Post # 1
Ok. Waiting bees can probably relate:
So tons and tons of people have been and keep telling me “Why rush?” “Enjoy what you have now!” “Have fun being boyfriend and girlfriend” “You’re still young!” “Once you’re engaged, everything is go-go-go!” “Relax and have fun not being married” ….or some variations of crap like that. HAHA.
Sooo.. it got me thinking, once I finally do get engaged, I wonder if there will be anything in the BF/GF relationship that I really will miss. Perhaps the “carefree” type relaxed attitude? Not getting pestered about when we are going to have kids (yet)? Not having in-laws (yet lol)?
Married/engaged bees, what aspects of your previous status as BF/GF do you miss, if anything? Waiting bees, do you think there is anything that you might miss? If so, do you think we should all try to “cherish” these types of things before the “craziness” of being engaged/married starts?
Post # 3
Honestly, my life didn’t change at all aside from a sparkly ring on my finger and fun wedding planning. I still do all the same thing I used to do and have the same relationships.
Post # 4
the excitement of waiting for “the ring”!
Post # 5
@Dell79: Interesting you say that. I often wonder if I would ever possibly suffer from baby blues after I have kids. The excitement and anticipation of a new baby felt during the pregnancy would be gone or “over with” as soon as the child is born. Also when people spend years obtaining college degrees, and right after graduation, think “Ok, now what?” Lol. So I can definitely see how the removed ring anticipation could be that way!
How exactly should I “cherish” this though? 😉 Well, the whole concept of getting a shiny ring is definitely exciting, so I will try to remain excited about it (instead of frustrated that it hasn’t happened yet).
Post # 6
ive never had to get super involved with his family in these 4.5 years, we are cordial with eachother but i feel now that i will have to incorporate them more now, and have to get to know my Future Mother-In-Law better. and i kinda feel indifferent about it, i know thats a little harsh to say.
english is their 2nd language so that adds another factor into my stress level, understanding them isnt always easy.
Post # 7
Only thing that changed was more stress from wedding planning / looking for a house and feeling more like an adult lol
Post # 8
My life didn’t really change all that much when we got engaged. We were already living together, so that didn’t change. The only thing that really changed was adding the stressful wedding planning to the mix. Don’t get me wrong, I can’t wait to be Mrs. G., but I am so ready for us to be able to go back to being carefree and happy and not having to worry about what we’re serving people, where they’re setting or who’s paying for what. <3
Post # 9
Life didn’t change much after getting engaged…. Except the planning drama.
Post # 10
Nothing has really changed other than our lives being consumed by wedding planning. I think we need more date nights!
Post # 11
hmmm…. I cant really think of anything id be missing. I’ve lived with him for over a year! I think I wont miss having to plan the wedding.. that will be so stressful unforunately..
and also having to bond more with his parents.. his parents and i get along well – especially his mom – but there still isnt that super strong bond that i’ve always dreamed of with my in-laws. oh well.. still plenty of time to develop that 😛
Post # 12
I don’t think I’ll miss anything but I do try to cherish our relationship the way it is now but it’s hard when waiting gets frustrating. There’s a lot more things I look forward to.
Post # 13
I won’t miss a thing. I can’t imagine anything changing since we already have a joint checking acct., live together, etc. Getting married just seals the deal.
Post # 14
Nothing really changed after I got engaged, and now that I am married still not much has changed. 🙂
Post # 15
I’ll probably miss spending my money without thinking much about saving for a wedding? haha
I WONT miss the waiting….
I can’t wait!!!!!
Post # 16
Once your engaged family seems to think that now they are able to be up in your relationship all the time. Uggh.