Post # 1
So after playing dress up a few weeks ago, I went to another shop where I found a jackpot of dresses which the owner was willing to sell as samples! I tried on some great dresses, including a lace one that was pretty much everything I thought I wanted. And I felt underwhelmed. The same feeling I’ve had before…
I added this dress to my pile on a whim because the blinged out floral poofy dress was so much fun, and I thought the flower detail looked ruffly and fun. I didn’t even look at the rest of the dress on the hangar!
It is everything I ever said I don’t want in my dress — pickups, floral detail, asymmetry. There is no lace, and it has bling. This is not supposed to be my dress! But I felt really great in it. It would need to be hemmed and cups added and a little board thing to smooth out the wrinkle around my waist, but it fits really well. I felt really skinny in it, too. And it’s so floaty. I think about how it’s not what I want, and I look at the picture and wonder if it’s too much poof and if I’m too short for it (dropped waist!) and if it looks like the flowers are attacking my hip. But I kind of like it. Not with that veil, but overall. But it’s sooooo far from what I thought I wanted. I really really like it, but I am scared that it’s so far away from what I thought I wanted. And yet, I felt super good in it, moreso than the other dresses so far. So I am not going to make a decision just yet, but I thought I’d throw it out there for opinions!
Post # 3
I think it’s a pretty dress and looks great on you. Unfortunately, only you can make the decision on whether it’s the one. But it does look great 🙂 I tried on one with a similar bottom, and I really really loved it when I had it on, but ended up hating it in pictures. If you like it in person and in the pic, that’s a good sign.
Post # 4
I think it’s lovely. So pretty!
But i also think that you’re a fox and would good in a brown paper bag. Sucks to be YOU! 😉
Post # 5
Okay so I just went back and looked at your previous dress post, and I honestly love the ones in that post much more than this one – although you have a stunning figure and you look fantastic in ALL of them! I still would choose from the three you posted earlier…
Post # 6
It looks great on you! Very flatering. This same thing happened to me, a little bit. I said NO Bling, and no train…Simple, and maybe a little lace. I ended up with a full lace over soft gold satin, with silver beading from top to bottom and a longer than chapel train. Ummm…not exactly what I had in mind, but just like you it was the only dress that I felt sexy in, skinny, beautiful, and that I felt like a bride in. I went for it, and even though I have had some what if moments (I just posted a thread on that exact freak out the other night), I know I made the right decision.
Sometimes you have to try on what you think you don’t want to see that you should have been more open minded to begin with. That is what happened with me.
But that is my story..only you can choose for you. If it helps at all, No you are not too short, no it is not too poofy, the flowers are lovely, and you can WEAR that dress WELL!
Post # 7
@starrysim: That’s my problem — I overthink it. I definitely love the way I feel in it and like it when its on, but when I come home and look at the pics, I can’t decide. I think it still looks OK, though I do worry about the skirt.
@Mollytov: lol I think that’s the first time anyone has said that about me. Thanks for the confidence boost!
@icedchaitea: Thank you; I appreciate the honesty!
@MrsBrightSkies: It’s hard because you have this vision in your head for so long!
Post # 8
I think it looks great. And I can totally relate to your story. i have also found a dress that I love that is SO far from what I thought I wanted. Its really hard to say its the dress when you have been picturing something else for so long. But don’t let that stop you. If you feel amazing in this dress then its the one.
Post # 9
I actually love the Allure more, but again, it has to do with how you feel in this dress. But, definitely, it is time to get your dress! Be as decisive as you were with your Badgleys – they are beautiful and so are your dresses – we know you can do it!
Post # 10
@PuntaCanaBride: It’s such a disconnect. I feel great in it, but I have always been a “thinker” and not a “feeler” so I don’t know if I even trust myself to rely on that!
@pengoala: I might have bought the Badgleys thinking about how they’d look with this dress… It is refreshing to see “decisive” referring to me, too.
After I tried the dress on, I cried driving home because I wished my mom could see it. I didn’t feel that way about any of the other dresses, not even the ones I bought previously. Maybe my reply to PuntaCanaBride is the real problem — I need to trust myself!
Post # 11
you are a fox! 🙂 i love it on you! but then again i love them all on you! 🙂 i say if it makes you feel amazing go for it!
Post # 12
I agree- I love the first one in your other post- it is gorgeous!
Post # 13
Hi dear! I love this bodice on you, but I’m not feeling the skirt. I went back to your earlier post and prefer the last lace dress over all of them. Only you can make the decision…sorry this is such a struggle for you. * HUGS *
Post # 14
I love love LOVE this dress on you! I think it gives you the most gorgeous hourglass figure! I personally thing it looks much better than the dress you had posted previously. I think the third dress in your previous post didn’t show off your body as much as this! And I love that skirt too, I think it’s floaty and romantic without being overworked. I like the flower too, I think it’s fun!
And I can relate to 2 of your issues, loving dresses that are not what you expected, and being the “thinker” instead of the “feeler.” I majorly surprised myself dress shopping, I tried on a few dresses that were so far off from what I thought I wanted, but loved when I put them on, that it really took me aback! It took me a coupe days to swallow it and realize that sometimes what we think we want doesn’t look as good on as we expected, and it’s okay to have your ideas and vision change a bit as you dress shop! I had almost decided on a dress that was VERY far off between the classic princess beaded bodice dress I wanted, it was clean and much more simple and modern, but I still loved it! I wound up going for a dress I found later that was more of a happy medium, had some contemporary elements that I had liked in the runner up, but still with a princess feel to it.
And I knew going in to dress shopping that I would NOT be the girl to have that “say yes to the dress” moment. I’m actually a scientist and am super analtyical, so I knew I would have to think about it. Which was good because sometimes I thought about it and decided I wanted to keep looking, and I even had to think about it after I found my dress. I live out of town, and I knew it was enough of a possibility that I had them measure me before I left, so I could call in the order if necessary.
So I went home, and being me, I himmed and hawwed, loving the dress but afraid to make the decision! I was like 99% sure it was the one, but was so scared to decide wrong I was making it terrible on myself! And a “unhappy” surprise actually worked in my favor- we found out the dress was getting discontinued at the end of the month, so if I wanted it I really needed to place the order that week. That pulled the trigger for me, and made me realize that I did love and want this dress!
So don’t beat yourself up that it doesn’t match what you envisioned yourself in. The important thing is that you FEEL wonderful in it! Like I said, I love this dress on you and prefer it to the others, but at the end of the day it only matters how you feel!
Post # 15
PS- see this thread if you want more confirmation that it’s okay to break what you thought you wanted!
What you thought you wanted vs. what you got?
Post # 16
@Amaryllis: I love it on you. It looks so whimsical and very bridal (obvious point I know, but I hope you know what I mean). I can see what you mean by it being a bit long on you but this will be fixed with alterations. The flowers aren’t attacking you it just makes it more whimsical. In terms of it not being what you originally wanted, I think it happens this way and is often for the best. The dress seems to LOVE YOU back 😉