my family is just happy to be planning an event that is not another funeral. So in our case we will be omitting it entirely.
Post # 40
I love this idea. I agree a seperate table in a place of honor for those you have lost and want to remember is perfectly acceptable. My cousin had a poem, a candle and pictures of family members she wanted to be remembered. We all paused for a minute before going into her reception space and had a moment of silence for ourselves. If I was planning a traditional ceremony I think I’d go that route.
Love the flip flops and hot chocolate and I wouldn’t be stressed out about who takes how many. These are gifts to be appreciated.
Post # 41
Thanks for all the great ideas and feedback guys! I have decided to skip the pins and am going to do the flip flops and found small jars to make the hot chocolate. We will also still be having take home boxes for the dessert. I think it will turn out great 😀