(Closed) What do you think of this idea… budget wedding!

posted 8 years ago in Money
Post # 3
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Honey bee

I think its perfectly ok to be non-traditional, but I wouldnt feed a full dinner to only 1/2 (or less) the guests at the ceremony.  Unfortunately it sort of says “you are not important enough” to the other guests.  They will find out about the other dinner, they always seem to.

How about doing a late morning ceremony and doing a lunch reception for everyone with hor deurves, crudite and nice sandwiches? Then everyone gets treated equally?

Alternatively, instead of doing a catered dinner at a restaurant, can you do it in a hall where you get even cheaper catering from a local Italian restaurant or deli buffet style?

Or a dessert and cordial reception and have a later ceremony after dinner?

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Hummmm, personally I do think it would be odd for me to got to a ceremony, leave and do my own thing, and then go back out and meet up with everyone again.  I don’t know, I’m kind of on the fence with this one….

Out of curiosity will the after party be at the same place you have the dinner? If so, that could be awkward if people show up early, or they might just go straight to the same restaurant to have dinner! That would be really awkward!

To offer a suggestion, would you be wiling to have a later ceremony & the light hors doeuvres after. If you get married at 6 or 7 and indicate “light hors doeuvres to follow” people will get the hint that they should eat something more substantial before the wedding.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I went to a wedding where this was done, and it was awkward. It wasn’t that only family went to the dinner, it was that only church members and family went to the dinner. There were probably 300 people at the wedding, then about half went to dinner in another part of the church, and those of us who didn’t had almost 3 hours to kill. I lived really close by so we had a mini cook-out/drink fest at my house for our group of friends who also didn’t get a dinner invite, and then we all went to the reception where light hors doeuvres were served. At the reception there were about 400 people (they invited some people to the party who didn’t go to the wedding…IDK what that was about. The groom said they invited people they knew would dance, and a lot of the church people didn’t go to the reception. It was all kinds of confusing)

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

What about moving your ceremony up in the day, to say 2PM and then having a champagne and cake (or other light fare) reception afterward and then doing the sit down dinner with your family in the evening after the reception?

I agree that I think it’s excessive that it’s become common expectation that if you go to a wedding you get fed a whole dinner–is that really what it’s about? But at the same time, going and having dinner while the rest of your guests are killing time before your reception seems rude to me. I think you’d end up with a lot of people skipping your “after party” (this seems more like a reception than an after party to me).

Post # 8
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Busy bee

Hmmm… could you serve all guests something more affordable- like mexican food or have a brunch wedding? Might be easier than having dinner for only half the guests…. I feel like the problem is that the guests aren’t being treated equally. I could see someone being miffed. 

Post # 9
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Honey bee

@ariel: Have you spoken to caterers or restaurants that cater about delivering there (church)? Many are willing to travel a pretty good distance to get business these days.  Especially if there is a kitchen where they can heat/prep food at the church.

Post # 10
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Busy bee

If you did the brunch wedding- you could have an awesome rehearsal dinner for your close family the day before….

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