What do you want to accomplish before TTC?

posted 3 years ago in TTC
Post # 16
Member
371 posts
Helper bee

Little_Nut88 :  I’ve been seeing a counsellor too, and I can’t recommend it enough. It has helped me tremendously. Before counselling, I used to be stressed out and worried most of the time without even realizing it. I guess I will always be prone to anxiety, it’s part of my nature, but now I’m soooo much more in control of my emotions. 

I’ve also been reading up on the law of attraction, positive mental attitude and wishful thinking. Somehow it helps me stay focused on the present and enjoy my life as it is now.

Speaking of which – I’m sending lots of positive energy your way. I hope your husband has a full recovery soon and I wish you a happy TTC process. 🙂 

   

Post # 17
Member
692 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I already have a 15 month old, but my plans before TTC #2 are:

-finish unpacking (we moved into this house 3 weeks before Dear Daughter arrived!  All that’s left is mostly my craft stuff, which leads to…)

-set up my craft room/studio!

-take at least 1 day trip as a couple without Dear Daughter, preferably where I can ride a roller coaster (missed them the last 2 summers, first pregnant, then tiny baby)

-transistion Dear Daughter to her own room (we still room share, and I don’t want to get pregnant before moving her b/c I don’t want her to feel like she’s being kicked out for the new baby)

-it’d be great if Dear Daughter started showing interest in potty training.  We cloth diaper so I’d like to not have to double my stash/start washing every day.  But that’s not a requirement b/c I know a lot of newly-trained kids regress when a new baby shows up.

Post # 18
Member
264 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Buy a house is the last thing on my list to check off.

 

Post # 19
Member
2627 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

andielle :  I’d like to run a marathon and pay off my Credit Card. Both should be achievable by this time next year. Eep!

Post # 20
Member
3305 posts
Sugar bee

First thing was to get married – which we did! Now I need to get off my medication and Darling Husband needs to quit smoking, then we  can TTC! I’d love to work on my fitness too but can’t yet as I’m recovering from surgery right now, kinda frustrating.

Post # 21
Member
1555 posts
Bumble bee

More travel! I would also love a year or so just with my husband to enjoy each other – wedding is next year. I would also like to have more savings as we just unloaded a chunk on our home. 

Post # 22
Member
1108 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

framarianna :  Thanks so much for your reply – it’s helpful to hear that it works! Good luck to you too for future TTC!

Post # 23
Member
308 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

We have done a lot of travelling together, but also solo and have both lived abroad so although we are always greedy for travel, we also feel accomplished in that sense. One of the things we wanted to do before ttc was to buy a house, which we did and moved into a few months ago. Now that we have a house, I wanna enjoy it in all its seasons, have bbqs and cold beer outside, and just spend time furnishing and decorating it. Basically, even when a thing is ticked off our list, there’s always something else that is added to it that pushes off our ttc time frame. 

We have quite a big student loan debt, but it’s manageable. Plus if we were to wait to pay it off before having kids we’d wait till we are 50! Especially considering we wanna enjoy our child-free time as much as possible which requires money. 

While we both feel the desire to have kids and often times we want them “now”, we also both voiced out that we wish we could wait another ten years without problems (we are thirty now). Some of the smaller things we have on the list now are: 

– enjoy this next summer and go on as many patios as possible

– see more plays and go to the cinema more often

– take a road trip tbrought US

– do more activities with friends, have more girls nights 

– eat tons of sushi 

– go to the spa 

– have our yearly cottage trip with friends 

– exercise and take care of my body 

– manage anxiety 

 

Post # 24
Member
1936 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I guess I feel pretty lucky in that I’ve done most of what I wanted to (travel, education, etc.), but I’m also much older (30).

All that’s left for me, personally, is to:

1. Buy a house (which includes improving credit – no debt, though)

2. Finish the last few courses in my second degree.

3. Go to Paris (it’s our honeymoon, but we’re having a delayed honeymoon because I want a grand trip)

4. Get in optimal health (I’d like to lose about 15 pounds and learn to develop my strength. I’m fit from a CV perspective, but weak as a kitten)

Post # 25
Member
81 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I had lots of plans of what we were gonna do beforehand.

Given we do have our own house, we are in a good financial state and our student loans are paid off.

We wanted to travel to a few different places before we had a baby, and I wanted to get a full time teaching job.

However, now we are pregnant and I think it just goes to show that plans can change and sometimes the thing you are not planning for can be a blessing.

If I had truly waited until I had a full time teaching job and had gone all the places I wanted to go before hand, I probably would’ve been well into my 30’s (I’m 25 now). Now instead of going just the two of us, we’ll have another family member to come along. 🙂 And while I’m on maternity leave I’m still gaining seniority for teaching.

“Life is what happens when you are busy making other plans”

Post # 26
Member
84 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

We only decided a couple of days ago that we would TTC in a couple of years. I have PCOS so we want to start trying sooner in case it takes us a while or if we need help. I’m not confident we’ll be able to tick off everything on the list though which is a terrifying idea. 

– pay off credit card and student overdrafts (will be done in June)

– save for deposit to buy plot of land 

– build our own house and other house to let out for self catering holidays

– go to Iceland for our belated honeymoon to hopefully see the northern lights

– run a half marathon (can’t even run a 5k yet!)

 

Post # 27
Member
924 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

My grandma used to say that if everyone waited until they were completely ready for kids, no one would have them. 😛

We’re getting married in October, so we’re planning on having 2-3 years of “us time” while I work on my career, pay off debt, and we hopefully save up for a house (or at least a nice, roomy rental). I’m about to turn 28, so we have a little time before it’s do-or-die. 

Post # 28
Member
916 posts
Busy bee

I will be turning 32 years old a week after our wedding. My fiance is 2 years younger. We plan on waiting about a year. I know he would like to wait longer but I have PCOS and want to start sooner than later. 

Ideally I would like us to have a single family home. We currently live in a townhouse.

I would like for us to have at least 1 major trip to Europe or Asia

Pay off more debt

But I will play it by ear. My older sister is currently pregnant so I know once my new neice or nephew arrives I will have serious baby fever!

 

Leave a comment


Find Amazing Vendors