(Closed) What do you think? Separated Guests

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2413 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I would have err’d on the side of caution and invited her with her husband….that being said, if I had verbal confirmation that a friend was separated, I would invite her with a guest and not name the husband specifically because the last thing I would want was to add insult to injury and make the situation more difficult by inviting her as a “single.”

Post # 4
4192 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I agree- whoever sent out the invites should, as awkward as it would have been, should have either called Jane, or sent the invites to both names. She could have RSVP’d just for one person, without anyone’s feelings being hurt.

Post # 5
273 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I had a similar situation with a good friend – for the STD, I just included her husbands name.  In the months after that, I had a separate conversation with my friend that was separated and she said she understood it was difficult and said she probably wouldn’t be bringing a date, but I still just added an ‘and guest’ instead of inviting the husband specifically.  


Post # 7
1271 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I actually can see why the bride did it.  Friend is separated, so may not want to come with husband.  But a Plus 1 for someone separated seems so unnecessary and awkward.  I would just invite the friend in that situation.

Post # 9
894 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I had this situation with two of my cousins – there is talk in the family that they both live seperate lives from their husbands. I know Facebook isn’t the rulebook for the world but, one of my cousins is still listed with her husbands last name so I sent her invitation to Mr. & Mrs. XYZ. The other cousin is now on FB with her maiden name so I sent it to her and a guest. If FB weren’t around I would have either asked a family member how to send it or sent it to the both of them just to be safe.

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