(Closed) What do you think you will miss once you’re engaged?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I don’t miss anything, because marriage didn’t “end” anything for us. We still go on tons of adventures (just backpacked through Asia/New Zealand for 8 months), we are still dreaming and planning and moving forward. If someone’s relationship goes from lighthearted and fun to mortgage+baby+”we’re living here for the rest of our lives and only doing 2 week vacations in the Carribean”, then yes, I can understand feeling like you’ve lost something!

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Nothing really changed between being a Girlfriend, being engaged, and being married. Neither of us really wants to “settle down” and have a house and a kid, maybe ever.

Post # 19
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

I don’t miss anything! One of his roommates asked shortly after we were engaged- “does it feel different?” And I realized a couple of days later that is does- it feels settled. There are other parts of my life that are up in the air (currently unemployed), but this is done. I know he’s going to be my life partner- I feel like we’re even more of a team now, and it’s a pretty amazing feeling. 🙂

Post # 20
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t think too much has changed since we got engaged. Granted we lived together beforehand, so we already had an established routine and used to each others habits.

I do remember thinking the next day after he proposed while looking at my ring “wow, you’ve really gone and done it, you’re a full fledged woman now.” LOL  I don’t know why I thought that, but I guess it felt like I had finally reached “woman” status after being a tomboy for most of my adolescence and always a late bloomer.  Tongue Out

Post # 21
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My boyfriend and I are very close to getting engaged and I already feel like things are go-go-go but I’m enjoying every minute of it. At first I was in a hurry to get the ring made and announce to everyone what we are planning but now I’m loving this exciting time in our lives that is pretty much between just him and I. We’ll never get this time back again where it’s like we are in a dream and I’ll miss that for sure. I think I’ll also miss calling him boyfriend. I almost use it interchangibly as a pet name for him. But then again I’m sure I can get used to calling him hubby bubby (or something like that fairly quickly).

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Ooh I’m really excited about this thread. Love everyone’s input!!

Post # 23
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Newbee

I don’t think there’s anything that I’ll miss. It just seems to me like I’ll feel more connected to him because we spend so many days apart now whereas we’ll be moving in together once we get engaged. Also, I think I’ll feel more like an adult – calling him my boyfriend has bothered me the entire time we’ve been together because we have a mature, adult relationship but we refer to each other as if we’re still kids. I hate that and call him “my man” all the time now, would much prefer to call him “fiance” instead.

Post # 24
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Nothing’s changed for me except I’m not worried about if we will get married anymore, because now I know

Although, we’re not in crunch time for planning yet, so I imagine that could make it a bit different, but it’s only temporary

Post # 25
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Nothing really changed for me. FH and I just kind of, fell into being engaged. We’d talked about it a good bit, it happened and that was that. I guess the biggest changes have been the shiny ring, the fact that we’re going to be living together now (he wanted to wait until we got engaged) and his family has really taken me in. The not so great parts are my parents and grandparents not being thrilled with the idea of me being engaged and the constant nagging of when are we going to get married and when we plan on having children.

So, I guess I miss the lack of nagging, but I don’t think I’ll miss anything else!

Post # 26
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

spending money!! now I feel so guilty if I spend money, hahaha. 

also getting to plan in secret.  now that I can tell people my plans, they all have opinions and want to change things…

Post # 27
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2010

I think people say this more to remind you to enjoy the present and not focus so much on a “goal” of engagement or marriage. Enjoy every moment! I have always enjoyed my relationship with my husband in whatever moment it was, and never considered myself waiting. I do not think engagement or marriage “changed” our relationship (though certainly we are always growing as individuals and a couple and that will never end for us!), nor do I miss anything as we have all that and more (we have always been connected, bit there certainly was something “more” that came with entering into marriage together that is difficult for me to put words on it!), but I  can look back fondly on our dating time as an exciting, interesting and fun experience without remembering it as a time of waiting for “the next step”.  I do feel more and more blessed to have my husband in my life all the time, but I felt that way while dating and engaged too!

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